Wednesday, February 14, 2018

Weight 117.6, calories 1815. Most calories were from the dinner dance but we did dance a lot so there was exercise involved.

Good discussions yesterday. I was feeling a little sad when DH and I danced to a couple of our favorite slow songs last night. I was thinking about the fact that our days of doing this are numbered. I think sometimes I am starting to grieve how he is changing already.

Speaking of which I bought DH more of that fudge yesterday in his own box (with a separate box for SIL, which she will let me have a taste of). I don't think DH remembers what Valentine's Day is. He asked me a couple of days ago when my birthday was (he was always the one *****membered dates and wanted to celebrate).

Anyway, time to have more coffee then walk. Have a valiant Valentines Day. Love you all!

Valentines to all! I have a "late" work out at 6am since I don't go into work today. Hope to studio yoga if I can find a class that meets my scheduling needs.

Later today, I will be imprisoned at home as I wait for an appliance arrival/installation. That has been a major project over the last couple of months and I hope it finally resolves today.

Paula, enjoy the cookies with your sweetie. Extra hugs to all that are missing someone today. Devon, I seriously enjoyed your bowl/fork exchange with Ron.

Peace, Hope and Love,

Shel

Weight: 190.2 HOpe this is short term uptick. That puts me over my total goal!!

I went back to reread yesterday and I am struck by the level of self-care each and every one of you has invested in yourself. It's awe-inspiring. And probably the biggest key to our ultimate health, including weight. Do you think having surgery/being thinner/being the type of person who invests in surgery to be healthy has flowed into other aspects of self-care?

First I want to say Ann-I have no idea what you are experiencing. And even if we had similar situations, I would guess I still could not say I know how you're feeling. I think you said previously that you had to learn to grieve or something to that effect. There may be good days followed by challenging ones. Be kind to yourself. Let yourself feel it (to the extent healthy). The closest person I have lost is my grandfather. But I have been extremely close to my grandparents. Still to this day I have breakfast with my grandmother nearly every morning. Our school bus let off at their house and I stayed with them each afternoon. I looked up to my granddad in a way I think stubborn teens have a hard time doing with their parents. He passed away 4 days after my VSG. It was a nightmare in so many ways. I remember literally feeling exhausted by the grief of it. And on rare occasions, I still do. Of course most of the time I think about him now it's entirely fond memories. It's hard to believe the things he's missed. I'm so thankful to have known him so well that it's like he's there. He never got to know me lose weight, or go to law school (which he REALLY advocated for). He never got to meet my husband and I know they would've hit it off--they are both oil men. He's missed too many elections to count now. But then something remarkable will happen like the other day when my husband said (and I've never heard him say this before) "hasta luego". And I just KNEW my granddad slipped through for a moment.

Anyway, my point is that this experience is going to be unique for you and please don't feel the need to be "better" by some arbitrary time for someone else.

Greetings Fine Ones

Well I am in the throes of colonoscopy prep. And only down a half pound because of it. Drat. Not much to say at this point. Peace and joy to all. DianeS

I took my good friend to get hers and was waiting for her to come out of the anesthesia across from another man and his friend in the same situation. When my friend woke up she didn't make a lot of sense. When the guy across woke up he asked his friend, "Did they find my head up there?" I thought that guy would be fun to know!

LOL Cecily, I was reading in some on line tips for getting through the process and one said to write a message to your doctor on your butt cheek! DS

Ha! You should! Makes me think of that Seinfeld episode where Kramer says, "Have you ever met a proctologist? They usually have a very good sense of humor. You meet a proctologist at a party, don't walk away. Plant yourself there because you will hear the funniest stories you've ever heard. See, no one wants to admit to them that they stuck something up there. Never. It's always an accident. Every proctologist story ends in the same way... 'It was a million to one shot, doc, million to one.' "

Had a friend custom made a bumper sticker before open heart surgery. They had the nurses put it in a sterile bag and lay across his chest. It was the first thing the surgeon saw when he came in to open. The bumper sticker said the way to a man s heart is to reach in and rip it out. The doctor put it on his car.

Priceless!!!!!