I am discouraged

anninva
on 10/22/12 2:17 am - Arlington, VA

Elina, my dear,

I'm so sorry that you are feeling discouraged. I understand B-- you are such a voice of love and reason and I've always read every post of yours. I hope I'm not one of your "make me crazy" people. Haven't been a Cirangle person and it sows, but I am pretty much at peace with what I'm dong and try my hardes to follow you my heroes!

I'm shocked when I realize that I am actuall a "vet" and I get tired of the main board as week. I've been here a LOT lately and knownI'm now in the hard stage of really living with my tool and not just sliding by.

Sorry this is so long. Mostly I wanted to send you a love letter. I miss "my" vets and you are definitely one of them. ((((((((( hugs )))))))))))

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(deactivated member)
on 10/22/12 2:28 am

VSG on 06/30/09

Hugs right back at you. Of course you are not one of "makes me crazy" people. That's just funny. I don't mind people doing it their way as long as it works for them. I only offer advice to people that are stuck and are asking for advice. If someone is happy with the progress they are seeing than who am I to question it? Ever? This is very individual and we must respect each other and validate the different goals that we might have. What drives me crazy is my own desire to fight the same fights over and over again. :) There has to be a point at which it just stops being so vitally important to me. I think MacMadame's cartoon said it all. I have to just let the "wrong" answers stand and move on. I am working on it.

momsy55
on 10/22/12 5:26 am - ME

VSG on 08/22/11

Sorry you're feeling so discouraged Elina. Sending a big {{{hug}}} your way! I have missed yours and other vets posts on the vsg forum. I am not a true vet as yet, being only 14 months out and working on losing a few more pounds below my original goal. But I find what I need here more than at the vsg forum. I have drifted away from the vsg forum as I've needed a break. I still read posts some days, but don't respond much. I scan to look for posts from vets, as I know I'll hear what I need, even if it's what I do or do not want to hear. I think, like all things, WLS is becoming much more widely utilized than before. Most people do it for the right reasons and want to follow a sound plan. However, I suspect there are those who have jumped on the bandwagon and are looking for the quick fix or miracle cure that doesn't need the hard work along with it. I think those folks have always been around, but because the number of people getting WLS has increased so much, those who may not be emotionally ready for the work that this process requires, have also increased in number as well, in general and on the forum too. Just my two cents worth.

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Wildcat-NYC
on 10/22/12 8:32 am

VSG on 08/16/12

So sorry to hear you are discouraged. I was really enjoying your ABC posts...

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frisco
on 10/23/12 8:58 pm

VSG on 09/30/09

Ohhh some good ones out there now days on VSG main!!!

Elina...... I just spent an hour writing some of my thoughts and examples of some recent trends posted on VSG main...... just read it back to myself and thought...... I'm the idiot for caring!!!!! Deleted it ! It's silly at this point !!!

We came, we took, we gave back more than we took....were good !!!!!!!

frisco

SW 338lbs. GW 175lbs. Goal in 11 months. CW 148lbs. WL 190lbs.

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(deactivated member)
on 10/24/12 1:20 am

VSG on 06/30/09

Frisco, it's funny you should say this. I did the same stupid thing, only I added tons of research to back up my claims. I took a long hard look at it after I finished reading it, and decided that I was the fool here more than they were. Deleted it and went to bed. I keep seeing the cartoon from Macmadame, the one from earlier in this thread, in my head now. :)

frisco
on 10/24/12 6:53 am

VSG on 09/30/09

Just skimmed through some posts from today..... very hard to read.....

And it's totally not "It's not on my plan so it's the wrong way" like we always get accused......

As time goes on and more goofy surgeries and plans appear........

Luck plays a bigger factor !!!!!

Read the Strawberry one........

frisco

SW 338lbs. GW 175lbs. Goal in 11 months. CW 148lbs. WL 190lbs.

      " To eat is a necessity, but to eat intelligently is an art "

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Feystorm
on 10/25/12 8:36 am - CA

VSG on 03/14/12

I didn't see the strawberry one - and thankful for it now.

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MacMadame
on 10/27/12 4:25 am - Northern, CA

VSG on 09/24/08

" I keep seeing the cartoon from Macmadame, the one from earlier in this thread, in my head now. :) "

That cartoon has saved me a bunch of times when I've gotten overly invested in a thread.

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Happy966
on 10/24/12 7:41 am

VSG on 08/29/11

Hi there, Elina! I have been traveling for work and not checking in as much, but I still need to talk to you like-minded people to keep my head in the game. It's nice to be helpful and all that, but I am here first and foremost for my own "recovery" and sometimes I just have to keep being a broken record for my own sake, not for anyone else's. They say addicts have notoriously short memories - we always think "this time will be different" and repeat the same stupid behaviors that brought us to ruin in the first place.

I do not have a great support group locally, and I really need a place to come and keep focused. So here I am! I have also been participating on myfitnesspal - really makes me feel naked to log in public - but I can't go back to where I was, and I can't do it on my own.

I think of you often, Elina. You have been so good to me, and to so many people. I'm not trying to guilt you or anything, just say that I appreciately you greatly and your generous spirit. Hugs to you!!

:) Happy

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