Need to vent and not about my weight, it's about ANGER

I'll make my long story short. I live in a Utopia of like minded people who want to raise their kids in a healthy environment, no GMOs, no pesticides, etc. There are about 200 children under 6 in our small community population about at 1000, not latinos, but Europeans and Canadians mostly. 

Anyways, I have 5 yr old twins and during a summer camp there was some very INNOCENT, kissing and touching going on. I have been a mom for 20 yrs and I understand that these things happen to almost everyone, but there is one guy who is new to our town and he is from New York, so he has that big city attitude. His daughter was at the camp and playing the "kissing game" too, but now he has threatened to "bankrupt all parents of all children involved" which doesn't really get to me, cause he can't bankrupt me on his best day....but

He sent a letter out to our whole community saying my 5 year old son was a "sexual predator" and that my daughter was his victim as well as the victim of some other boys. He went into explicit detail of what he believes happened to my daughter and what role my son played in it. Even though I know his "facts" are not the truth, and my kids are honest and told me what happened, the thought that this a-hole could publicly slander a group of 4 and 5 yr olds (about 10 of them) OUTRAGES ME. Oh, and it is ILLEGAL. My husband has forbidden me to speak about it to anyone in our town, just in case we decide to sue him.

I am so upset about it that I can't eat and when I do I puke blood or have immediate diarrhea.

My husband who has not had weight loss surgery, has lost 12 lbs this week, that is how upsetting this is.

I am trying my best not to turn to food and instead use Jillian's Michaels advice to have a tantrum at home and break **** to get my anger out. Well I am still ******g mad, and this is the only place I can speak freely. 

I really needed to get that off my chest. Sometimes life throws you a curve ball, and homicide is not an option, so you need a plan on how to handle it, and I think I have dropped the ball on that one.

Heather

Oh my god, Heather, that's AWFUL!  Definitely get a lawyer!  If anyone's a predator, it's him for slandering your young children like that.  That is REALLY UNBELIEVABLE.   If he were mature and not ruled by reactivity, he would have reached out to you first and tried to get to the truth without hurting your kids.  His reaction seems like he just wanted to hurt somebody based on what his kid perceived.  I'm so sorry you're going through this! 

I hope you're able to keep some food down today.  Now's the time to be well nourished so you can respond well to whatever that guy throws your way.  I'm sending you some good vibes from where I am.

Fiona 

Thanks FIona!

I'm SO sorry you are going through this. Messing with little kids like that makes that father a monster, imo. I remember when my SIL first became a teacher at a K-* school. She was on lunch duty and there was a group of Kindergarteners in a circle. She went to find out what was going on. Turns out one of the kids had an erection and he decided to show it to everyone. Being curious about those things is pretty normal at that age. Sucks that other father doesn't understand.

As far as anger is concerned, I completely understand. I'm dealing with it right now, too, for my own reasons. I've turned back to food and I'm not happy about it. I fell like I've given into my issues and let them have control over me, which just makes me more pissed. I can't really talk about my issue either, so, I'm bottling all up inside just like I did as a fatty. Sucks.

I think the first thing you need to do is sit down and tell your children (if you haven't already) that THEY are the normal kids. That father is the one with the problems - NOT your boys. Tell them that it's too bad that the other father is choosing to act crazy. Your family is the normal family. That other family has serious problems. 

Hugs to you. I hope you find a quick resolution.

Break some **** with a baseball bat, it helps :)

In a few days I can start exercising again. Then I can break **** at karate.

OMG Heather, that would be one of my biggest nightmares ... anything that would make my kids out to be something they are not in the worst negative way.  I am so sorry you are going through this.  I just want to extend my heart out to you that I will be keeping your family in my thoughts & prayers during this time that things can settle soon.

THanks so much for your support, it means so much, especially since I am under a gag order at home, and I have a big mouth!

this is awful and i am so sorry for you. don't know the laws there but here this would be defamation. probably best to let it die down and protect your kids.  i sure feel for you.   diane

Hi Diane, Oh he is definitely criminally liable here and civilly too. Slandering children here and stigmatizing them is a worse crime than robbery if you can believe that. Costa Rica is really into children's rights, and both my kids were born here, so he is going to get his, one way or the other.