VSG Maintenance Group
Ashamed/Depressed - Need Help!
Sue you are not alone in this. Please come over to MyFitnessPal to log your food and exercise. You will be amazed at the difference it makes to actually see what you are doing and where you need to make changes. There are several of us there who communicate throughout each day with our challenges. I am Doris62 on there. Please friend me there and I will get you connected with other VSG supporters on that site.
Dee
Dee
Hi Doris,
I just wanted to say thank you for recommending MFP. I am sorry to say that I am still dealing with my issues despite trying some of the simpler suggestions that have been recommended. I believe I need to see my PCP to figure out what is going on. Unfortunately, I am not coping well right now and cannot deal with "dieting" at the moment which is the reason I have not been logging on MFP. I do hope to get this resolved really soon and join you there once again!
Sue
I just wanted to say thank you for recommending MFP. I am sorry to say that I am still dealing with my issues despite trying some of the simpler suggestions that have been recommended. I believe I need to see my PCP to figure out what is going on. Unfortunately, I am not coping well right now and cannot deal with "dieting" at the moment which is the reason I have not been logging on MFP. I do hope to get this resolved really soon and join you there once again!
Sue
Sue
Sue, I responded to your post without reading the other replies. I just want to thank you for the interesting thread. lots of good info, here.
and I hear you about not "dieting" - it can be what people need to be doing but not everyone and not always.
and I hear you about not "dieting" - it can be what people need to be doing but not everyone and not always.
once upon a time I had a group to talk about Binge Eating Disorder, and later one about Clean Eating.
PM me if you are interested in either of these.
size 8, life is great
Carb consumption increases seritonin. Seritonin makes you calm and happy. No carbs, less seritonin. If you are sensitive to the lack of seritonin, fewer carbs equals misery.
Antidepressant medication increases seritonin. I am not a believer in meds unless they are necessary -but they might be worth a look in your situation.
Antidepressant medication increases seritonin. I am not a believer in meds unless they are necessary -but they might be worth a look in your situation.
SD: 6/09; HW: 263; LW: 143; CW: 155; 5'5"; 62 yo
GreenGardner is right, and there are lots of ways to increase those naturally. Like I said above with the supplements, exercise, sunshine (use a tanning salon to make it easy.. once a week is good), meditation, yoga, etc. all increase serotonin.
Start weight: 388, Current Weight: 185, Goal Weight: 180, Weight Lost: 203 lbs
Certified Nutritionist ♥ VSG FAQ♥ sublimate: To elevate or uplift.
3/2012 Plastics: LBL, 3 Hernias Fixed, BL/BA, Rhinoplasty & Septum Fix. 6/2013 Plastics: Arm and thigh lift
I just wanted to send a big hug your way. I'm sorry that you're feeling ashamed. I would venture to bet that most of us have felt shame about our weight at one time or another in our lives. I lived through years of self hatred fueled by my shame about my body. Love yourself, and fake it until you're able to. I'm certain that our purpose is to find joy, so please find things to appreciate. Kick th shame to te curb. You have more important work ahead of you in finding a solution that brings you relief from feeling so poorly.
God job coming and posting!
God job coming and posting!
HW: 249 SW: 229 GW: 149 Age: 63 - Body by Sauceda - 12/2011
On April 17, 2012 at 9:22 AM Pacific Time, snowbaby wrote:
Hello! It's been a long time since I've logged onto OH - good to know some of the folks I'm familiar with are still here and doing well! Where have I been??? Well, most might think I prolly lost all the weight and have been out living life again. Unfortunately, that is not the case. I have not checked in because I feel like a failure. I have been too ashamed to admit that things did not work out the way I thought they would. I got down to 198 lbs (for one day! ha!) and have settled at 210. I had hoped to get to 160 or better. Not happenin. There is one major factor that has stopped me in my tracks and I'm hoping someone can help so I can move forward. Simply put: I become the ***** from hell when I am losing. It is so bad that even I cannot stand myself. Its more than just being a ***** - I get anxious, uptight, moody and depressed.
At first I thought it was menopause but then realized it eases up whenever I stop trying to lose. I can't tell you how many times I've done a 5 day pouch test only to abandon it because I get so miserable. I tried "dealing with it" just to see if it would let up after a few weeks but it seems I only get worse. I am normally a happy-go-lucky, easy-going type of person - so this is very distressing for me to feel this way.
Any ideas???
I remember you by name but not what you looked like - nice to see your beautiful face
some people find the 5DPT helpful but I sure don't - just another "crash diet" and those never did me anything but harm.
I don't say this lightly or flippantly: if you are settled in and happy at 210, can you just stay there?
stuff I know for sure: depression sucks, shame is no help, whatever your size/weight/whatever make sure you have clothes that fit you and that you like!
how, how is the rest of your life going? work? family?
once upon a time I had a group to talk about Binge Eating Disorder, and later one about Clean Eating.
PM me if you are interested in either of these.
size 8, life is great
Hi MPM,
I remember you too - its really good to hear from you. I think you are right about settling in at 210 - at least for now until I get this black cloud out from over my head. I have had a really bad week. Nothing in particular happened other than I just felt so down. I slept most of the week away and I know that is a sure sign of depression. I finally confided in my husband today. I know he sensed something was wrong - he actually crawled into bed with me one afternoon and just held me I think waiting for me to open up but I couldn't. I think because I was not "there" yet as far as accepting that this could be depression. I am finding it interesting that I can actually be cheered up for a "moment" but then an instant later that black cloud is over my head again. I've only had this feeling one other time in my life and that was when I had a short stint with post-partum depression. To answer your question about the rest of my life - everything is great! I have nothing to be unhappy about - that is what is so frustrating about feeling this way.
Anyway, I feel like I'm rambling! I hope all is well with you!
I remember you too - its really good to hear from you. I think you are right about settling in at 210 - at least for now until I get this black cloud out from over my head. I have had a really bad week. Nothing in particular happened other than I just felt so down. I slept most of the week away and I know that is a sure sign of depression. I finally confided in my husband today. I know he sensed something was wrong - he actually crawled into bed with me one afternoon and just held me I think waiting for me to open up but I couldn't. I think because I was not "there" yet as far as accepting that this could be depression. I am finding it interesting that I can actually be cheered up for a "moment" but then an instant later that black cloud is over my head again. I've only had this feeling one other time in my life and that was when I had a short stint with post-partum depression. To answer your question about the rest of my life - everything is great! I have nothing to be unhappy about - that is what is so frustrating about feeling this way.
Anyway, I feel like I'm rambling! I hope all is well with you!
Sue
