Daily Maintenance Weigh In - Sunday, 7/8

It was also hurtful.  I stayed up late the night before organizing my thoughts for what I hoped would be a motivational post to everyone on Saturday morning and then left for the day with my family.  Only to come back to that.  I feel a little raw about it and will probably stay of the main vsg board from now on.  I was especially hurt and surprised by the lack of support from many people that I had helped both in PM's and on the phone.  It seems that I am too involved there, it's time to move on.

I didn't respond to your post yesterday, but it was beautiful and heart felt. I was surprised at the hypocrisy and venom of some of the posters, and felt that it wasn't deserved. If one doesn't like specific posters and/or posters, just move on. I feel like your heart, as well as others hearts are in the right places and are just trying to help people to succeed. Unfortunately, many people want to do it "their" way and don't really want honest feedback. Perhaps, lessening the emotional investment in the VSG board is the way to go. Obviously, yourself and others are doing something right, since all of you, have been wildly successful. People could learn a lot from Vets, if they allowed the information in. Some people just aren't ready to hear it.

Btw, you were very helpful  and supportive to me during my losing phase and I have always appreciated it. I think it helped me to realize that I could reach my goal.


Gail
 

Gail, your kind words mean a great deal to me.  Thank you for your gentleness, you soothed raw nerves this morning, it is much appreciated.

One of my posts was singled out which I do not understand at all. I tend to stay away from the drama so not sure why that happened. All i pointed out was I wish people would use search, is that so wrong lol. It did I admit hurt my feelings a bit since I only ever just offer my opinion's where I think it may help. Hell, I don't even post all that much compared to some. I am also confused by the Cirangle talk and the chosen 3 BS. First time in about 14 months on this board hearing anything of the kind. Anyone care to enlighten me on what they are talking about? feel free to PM if you do not want to post. I am just confused by the whole thing. I never thought i rubbed someone the wrong way but obviously I am mistaken. I feel like leaving again but I really love this board. Not sure where to go from here to be honest. I would imagine all boards would be the same way in the end though, I just don't understand all the drama.

I really don't know what they are talking about except that maybe they perceive some of Dr. Cirangle patients as being more popular? I have no way of knowing what they could possibly mean.  My guess, and it's just a guess, is that we are all quite happy with our experience and share that with others.  They think we are being paid.  Let me make this as clear as day, I have never, ever been paid in money, product, discounts, or in any other form for anything I have said here or for anything else by Dr. Cirangle.  The only thing he ever gave me was a protein shaker bottle he gives to all of his new patients.  That is it.

I have been busy with puppies. I missed it all. I'm sorry if folks were rude or hurtful.  You certainly don't deserve that.

Thank you, folks were both rude and hurtful and mostly absent.  I think that was the hardest part for me and what made me feel the worst.  People write to me all the time, I get many many PM's everyday asking for my help, and I give it, hours of it, but in private.  Where were these same people when I was attacked?  I feel a little stupid to putting so much of myself into this place, I think I might really need a break.  Thank you for you kindness, it is needed and appreciated.

I'm really sorry to hear that. I missed it entirely off in puppy-land.  The VSG main board reminds me to an extent of some of the "Manchester" related yahoogroups that I'm on.  There tends to be a silent majority that don't want to involve themselves in conflict.

We have plenty of conflict in our breed particularly right now. It's astonishing what people who purportedly have a common interest or goal are willing to say to each other publicly.  I don't always agree with you or anyone else for that matter (and sometimes even myself, I do reserve the right to change my mind); however, I am unfailing polite and respectful even to people who don't necessarily deserve it.  It's the nastiness that keeps the 'silent majority' from speaking up. They don't want to deal with it. 

 Elina, I am a devoted fan and since I kept reading about the Maintenance board on the main VSG forum I searched and found it and joined the group yesterday, especially after reading some of the drama and negativity on that board. I don't know where such anger and venom is coming from, and it really seemed uncalled for and personal. I refuse to endorse or tolerate negativity in general, and especially not involving something as personal and important as this life changing journey. I read a few posts and refused to respond because as I was  taught, negativity doesn't need a national platform. You and many other vets have been helpful, informative and encouraging and I can personally say that you have responded to my private messages ; for that I thank you. In addition to my own research, following my surgeons comprehensive plan and attending monthly support groups, I have learned a wealth of information from you and other vets and am now within 23 pounds of my surgeons goal for me and 38 pounds of my personal goal and all of you are a part of my success. i hope to continue to goal and maintenance and to learn from and be inspired by the vets . I'm sorry that your feelings were hurt, but please know that you are like a fine wine- not everyone will "get"  or appreciate you and your value. Thank you -all- for your posts and support , and your wisdom and examples. You are appreciated by many .

Thank you for the kindness and I am so happy that you are doing as well as you are!  You will be at goal in no time at all.  Sometimes we all need a little tender love and care and I am blessed to have gotten it from you.  Thank you.