Sunday, November 19, 2017

Weight: 133.8
Macros: Cals - 1,598, Carbs - 220, Fats - 45. Protein - 95, Fiber - 22
Veggies/Fruits (goal 8): 7
Sleep (goal 8 hrs.): 8 hrs.
Exercise: Nothing

Yesterday's 7 servings of V/Fs came from an apple, carrots, cherry tomatoes, bamboo shoots, broccoli, more carrots, and blueberries.

Yesterday was so restorative for hubby and me being home and taking it easy. We both felt much better in the afternoon than the morning. And last night I finally slept great. Good food and good sleep -- what a difference those basics of life can make, eh?

Liz, I know you're heading for Florida this morning, so safe travels to y'all. Also sending wishes for courage and resilience to everyone as we deal with the good, bad, and indifferent in our lives. I enjoy the holidays, but do find them stressful. I think we put ourselves under too much pressure.

Today will be about house cleaning, grocery shopping, and a little walk in town. BTW, I'm reading a couple of good books: "The Cuckoo's Calling" by Robert Galbraith (J.K. Rowling) and "Alexander Hamilton," the 1200-page biographical tome by Ron Chernow.

Today's theme: Invite peace.

Wow ! On top of what can be a challenge to make the next healthy maintenance choice, our family is advocating for compassionate and professional health care, navigating identity theft, addressing unwanted disclosures, journeying great distances ... Positive thoughts and energy to all.

I admit to my OCD nature.. next door neighbor and neighbor across the street mowed "one last time". Even though I "called one last time" last week, I moved again yesterday. I told myself it was great exercise, and an opportunity to run the fuel stabilizer through the engine for winter storage.

Yes, let's invite peace as we seek stability !

I read everyone's posts yesterday but cannot individually reply. Other than to say-what's wrong with people and identity theft?!! Especially since credit card companies are like "it's okay, we're paying, don't worry." First of all, you are NOT paying. We're all paying...eventually. The company isn't taking that loss!! And second of all, you know who this is (at least they did in our case!), why not punish them and hope they don't want to do it again?!! We had a friend whose work laptop was recently stolen and I was shocked the police followed up enough to know who it was...and then did nothing!!

Also, definitely a need for patient advocates. Insurance must be so frustrating. I think you ladies are doing an amazing job for your spouses and other family members, but the truth is, at the end of the day you need to be somewhat the patient too! You're going through this too! Not everything should be falling on your shoulders! Bless you all and I'm sorry you're experiencing this.

Weight: 173. Happy to see it stabilizing. I'll admit that yesterday I felt under a magnifying glass: were people watching me watiting to see when/if I'd gain back weight now that they knew? I guess it's not life's worst thing. And we do have photos out there (however these were most definitely stolen). And most haters gonna hate. I guess at this point I wish I'd been open about WLS...sorta. Idk. People are still ignorant. And sometimes I feel like I should help change the perception they have. And sometimes I feel like I can never change the world and the last safe discrimination. I would never intentionally engage in it myself, or befriend those who do (at least not without making them aware of the ignorance of their statements and giving them another chance, first) but I guess I just felt like I spent my entire life judged by these people and nothing will ever meet their standards, so why let them continue to steal my joy? Also, early out, I wasn't sure if I'd be successful. Would I even lose all the weight? Would I be a flop? Would I maintain? Today I still have those fears, though they are not as loud in my brain.

Then the whole inlaws/stepkids finding out this way. We're trying the approach of "oh yeah, didn't you know". Honestly maybe it's just the inlaws being here in general. Families are so different. My inlaws' schtick is a "joking" about everything that kind of feels mean-spirited. Ex: We encourage the kids to go with us to pick them up in our brand new pretty SUV and..."why would you bring everybody?" "Couldn't you get a car big enough" yada yada. Then they see our new floors and it's like "this is very nice, but did you run out of money and that's why you didn't do the study?" It's supposed to be funny haha but sometimes it just is exhausting.

BUT it's Thanksgiving week and I have so much to be thankful for. I was gifted with WLS many years ago. Not everyone had a great childhood, but I was able to change that trajectory for my life. And early! And it worked! And it still works! Hallelujah! I'm healthier and happier! And my stepkids have been growing closer and I have a baby on the way. Thankful Especially for this group, as well. You guys really are kind of like my morning coffee family.

It was your instinct to remain private....trust your instincts! And, it is MEDICAL! People do not have a right to medical history. But now that it is out, your casual approach of "didn't you know?" is perfect. That, perhaps, is the best WLS normalizer of all.

By the way, I hate that type of "humor," too. I see no humor. And yes, exhausting, to have to pretend all day.

People that joke as a means of communication are often using that as a coping technique. Like trying to focus the subject off of them somehow. It is very common for the forth child of an alcoholic to behave this way. My dad was a preacher, same family dynamics. I did not do it mean spirited but that was my behavior for years. Take the tension out of a situation with laughter. If you can view it as their personality trait and not a jab at you it might help.

That is so interesting! I love the alternative view -- I will ponder this as we head into Thanksgiving!

BB, I love, love, love your reaction to your medical info being revealed and your in-laws' "humor." You're so cool to be so cool. Yes, let it roll off your back. Grin and shrug and pass the dressing. :)

I LOVE the "oh, didn't you know?" approach! It takes the wind out of a gossip's sails.

Weight 168, calories 1348, average calories for the week 1488

It's a chilly 49 degree morning here in CA (don't laugh east coasters and Alaskans, that's cold for CA!). I have a 5.3 mile hike this morning with a Meetup hiking group. Should be nice. Coffee afterwards with three of my friends.

Otherwise yesterday was totally uneventful for a change. Yay!

Have to run and get ready, I hit the snooze alarm one too many times... Happy Sunday to all!

Where are you in CA?