How come saying "I'm done" is so scary?

 Seems like I've achieved what we all strive for when we first start this journey, our ideal weight.  I was 138.5 this morning, and considering I'm a week out from surgery and still swollen etc, probably closer to 135. I think I'm done?  I'm 5'7", bmi of 21.69, healthy (other,then this surgery crap), in a size 4-6 pants and sm-med top. 

Perfect right? So why is saying I'm done so damn scary?  It almost makes me feel panicked when I think of it. Like I'm going to let my guard down and it's all going to come back on like a giant wave of lard waiting to swallow me lol. 

So how do you get comfortable in your new, weightloss not necessary, body?  I have never, including baby and toddlerhood stage, been at a ideal weight. It's just so surreal. 

Basically right there with you! I think for me, it's just a matter of time. I've not said done yet either.. though I think I just recently used the words "in maintenance" recently.. It is surreal indeed.

Did you pass on to your husband what i said about him?

Lol, yes! In fact he's sitting here when I spotted your email on my Gmail notifications and laughed!

He's rather happy that someone (besides me) calls him sexy. Though he gets John Lennon more than anyone else and had no idea who Benjamin Bratt was.. 

Look up his image.  He's a babe.  Used to be on law and order.  Dated Julia Roberts for 2 years.  A babe. He's a real ringer for him in your avi.

First and foremost, welcome to maintenance!!

It is definitely a scary time. I posted not long after reaching goal about the "what do I do now?". I was so into the losing phase, you know seeing the loss and then nothing.

It takes adjustment and honestly to this day I still mentally struggle with body image and feeling like I'm huge even though I know I'm not.

Take a deep breath and hang in there!!

Because my entire life i have known how to lose weight and gain weight.  Maintaining a healthy weight is a totally different and scary animal.

I think you captured part of it: we have the fear of regain, of losing control. My suggestion on that is to continue to monitor your eating. Increase your calories, but continue to monitor. I still log my food every day at myfitnesspal.

I like you have never been a normal weight before now.

The second thing is that we've gotten so much positive reinforcement from celebrating the loss that losing that can be an odd feeling.

Coming here every day helps a lot. Lots of folks in the daily maintenance weigh-in thread who are in the same place as you.

Well, if it helps, you are not the only one.  That's why I come here everyday, to remind myself of how far I have come and that I don't want to "slip back", which has happened to me at about 2 yrs out. It was a hard fight to get back to goal and I am not going to take it for granted ever again.

 

I don't think we are ever really "done", kinda like parenting.

 

Heather

I am so glad you posted this... I am almost there and feel the anxiety of what you describe. I too have never been a "normal" weight... and I am so close. It's an odd feeling. So much energy and effort has gone into this and I finally feel in control of my life... I fear not having the positive reinforcement of seeing pounds falling off. I assume maintenance will bring its own set of challenges and new perspective. Anxious, but looking forward :)