I love my size but don't like the way I look

Me too, I lost a little more than expected and boy does it show in my now 60 year old face. But I will say it has sort of settled in and I don't think I look as "hag-ish" as I did. But I am also using retin-A which i really think helps. or maybe i am just getting used to it. I really need a face lift and think everybody is entitled to one in their life but its not cheap and I hate the idea of the recovery period. Now that I am thin I want to run around and have fun all the time. so who cares about a few wrinkles anyway.  I think i am gonna do something about the grey hair pretty soon though.   Diane

 I can completely understand.  I went down to 10 lbs below my goal and I really looked haggared.  My bones stuck out all over.  My face looked very old.  I have since put back about 8 lbs.  Which I hate, BTW.  But my bones aren't quite as prominent.  Still there, just not looking like daggers.  My husband had someone ask him privately what was REALLY wrong with me????  Was I fighting cancer or something because I looked so haggard.  
I'm soon to be 57 years old, so I guess it comes with the territory.  I've also noticed that I'm so much more tired then I was at say..140 lbs.  Now having said all that, I have no intention of going up any more in weight and I'd really like to get back down to 124 before summer.  Just a vanity thing I guess.  I had been heavy ALL my life (I remember having to get fat girl dresses when I was in 1st grade), so I really don't want to go back there.  I think we have to be realistic, we may be thin, but we just aren't in our 20's anymore.  I've been buying anti wrinkle creams too, don't know that they work.  And my hair is very thin.  But so is my sisters, who has not had WL surgery.  I think it's just age. 
My take, anyway 

I hear ya.  When I was at my goal weight (before I regained 30 pounds, bah), I liked my size, but my face looked too thin ... and I'm 58, so the ol' skin is starting to show its age :-)  And my thighs!  Good grief!  Looked like the backside of an elephant -- all that hanging droopy skin!!

Now that I've regained 30 pounds, which is NOT good or healthy!!, my face looks waaaaay better, and even my thighs look smoother.  My hips, however, have become huge!  Gotta get rid of these 30 pounds again, even if I look older!

Aren't we a funny bunch?? 

--Dorothy

Ok girls, you've all convinced me for sure, I am happier this way than if I gained back 15+ pounds.  Gotta take the good with the bad.   Ok I will admit I'm kinda vain!!!!  Ok, NOT just kinda!!!

As far as the saggy wrinkly skin EVERYWHERE else...yeah but I can cover it with clothes. And I can say capri's in the summer will never go out of style for me!!!

Thank you alll!!!!  I needed the reality check and no one in my physical world could do what you all did for me.  Yes, those who are jealous (sister) can't give compliments but says hurtful comments.  But that's okay, inside they are hurting more than they can hurt me.

I think I will be spending more of my time here instead of on the WLS VSG site.  You girls are AWESOME!!!!

You've hit on my bug-a-boo. 

All of my life I had beautiful skin.  I used to get complimented on it all of the time and people always thought I was at least 10 years younger than I was.

No more.   I look into the mirror and wonder who that old hag is.  I have WRINKLES, I tell you, wrinkles!  I never had those before!  I don't recognize myself.  I see my 90-yr-old mother in the mirror.

I do have to tell you that I started using the Oil of Olay Regenerist line and I do see a big difference.  It is not too expensive and you can usually get it on sale at Costco.

I lost the weight but I also lost my pretty.  I'll still keep the weight off and instead of the pretty I've been able to buy killer outfits to wear.  So I'm back to classy. 

I'll take it.

I bet you don't look nearly as old as you think you do.

I still get mistaken for someone younger. I have more wrinkles, but I do have good skin so it's as bad as I think it is because  I'm not used to it.

When I remember to moisturize, I use Oil of Olay Regenerist too. I used it pre-op as well and I do think it makes a difference even if not an enormous one.