This smartass needs some of her own medicine

Yes, I was hoping that it had been long enough (haven't seen him since last year) that I could handle one holiday with him. Unfortunately, for me he's chosen to call me a couple of times recently and that is where the newer snide comments are coming from. I like the idea of using him as an emotional guide to my progress. Thanks!

KKin,

I wish there was a reason for her behavior but no. she simply does what she wants to do and nothing else and i do respect her for that. However every behavior has it's fall outs but we've realized every time someone stops talking to her she is thrilled because it's one less person she has to deal with.

Here is a reply that I have locked and loaded....... haven't had to use it yet...... feel free to use it on ass.....

"I lost the weight......How you gonna fix stupid???"

frisco

Thank you! I will add that to my arsenal.

Lordy, the life long scars we all carry.

Wi**** was as easy as telling the brother in your head to STFU, but that might be a place to start - when you realize you're doing it, just tell him (out loud mind you - you'll sound like a nut case but out loud works better for me) that you are no longer interested in his opinion, tyvm. I've found when I catch and actively refute those messages they tend to lessen with time.

I'm lucky in my family, but hubs has a brother like that except he's 8 years older and bigger and was also physically abusive and picked on hubs for being small. His name is John. 'Round our house, the stink bug that has gotten in and is escaping his inevitable capture is called John. The random spider is also named John. We crush and flush John with great regularity. Our little family secret, but it has strangely broken a little of the emotional power John had on hubs.

 That's awesome. You get to squash John - like daily.

What I know but I HAVE to constantly remind myself are my mother's wisdom. It's only my problem if I make it my problem. If I can let go of this crap with my brother, it might still be a problem, but it won't be MY problem. I've been trying to let go of this for years.

Thanks for the idea on naming every fly that gets in the house my brother's name. I'm totally using that one.

I wish your horrible brother and my horrible sister would meet and make each others lives miserable instead of ours, lol!  I not only live around the corner from her, but work with her too.  Different department in a largish company, but our work does overlap frequently.  There are days when I have shut her out but only temporarily.  Same deal with my parents.  It upsets them even knowing that she's a ***** yep I said it.  Now the nice sister, I'm keeping and I'm sure your awesome brother has his own awesomesauce around him like my wonderful sister does!  Hang in there!