Tuesday December 19, 2017

It sounds like you came up with the perfect solution!

Might also check the heat vent. When the heater is not running there should be no cold air coming into the room. If cold air is coming in the ductwork may be loose.

I need to be slapped upside the head. I'm feeling sorry for myself today. Hashtag firstworldproblems

80 days until my due date. And no one has offered to throw me a shower. In fact, crickets.

I know I know. 80 days. I know I know. The holidays are really busy.

But I'll be 30 weeks by New Year's. And it's recommended that you have your shower before your last month of pregnancy because a) you could go in to labor early and b) you need time to get what you didn't receive.

That means February 9/10 or before. Add time for sending out invitations and allowing time to rsvp and it really begins to make me wonder.

Not that any of this is truly important. It just hurts that no one wants to do it. At least it feels that way. I've hosted numerous showers and I ask, almost as impulse, the moment I hear good news. I'm sure I'll have one, but the later it gets the more I wonder if it's out of a sense of obligation or pity :(

In my mahjong group I've hosted showers for 2 of the girls (between 4 of us). We got together Sunday. Not a word.

Any chance that someone is planning a surprise one? My first (and only) shower was a surprise until about an hour before when my mother asked me if I was planning on wearing what I had on to go to my friends and suggested that I wear something nicer (LOL).

If not, the approaching holidays may be in the way of planning.

A little something I've had to remind myself of occasionally!

I am glad that I hosted others' showers, even if they don't step up for me. But it makes me wonder how much my friends care about me. It's the thought that counts. And so far, no one has thought (as far as I know).

I know, sweetie! You seem to be a natural care giver. Often those of us who nurture don't get what we need. We seem to others to be so self sufficient, it doesn't occur to them that our needs and emotions are as important and as fragile as theirs.

This is a nagging issue for you and one over which you really should not have to be concerned. Be open with your mother and your sister. Let them know you NEED this. It is important to you. If your sis can't step up, she should at least take on the responsibility of finding someone to host. This is important to you. Politely, but firmly, let your most well behaved inner ***** loose on them. You know the one that means business and scares the **** out of people without saying an unkind or vicious word. You know exactly what I mean, don't you?

We recently had a school bridal shower for one of the young teachers at a restaurant in a small banquet room. Everyone chipped in for the catering and it was a no host bar (cash and carry). I did not go, but the ladies reported that it was a really great way to have the shower when everyone was so busy. It was still very festive, they played the appropriate games, etc... it just wasn't at someone's home and no one person was responsible for the food and drink and cleaning and preparation.

Hugs!

Yes! One of my favorite showers was for a co-worker and we all met at the Melting Pot for fondue. Each chipped in to pay for the guest of honor's meal and each brought a present (or did we go in on a big gift?) either way, it was a fun outing and not a lot of work of anyone!

Entertaining and throwing parties seems to be becoming a lost art these days. People like to go to them, but the number of people throwing them (at least in my circles) has dwindled! I blame life stresses. I bet they all assume they are going to your shower and are looking forward to it, and it just hasn't clicked yet that to go, someone has to throw...

And sometimes in life, if we are the ones known for something, like I imagine you are for entertaining and party planning, they are all used to you being the one to take charge and it hasn't occurred to them that their best planner is the one who can't plan this one.

If you can talk to your family, do. Better to have to plant the seed than lose out on the experience waiting for the seed to plant itself.

I do know how you feel though. I plan for friends and family's birthdays and no one plans for me usually. I chalk it up to it being too close to Christmas and people are celebrated out!

Greetings All

driving by today at 142.5. Down a pound. Leaving soon for a doctor apt and then gallery duty. I may check in later.

Glad Christmas is coming right along for all. Dave, sounds like you had a good day of playing "pass the baby". Nothing like a holiday baby to add to the fun. My niece (now 36) was born two weeks before Christmas and I had a nephew who was born on Christmas day (but he is now deceased).

Hey BB, my only wedding shower was a surprise one. So something may be in store.

Take care all. Diane S