Sunday February 26

Paula, I'm betting that you and your family will find your way through this.  You have so many resources well suited to this particular passage.  And as you've already glimpsed, and based on hubby's and my experiences, the next few weeks will likely be overwhelming until he has a final diagnosis, an actual oncologist, has decided on a course of treatment and where he'll have it.  

Once you guys get to that point it may feel like a relief to know what he's supposed to do and then be able to just do it -- show up, deal with what comes next, do the next thing, etc.  

BTW, hubby was diagnosed with cancer only 2 months after my WLS.  Interestingly for me, his cancer diagnosis was a crash course for me in finally learning what I really can and can't control.  For example, any confusion I might have still had at that point about whether I could control what I was eating, drinking, etc. was immediately resolved.  Sounds odd, but it was a huge lesson about control for me to be confronted with something I really could not control.  

Because I was already in therapy when hubby was diagnosed, much of my session time shifted to "How can I handle this as effectively as possible?"  Because everything is about me, right?  Well, actually, in therapy sessions it is all about me.  ;)  

One of the most helpful, albeit ditzy-sounding, bits of guidance I got from my therapist during that time (aimed at The Control Freak That I Am) was "When you're on X's (hubby's) bus, you don't get to drive."  His point was that hubby is the one with cancer -- not me.  I get to support him in any ways I can.  But i don't get to make his decisions.  I don't get to be responsible for willing or making his cancer to go away ('cause cancer doesn't work that way).  And I don't get to be in the driver's seat about anything, period.  This is his bus, his cancer, his life.  I am but a passenger on this particular bus.  BTW, When I told hubby about my therapist's instructions, hubby grinned hugely and nodded.  ;)  

Not saying that's a perspective you need to take or that you'll choose to take.  Just sharing that it has been how I've approached my beloved's cancer diagnosis and ongoing treatments, changing prognoses, etc. and that it has worked well for both of us.  

I'm holding you in my thoughts and hoping for the best for you all.  

Thank you for that insight Ann. I'm a bit of a control freak, especially in the area of health care since that is what I do for a living, so getting a reminder that this isn't my bus it a good thing, thank you for that!

I hope you can work this out. You have your priorities in order and hopefully it will all work out. I had to leave work completely for a year when DD got sick and we ended up remortgaging the house to finance my lack of income and the 3 months we had to be in Miami for her surgery (I've usually been the primary earner in the family and was at that point). I never regretted doing what had to be done.

Prayers offered up for you and yours Paula. I imagine it must be hard to not feel completely overwhelmed. When I'm in situations like that, I find it helpful to just focus on one issue at a time. And interestingly I find that some things resolve themselves much easier than expected. Hope the same proves true for you too

Weight this morning: 135.2

Macronutrients yesterday:  Cals - 2,408, Carbs - 252, Fat - 84, Protein - 135, Sugar - 134, Fiber - 38

Veggies/fruits yesterday:  5 (goal is 5)

Exercise yesterday:  None

Plans for today:  Laundry, trimming butterfly bushes, crosswords with hubby, and Oscars Red Carpet Facebook gathering

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The party last night was such a blast.  Almost 20 people in their 40s to 70s - some we already knew and some we met for the first time.  Hubby and I both enjoyed the party, food and company so much. 

The food was standard Louisiana/Mardi Gras - jambalaya, lots of shrimp, slaw, praline pecans, king cake (with a tiny plastic baby Jesus inside), chocolate cake, and wine and spirits.  Hubby especially loved the food, since we don't cook that way at home.  ;) 

As y'all have already mentioned, tonight is Oscars Night.  I'll hang for a few hours with friends in a private FB group where we critique everyone's Red Carpet outfits.  It gets harsh!  ;)   

Sounds like a great party!

Sunday Funday!  

I don'****ch the Oscars but in recent years I haven't seen that many movies.  As impressed as I am with Roxie's firm commitment to exercise, I am more impressed with 70 movies (at least!) in a year.  Maybe I'll start working on seeing maybe 1-2 a month.  Lordy, I am pathetic!  It would be nice to have a non-body social hobby.  

123's today.  Dog washing must happen today.  I think I am going to roast an intact cauliflower head tonight....been meaning to try that forever.    Otherwise, the usual Sunday yoga and probably a walk which I assume will be in the rain.

Overfocusing on numbers:   Yesterday, I deliberately went for a walk without my Fitbit.  It was refreshing to just walk for enjoyment without worrying about step count. I think I'll continue the break for a while. 

So, Roxie and movies, no-Fitbit was inspired by DianeO, Today's lentil soup inspired by DianeS:  these are just a few of the forum inspirations that have worked their way into my life.   On my bucket list is Ann's Mardi Gras and hooting like Dave.  I could go on and on....

Hug your health tight!

Shel

Great inspirations!

I, too, stopped monitoring steps walked and calories burned. I realized that I didn't even like my Fitbit. It was a pain in the butt and frankly, it was far from accurate. I could increase my steps while sitting at my desk just fumbling around looking for a pen. I began to enjoy exercise for exercise's sake. It's good for me. It doesn't really do much for weight loss unless you start increasing muscle, which in turn revs metabolism up for each extra pound of muscle one gains. Exercise has a great many benefits for both mental and physical health, but IMO exercise is overrated as far as a weight loss tool. 

Got my scales back Wt 223 OTD.  Calories 1530.

not many steps yesterday but it was ok because I was visiting family.  Cold snap last night and woke with almost frozen water.  I have heat tape on it but one little spot I couldn't get covered.  No more freezing weather for at least a week. And we have a guest.  A mouse.  Chewed up a couple of q tips. Had to go to the store to get mousetraps.

Steps today.  Plan to locate the reason my ho****er heater is not coming on.  If I can only find my multimeter.  

More lare, David