Must....not....post

http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/VSG/4535503/Not-Worth-It-Angry-Rant-about-crappy-sleeve/

I don't even know where to begin. Warning do not look if you are easily angered. I would post about the hell I went through but I don't think it would help the poor dear.

Nope. Nope, not going to do it either.. I know the crap you went through. I remember.. I also know I had it oddly easy (oddly in the sense that I never once had regret, food mourning, or even the "gimmies" when cooking for my hubs while I was still sucking down the Cytomax for weeks!) I WANTED this, every bit of it, and was just so freaking overjoyed when I woke up that I just kinda blissed out for the next few months. Yes, I am a freak.

I will not post on that one.. instead I will rant on your thread and get it out here where hopefully anyone reading this will either be more understanding or less offended.. or not? 

I GET that some people get the regrets, the second-guessing.. pain, fatigue, deprivation.. and I get that you really cannot prepare for the reality until you actually experience some things for yourself. I really was sympathetic and ready to chalk it up to the hormonal crazies until I got to this part: 

Some said they get it when they hit dense meats but there is an entire world of food out there beyond dense meat so only getting restriction in one small area of my diet that I won't be able to eat for a couple of months anyways really doesn't seem worth it. 

THAT tells me, that the 5 years spent researching... hmm. Ok. 

So.. they missed all the posts about crazy carb sliders, veggies and salads not filling many up.. all that never registered in the 5 long years spend educating themselves on the sleeve? All the talk of "protein first then if there's room..." never clicked? Ok. I've had my tiff in here, I feel better. Thanks for opening the snark door for me, don't mind if I walk right on it and put my feet up! 

I give up.  Really can't take it anymore.  I find I post less and less now and when I read the posts on the main VSG board, I just can't respond without sounding mean and snarky.  I really don't know if it's me or if the board has just changed.  It might just be my three year are up and I need to go "poof" for a while.

I saw Allison's (acbbrown) post to newbies before I saw this one... I wondered what was up and THEN I saw the one you are referring to. Oy yoy oy. I just don't get it anymore. I went into VSG as my last hope, my last resort, make it or break it... and KNEW that it wouldn't be easy, knew I'd have to forgo some things, maybe even give some things up forever, and you know what? TOTALLY WORTH IT! More than half of this journey is mental for me (and probably for most!)! It's a must to prepare our heads as it is to slice and dice our bodies.

ENd rant. Thanks for letting me get this out

Maybe I am just crazy but through it all I was always hopeful that this was the answer for me and that no matter what I was going to do everything I could to make it work. I always found a way to sabotage my weight loss but not this time. I see posts like that and it just makes me wonder if they really thought skittles were going to fall from a rainbow when they woke up.

I answered.  In fairness, I'm not sure some of the 'snark' in some of the responses is all that helpful and it may actually discourage people from asking good questions. Now, I tend to let a lot of this type of stuff roll off my back. It's deliberate. I can't be held accountable for the stupidity of others.  Whether or not they listen to the advice and information I provide is not my issue, and I refuse to take it personally.  It's not like this is unique to WLS, either.  It's just part of life.  Most of us are heavily invested emotionally in our sleeves, and that's fine.  You just can't be invested in someone elses'.

"Most of us are heavily invested emotionally in our sleeves, and that's fine.  You just can't be invested in someone elses'."

Ooh, I like this!  

Now that is a quote worth quoting over and over again.  Wisdom at its highest.  Now I repeat, "Ohmmm, Ohmmmm, Most of us are heavily invested emotionally in our sleeves, and that's fine.  You just can't be invested in someone elses".   This just might save me.

Hopefully, this state of mind will pass and will be a result of all the hormones floating around. But, I thought that someone who had "researched" the VSG for 5 years would have a bit more insight into what was going on. Her expectations are completely out of line and causing her a world of hurt. There is really no way to know how difficult the first month or two can really be, until one goes through it. Thankfully, she hasn't experienced any major complications, like some people have to go through. I think she needs professional help. JMHO.

Also, I don't think she really wanted any feedback, except for support and and to ventilate her frustrations.

yeah i saw this one early and though OMG how could this person feel this way unless they had the world's worst surgeon or something. But I did see some genuinely kind responses and some indication of appreciation that tells me maybe all is not lost for this person. Hope so. I decided there was nothing I could add and just let it be. One of those things that will have to work itself out. Diane