VSG Maintenance Group
Tuesday September 5
Weight 116, calories 981. We did go to the beach yesterday as planned but it was WINDY. I think the weather will be warm today so perhaps DH will go to the pond and/or walk the dogs.
Back to work on a full-time schedule this week (but with 3 long and 2 short days as negotiated earlier this year). I do need to got into the office tomorrow and Thursday so I will be posting later in the day. It will be good to focus on project work over the next couple of days and not reorganizations (though hopefully that becomes clear within the next couple of weeks for everyone's sake at work).
Have a Totally great Tuesday!
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
Good Morning Friends !
Disclaimer... my cracked Surface is getting quite cranky, refusing to let me "like" any of yesterday's posts. Just so you know, reading your posts with my first cup of coffee, right after tracking weight on MFP, is a treasured routine I LOVE, not like.
Yesterday was my first Labor Day as a retired woman! It was warm and sunny, but very windy. We ran to Lowe's for some wood for bookshelves for the basement family room, so I can get final boxes sorted out. We found the red, white and blue Rose of Sharon bushes we have been looking for, newly arrived and full / healthy, and brought two home. We spent much of the day removing an unhealthy sand cherry bush, and preparing the holes for planting, which we did.
I'll take pictures to post, but I have a beautiful sun/ moon metal sculpture on east fence, diagonally across from Buddha, who faces east. I'm eager to begin some morning meditation and yoga in this centering serenity zone. Ann, I loved your post about how your energy and passion for your career shifted to balancing your life when you retired. You inspired me to recommit my focus.
Still at the low end of my range, and pleased that sharing that is almost an afterthought... no longer the sole focus of my post. That made me way too obsessive, in an unhealthy way.
Positive thoughts to all of you who have to go to work today and to those who work at what comes next.
Diane
Age: 64; 5' 5"; High weight: 345; Start weight: 271 (01/05/15); Surgery weight: 218 (05/27/15); Pre-Op (-53); M 1 (-18); M 2 (-1.5); M 3 (-13.5 ); M 4 (-13); M 5 (- 8); M 6 (-12) M 7 (-5, Xmas); M 8 (- 9) Under surgeon's goal and REACHED HEALTHY BMI 12/07/15!! (Six months and one week.) AT GOAL month 8. Maintaining at goal range (139- 144) ~ four (4) years !!
I love the end-of-season rusty-looking hydrangea blossoms. They're a little more precious because they're the last ones. :)
ANN 5'5", AGE 74, HW 235.6 (BMI 39.2), SW 216, GW 150, CW 132, BMI 22
POUNDS LOST: Pre-op -20, M1 -10, M2 -11, M3 -10, M4 -10, M5 -7, M6 -5, M7 -6, M8 -4, M9 -4,
NEXT 10 MOS. -12, TOTAL -100 LBS.
142.4. Some flying food yesterday, today will be better.
Lots of stress with DS#1 again. It is time for him to move out which he is not ready for. Hurts a mama's heart to kick her baby out of the nest but hurts him more to keep him in. Hopefully he can come up with a plan for sustaining himself in the next month. Unfortunately, he burned through all of the graduation money he was given and all of the money he earned working at summer camp, probably a total of $2,500 - gone! We are not helping him by picking up the pieces of his poor decisions again and again and not holding him accountable, but man it is hard to watch your kid crash and burn!
Work today.
Diane, I could use some time in your serenity garden or time on Liz's beaches or time hiking Shel's mountains or time snuggling with Devon's puppies!
5' 4" tall, HW: 242, SW:215.4 Weight Loss - pre-op: - 26.6, M1: -15.4, M2: -16, M3: -11.4, M4: -11.2, M5: -12.2, M6: -7.4, M7: -7.8, M8: -2.0 Goal of 130 lbs. reached at 8 months, 2 days post-op!
I know that feeling. And it sucks. Albeit, I have it a little more removed as a step mom. My step son continues to make horrible decisions, and blame it on us rather than seeing he has the power to change. And this mentality only puts him further behind. Unfortunately since he has divorced parents, his solution is to whine to his mom about us being the problem, and unfortunately she encourages it. Good grief, he'll be 24 this year and needs to start taking some responsibility!
He is back at home for the second time in a year--he moved to Colorado this time last year with no plan and never got a job. (after essentially failing out of college bc he didn't go to class) He moved back home in November, mad at the world and mad at us. Didn't get a job. Didn't fix his car that he supposedly came home to fix so he could sell and make it on his own. Left for Colorado a second time in April where he did get a job, but by June we'd received a call because we were his emergency contact and he hadn't shown up for work in a week!! After our initial panic, we found out he'd just decided to "quit" and clammed up and played video games instead. Now he came back home, did find a job, but is still blaming us for everything. And after everything, he now wants a loan for a motorcycle, although just yesterday he was talking about wanting to quit his new job (after 3 weeks).
I say all of this to let you know A) you're not alone, and B) I think you're 100% right about holding him accountable. It's tough, but I've seen my step son continue to repeat the exact same behaviors for nearly 6 years now!!!
I understand where his dad is coming from--he always wants his son to know he could come home and to know he would always have help. But there's definitely a fine line between help and subsidizing bad decisions. Which is the point I feel like we're at now: If I screw up, dad will just pay for/take care of everything. That's a wonderful comforting thing to know you have family ultimately. But in this situation unfortunately I think he uses this thinking to burn through money, quit jobs, quit school, etc. thinking there aren't any consequences because dad will ultimately fix it all.
Anyway, sorry for the vent! But we're going through this too and I'm sure especially as the parent it kills you to make these decisions but I hope you'll feel more certain about your decision from my experience as an onlooker.
