Thursday, 10-26-17

I'm one of those darned 10 minutes early people

It stems from living out in the country as a kid and never really knowing how long it would take to get somewhere - at minimum 20 minutes to town, so we always left early just in case! I still think I need to leave 30 minutes early for something that may be only 5 minutes away!

I am not known to blow up or hold grudges. But.........when DD was just a few weeks old, I had a cut and color scheduled (so two appt's with 2 different people.) When I arrived, they told me that both people were sick but I was so lucky because some unknown person could cut my hair but she wouldn't have time to blow dry or style. I would have to reschedule the color. They didn't contact me to give me a heads up because they had it handled.

I had a visceral reaction to this news. It was So Hard to organize those appts.....breast feeding, storing milk, getting DH's agreement to allow me to go (he was in the worst of his depression)

Plus, I hadn't colored my hair since pregnant. I was lactating with icky hair for Gods Sake! And I didn't want to walk around the mall with wet hair. (!!!!)

I wasn't loud so technically didn't cause a public scene. But, I let them know exactly why I was upset (no, their solution wasn't fabulous)

I returned to that salon just a couple of months ago --- almost 17 years later. Just for color, tho. They aren't my one and only.

I am 10 minutes late to social functions, nothing else. My very structured DH literally wants to be 10 min early. I can't convince him that is rude. The word "scheduler" is literally in his job description so I guess he can't help himself.

Idk why but it just really really affected me. It was definitely a case of "straw that broke the camel's back." 30 minutes late, especially given that she texted she'd be 15 minutes late, shouldn't have been that big of a deal. But in the moment it felt soooo inconsiderate of my life and time, especially on a busiest of weeks! I can't imagine how I might've reacted in your situation! But I did text her an apology and she admitted she needed to work on her timing. So at least that's somewhat resolved.

My goal for social functions is 5-10 minutes late, any more and I feel rudely late. But it's a funny thing--maybe they do think I'm being rude then (even though this is my preference!). My husband gets very panicked at the idea of being late. Even though I've told him that I feel 5 minutes is ideal!

BB, I'm so with you on all your interpretations of what's polite / appropriate / sane in terms of timeliness and appropriate lateness to dinner parties.

And for the record, I'd very likely have had the same hissy fit you did if my hairdresser were 30 minutes late. And I don't even have the excuse of being hormonally sensitive!

I've felt pretty po'ed when left waiting a long time too but usually I don't say anything. Last night someone said they left a bill for their doctor when they had to wait a long time. I like that idea!

i like to be right on time or a bit late for a social occasion when the start time is in a range. DH used to always be 1/2 hour late when I first met him which drove me crazy (he got better over the years). DD is always late. DS is always on time or early.

It is okay to be late as a guest. But if you are providing a service it is so uncool to be consistently late. I have changed doctors because of this. My psych doctor has a sign in the lobby saying if you have to wait more than 5 minutes after your appointment time he wants to know. I have never waited on him.

Greetings Maintenance Masters

139.5 and flirting with 139. Shows what a couple of days without junk food can do. Hope I can keep it up.

Can't wait to hear about the OH conference Liz. And I want to know what they have to eat!

Ann glad the medical stuff is moving along. Sounds like you are approaching it head on which is good and kind of relates to Dave's remarks about dread. Better to just move forward than to waste time with fear and dread. I tend to put off troublesome things and then realize they are not as bad as I feared. But you are a mover and a shaker so you will get through whatever life tosses at you. Ditto Paula. Yikes, makes me dizzy to know all that you do. Hope DH gets over this recent surgery soon.

BB I remember that chronic lateness is a sign of disrespect for others. Not everyone i*****tual at all times but I don't blame you for being upset with your hairdresser. Everyone is so busy these days that we need to rely on scheduling and not get blasted off track by someone being inconsiderate. Causes issues in the eating department too. And I agree, as a host the worst thing is early guests! I sometimes get to appointments and such early (as old people often do) but not to social stuff.

Well those are my opinions for the day. I have no lack of them.

Dave, must feel great to have that window done. I am sadly un-handy and can't imagine such a project.

What a great recipe Ocean Diane. I have been dreaming of portobellos lately but DH doesn't care for mushrooms. I guess I could give him eggs and have the mushrooms for myself!

Well off to the bank and to face the day, but first .....

Diane S

I made it to CA! I'm sitting by the pool for a bit then I'm going to meander to the waterfront to grab something for dinner. I'm hoping to hold out til 5 to eat. The time zone change is tough on eating schedules.

I would think you would be kind of handy in the art you create. It is the same. I had a wall, I created a hole the size of a window.

Hi all!

Weight is stable. Not feeling 100% today. This cluster of headaches I have had since the beginning of October is beginning to wear on me. I woke up with a headache, but didn't medicate. Today I took the class on a day long field trip. Mid morning I knew I wasn't going to be able to make it without medication. Unfortunately, I left my Advil and Tylenol at home. (To be honest, Advil & Motrin works best on my headaches, so I do take it, but with food.) I did have Dayquil gelcaps in my bag, so I took two and that has helped. Thank goodness!

Must reduce the sugar intake. END OF SUBJECT! Must pick a day, publicly announce it and stick to it. Gonna need a little support. LOL! The funny thing is I don't need sugar. I feel better off of it, but it is the weirdest thing to feel "afraid" to go "No Sugar"..... Why? Wish I had an answer.

Enjoy the OHCon Liz!

Great news Ann and Paula re: hubbies!

Dave - to have the luxury of putting off what I don't want to do would be a dream come true! LOL! That gift, I'm afraid though, has been the bane of Ron's existence! Come back to bite him in the ass more times than I can count!

Joey - relax, breathe, check in with yourself. Remember, weight is not static. We have ups and downs - some are more than others. I look at your life and what you have had to endure for the past year and am grateful that I have the problems I have. Considering what you have had to traverse this year, I think you are doing incredibly well!

5-10 minutes late is polite when going to someone's home, with 10 being the ideal number of minutes behind one's time (or so used to say Miss Manners).