Cross addictions

I say "weak and lazy" because I suspect my subconsious enjoys baiting people on internet forums (bad Ruggie!).  But yes, what I really mean is mindfullness.  Earlier in life, I wasn't mindful - I would just react from one situation to the other, never setting up a long-term, health-oriented plan, in terms of my mentality and what I chose to put into my body.  I learned over time, with a lot of help, that I had to be mindful and look within myself to monitor my behaviors and actions. 

I've just found it difficult to describe being mindful to someone who hasn't reached that position yet themselves.

I no longer "bait" easily.  LOL  Okay, I've always been mindful, though... fixed a ton of things in my life.  The shopping has caused me no financial duress because I was "mindful" and realized it was heading that way.  My problem was I would plug one leak in the boat and spout another leak somewhere else.  It really resonated with me what Diane said.  What do I take away from all this????  What differentiates us from others is not WHAT we go through in life, but HOW we react to it.  Maybe anxiety and stress is part of this, but until you recognize all the things you're dealing with your strategies aren't successful longterm.  I effectively stopped my spending yesterday whenI realized I was "forming" a problem.  I just don't want another "leak" that's all.  :)

It's good to be in control of one's self, yes?

I don't get ****y.  The fall from grace hurts too bad.  LOL  Have a great Sunday afternoon!  :)

This is an excellent post...gotta love that BL.  You reminded me to email her : ) 

I can relate so much to Sublimate's response.  I too have anxiety when alone.  My kids have recently moved out so Hubby and I are empty nesters now.  And he likes to hunt and fish and does weekend trips often with his friends and clients.  I thought I'd be so happy skinny, then I got skinny and hated my excess skin.  So then I had 2 huge surgeries to remove the skin and still not happy.  I feel sad and alone somehow.  I am lucky in that I don't turn to food for solace but gosh I'd love to be happy and feel loved.  Sometimes I feel like I suck my poor husband dry cause I'm so emotionally needy and he is so good to me, but it doesn't change how I feel about myself...sigh.  I guess we all have our demons.

Laura

 Oh boy, I'm really getting it about the "fill the hole" theories.  On my last day in Mexico while having plastic  surgery in December, I got The Call.  Thank you for 18 years of service as senior management, your office is being closed in 5 days.  What a freaking blindside.

Can't afford to shop, don't know how to open a wine bottle, quit smoking 22 years ago, have an aversion to buying bigger jeans, but I get how freaking easy it would be fall into any of those seductive ditches.

I don't know how to be social Monday through Friday because I'm 61 and have never been unemployed.  Combine the new situation with the healing process from plastics and my fridge suddenly feels like a double wide that walks and talks.

I recently started dating again and have to be careful to not "fill the hole" (get your mind out of the gutter, I mean stomach and heart). By latching on to a person that might not be my Mr. Right.

I feel much more equipped to handle these challenges without the hundred pounds on my back.  Thankfully I have angels that "walk and talk" me often to keep me out of the potholes of life.  Walkers always welcome!  :)

Hi Lee,

Sounds like the healing is going well. Good for you for doing the dating scene. I am not up to it. Just not interested. Maybe, we can go walking sometime.

How did your 2 year visit go?

Gail

 Gail, I'm ready to walk anytime!  I see Dr Baggs on the 28th for my two year.  I just found the email that you sent on Friday.  Thank you so much for your kind thoughts.