VSG Maintenance Group

Tuesday, May 10th

ocean4dlm
on 5/10/16 11:10 am - Liverpool, NY
VSG on 05/27/15

Totally with you on the personal safe zone concept. We have the right and responsibility to protect ourselves from perceived or known challenges to our serenity and laser like focus, at least while we're working to figure it all out and/or come up with a better plan.

I have an appointment for a consultation with a therapist who specializes in CBT as it relates to disordered thinking, addictions and recovery from addictions, tomorrow night.  Time for a "booster shot" for me.  Throwing in some of the "stinkin thinkin" related to some co-dependency I see as I reflect on my relationship with Chuck.... it is time to revisit some old work and themes, from a new and evolving perspective.  Need to sharpen my onion peeling skills.

Age: 64; 5' 5"; High weight: 345; Start weight: 271 (01/05/15); Surgery weight: 218 (05/27/15); Pre-Op (-53); M 1 (-18); M 2 (-1.5); M 3 (-13.5 ); M 4 (-13); M 5 (- 8); M 6 (-12) M 7 (-5, Xmas); M 8 (- 9) Under surgeon's goal and REACHED HEALTHY BMI 12/07/15!! (Six months and one week.) AT GOAL month 8. Maintaining at goal range (139- 144) ~ four (4) years !!

Spencerella
on 5/10/16 11:22 am, edited 5/10/16 4:22 am - Calgary, Alberta, Canada
VSG on 10/15/12

Completely agree with your nutritionist on the role that sleep deprivation has played for you!  hopefully sleep will be better when puppies move out. 

Also like the personal safety zone stuff constantly changing and requiring reevaluation.  I think this not only applies to food choices but also to social events.  There are times we have the sanity to do them and there are times we don't.  We must learn to respect those times rather than knowingly acknowledge the high probability of not handling them well and doing them anyway.  I liken it to my husband's sobriety. If he was feeling triggered, it would not be appropriate for him to attend a liquor focused event. 

 

LINDA                 

Ht: 5'2" |  HW 225, BMI 41.2  |  CW 115, BMI 21.0

Shel25
on 5/10/16 12:01 pm

Thanks for your thoughts on social events and that it is ok to not attend. 

I still associate not attending events with isolating myself in the past because I wasn't comfortable enough in my own skin. Plus there was the stress of worrying of what I would/wouldn't eat but always knowing that I WOULD eat and that would be depressing, too.   That run-on sentence was a truncated version of what would whirl thru my head for days before the event. 

So, now I associate VSG-success with being able to attend anything.  I might eat or or might not eat.  I have control and this, so far has worked!

But, I am coming to realize that my ability to manage will ebb and flow, especially in maintenance where there are more choices. 

So real, long term VSG-success would include recognizing when I need to decline an event when I suspect that I am going to end up triggered long past the event itself. 

 

 

HW:361 SW:304 (VSG 12/04/2014)Mo 1:-32  Mo 2:-13.5  Mo 3: -13.5  Mo 4 -9.5  Mo 5: -15  Mo 6: -15  Mo 7: -13.5  Mo 8: -17  Mo 9: -13  Mo 10: -12.5  11/3/2015 Healthy BMI Reached Mo 11: -9  Mo 12: -8    12/27/2015 Goal Weight Reached!

(deactivated member)
on 5/10/16 12:50 pm

I made it to bed by midnight last night, which is an improvement. Pups were up at 5:30. I got up at about 5:45 to deal with them. 

Tonight my goal is to be in bed, lights out at 11:30. Going to do everything I know how to make that happen. Wish me luck! 

Problem is my natural rhythm is 12:30 - 8:00/9:00 am. I have to force the earlier times. 

 

Shel25
on 5/10/16 1:38 pm

Your natural rhythm is like my teenager's!

HW:361 SW:304 (VSG 12/04/2014)Mo 1:-32  Mo 2:-13.5  Mo 3: -13.5  Mo 4 -9.5  Mo 5: -15  Mo 6: -15  Mo 7: -13.5  Mo 8: -17  Mo 9: -13  Mo 10: -12.5  11/3/2015 Healthy BMI Reached Mo 11: -9  Mo 12: -8    12/27/2015 Goal Weight Reached!

(deactivated member)
on 5/10/16 2:12 pm

I think it was also reinforced from doing theater and working nights for so many years in my teens and 20s.

 

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