VSG Maintenance Group

I am discouraged

INgirl
on 10/21/12 10:17 am
I started lurking on here early out, it always appealed to me more than the main board since I kind of knew what the weight loss phase was about.. but the long term deeper stuff that we can chat about here was where the real work was at.. you belong here. Stick around. I love your posts, and your snark and honesty. Oh, and happy anniversary too, I didn't reply on your thread but spotted it the other night!


slimpickins5280
on 10/21/12 12:32 pm - CO
Thanks. I'll probably start posting here from time to time.

VSG 10/18/11      If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one.-Dolly Parton





 


 

Lee ~
on 10/24/12 1:28 am - CA
Good!

HW: 249   SW: 229 GW: 149 Age: 63 - Body by Sauceda - 12/2011

Julia HasHerLifeNow
on 10/20/12 6:07 pm
VSG on 10/09/12
Please please Elina and all of you who have chimed in on this post, DON'T GO anywhere! I need you all. I am sure hundreds if not thousands of newbies would agree. Just please stay and help us through this journey. My surgeon is a great surgeon and I got the sleeve I wanted, with no pain, no nausea, no complications and a smooth recovery. I have no trouble hydrating. But he has very little in terms of a post op plan. Its a vague progression and anything I am doing right in these last 12 days is due 100% to what I learned from you. So please don't go. I have so much more to learn. I know that is selfish but I am truly scared that if you all disappear this is going to be impossible to manage and succeed at. All the posts that you are referring to that are irritating, its just because people are scared and are navigating in the dark. If you offer a light for the way, they may not take it but others who are reading (like me) will. So please stay and share your experience. Please.

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(deactivated member)
on 10/21/12 1:46 am
Don't worry.  First, you already got this.  You have been reading here for some time, you know what to do, you know the successful plans that are out there.  Second, all of our collective wisdom is already on the forum.  You can read my posts from the very beginning.  I think taken together, I have written a small book.  :)  You can also read so many other people's posts for a more balanced viewpoint.  I don't think there is a topic left that one of us has not posted about at some point.  Also, there will always be VETs on this site.  The VETs who were my mentors are no longer here, but so many others have taken their place.   In just a view months, you will be a VET yourself.  :)  What I am saying, is relax, you have this.
MacMadame
on 10/21/12 5:42 am - Northern, CA
And this is what I am saying to you... don't worry. It's going to be okay! It's the Circle of Internet Life. You were very important to many people and that's great, but it's okay to move on.

There is a comic out there that my husband gave me once when I was spending all my time on the Internet on parenting boards after the birth of my youngest. I'm sure a lot of you have seen it:

http://xkcd.com/386/

It was SO IMPORTANT to me to make sure those other parents were doing the "right" thing especially with all the old wives tales out there. I was posting links to research and explaining things right and left. I felt like, if *I* didn't post, those other parents would RUIN their children!! 

But eventually, my kid got older, the same old arguments were coming up over and over and I got sick of it and posted less and less until gradually I wasn't a member any more. I was sure there would be tons of women who would be given bad information about breastfeeding and sleep training, but I went back 6 months later after my last post and ... the same arguments were going on and other people were making my arguments for me. 

And the same thing happened with the VSG forum. 

Yep, I read people today saying "don't go, you helped me" and listing people who helped them ... and not one mentioned me! Two years ago when this conversation would come up, most of those people have mentioned me, but not you! You were a newbie and not established yet and didn't have the personal exeperience either. Now, two years later, they are all mentioning YOU but not ME. I'm long gone. They don't know who I am. Two years from now, they probably won't be mentioning you but will be mentioning someone else!

Like I said: The Circle of Internet Life. You are born into a forum, you take in knowledge and learn and soak up and then you start dispersing as your experience and confidence grows. And then you get older and crankier and less patient and so you "die" from that forum and let the new youngsters take over and pass out their knowledge and wisdom.

It really is okay to move on. Or to just take a break. Or to just not read as much or respond to as much as you used to. It's okay because (a) everyone contributes in their own way and (b) you've raised up some smart kids who will take over for you when you "die".

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diane S.
on 10/21/12 2:34 pm
Hey M, you helped me a whole bunch. just' sayin'.    diane

      
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MacMadame
on 10/22/12 12:13 am - Northern, CA
And then you started this forum which has helped a lot of people too ...

HW - 225 SW - 191 GW - 132 CW - 122
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doggz109
on 10/21/12 4:44 pm - CA
VSG on 01/12/12
I read OH nearly every day but don't post much anymore.  Not worth the argument that is bound to happen.

21 lbs to go....I want to be in maintenance already! 

    
(deactivated member)
on 10/22/12 12:50 am
I hear you.  I think I am finally reaching that same place, it only took me 3.5 years.  :)  You will hit maintenance soon enough, 21 pounds is not much at all. 
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