Do you like it when people call you skinny?

When people call me skinny, I don't quite believe it, but it doesn't offend me. I have learned not to take a lot of comments seriously. I actually take it as a compliment and a validation for all my hard work. I do get called skinny at times, but more often, people say that I am so tiny. Well, I am only 4'11" so that is true. I don't always feel tiny, but when I can fit into smaller sizes, I guess, I am tiny.

When I had my one year checkup last week, everyone called me a "Superstar." Now, that felt good, but I'm not sure that I quite deserve it at this point. Perhaps, in 3-4 years, if I continue to maintain the weight loss, I may deserve that name.

Gail

Also, it does not offend me.  I am not angry with them, I am not rude to them, I *get* that its a compliment on their part, and I will only ask someone to stop if its a human that sees me regularly and continues to say it, because I *DO* believe that how I let people talk  to me is how they will keep talking to me.  Kind of like don't pretend to have ******s and then wonder why you never have them, you know?

I just do not LIKE it.  Its not as complimentary in my ears as it seems to be in their head. 

And I think its like you Lynda, maybe its a definition thing?  Maybe the skinny defnition in my head has Olive Oyl next to it or something!  Maybe too much "such a pretty face" growing up.  Who knows.

But anyway, back to discussing!

Do I like it?  Yes.  It is an affirmation of all the work I've done.  It sure beats when people just looked away from me. 

My brother called me skinny, but it was a total compliment on his part. He also said that I looked "fit" which I really like. When people tell me that I look "fit" that is greatest compliment, even better than skinny, petite, or tiny.

Gail

I'm not skinny so I don't get that comment except from some old friends who knew me at 249 but haven't seen me in a long time.  I know that it's really meant as a compliment so I take it as such.  Personally, I'd love to really be skinny as I think that old people live longer with less weight to carry around.

The plastic surgeon that I consulted with at Kaiser told me to be careful to not lose to much more weight because it wouldn't be good if I was skinny.   I guess he was seeing me from the eyes of someone about to wack off all that unneeded skin.

I can relate to everyone's comments.

It depends on the context of the comment.  I lost all my weight a year and a half ego, so all my friends and family have mostly gotten over my looks and my weight.  If they call me skinny, it is usually in the context of "you have lost too much weight" and I don't like to hear that at all.  I think it is non of their business.  I love the way I look now and that is the only opinion on the matter that should be considered.  On the other hand, when a new girlfriend or someone I just met says it with a smile, I know they mean is as a compliment and I like it.  I think sometimes friends get a bit blown away that at my age I look like a teenager (except for the face :(      ).    I went to a UFO concert with my husband last night, and as usual for these things, it was mostly men my age and just a few women.  Many of the men were staring at me quite openly, but of course I only had eyes for my honey.  I have to admit I found the experience really enjoyable.  I think I even played it up a bit.  We ran into a number of people we know there, as my husband is really into that whole scene, and one of them pulled me over and said, "wow, you are skinnier then my teenage daughter".  He had a big smile on his face and I could tell he meant it in a good way.  He hasn't seen me since I had lost of the weight and he was genuinely shocked by my appearance.  I thanked him for the compliment, because I understood that he meant it that way.  I have really tiny bone structure and on me 103lbs. looks just right. 

There are other times when I do get offended if someone comments on my appearance in any way, like if it is a business environment.  I don't want to hear anybody refer to any part of my body or to my weight, height or any other physical attribute.  I want people in these situations to focus on my my ideas, energy, knowledge and experience.  It is odd to me that most men intuitively get this, if I get comments that make me uncomfortable, it is is most often from other women.  Men seem to have gotten the message that this is not appropriate, but many women seem to think that it's fair game to make these comments.  That does bother me a bit.

Ditto what Elina said... my thoughts exactly. It only bothers me when it is intended in a negative context. Just today, I was told I'm too skinny. Seriously? 5'9" and 165lbs. I'm not skinny by a LONG SHOT. I could lose 15 more pounds and still not be skinny. Now, if I dip below 150 I can possibly see myself as beginning to get too thin. 130-135 and I will have gone too far, I think. I'm of a "thick" big-boned structure, so I'm sure 135 and below would start making me look ill and bony. At this point, when someone says I'm too skinny, I feel like what they are really saying is "Your weight doesn't make me comfortable anymore, so I'm going to insult you so that you will stop losing and I can feel comfortable again." Well, it's not about you... and my doctors are all very pleased with my current weight and would be fine if I dropped another 15. The person who said it today is a lady I work with that I really like. She's a fantastic person and I'm not upset with her at all. I just saw this post and thought I would throw my two cents in... but it bothered me more coming from her because she is in no way catty, judgemental, devious, underhanded, jealous, or any of those things. So, in this case, maybe she really DOES think I'm too skinny. But I'm just bewildered. I just don't see it and don't see how others could see me and think "too skinny". I'm much, much smaller, to be sure, but I'm still "thick". It's a strange new world after all of this weight loss, that's for sure.

I don't like it, my family tells me I'm too skinny and it's definitely not a compliment.  Plus I'm not skinny, I have curves.  I don't mind if someone calls me thin, but I don't think skinny is a compliment and with all the body dysmorphia out there, I don't think skinny SHOULD be considered a compliment.  Just my opinion.

I've also been bombarded with it lately from my sisters and husband, who think I don't eat, who keep saying I'm too skinny, too bony, blah blah blah.  It makes me uncomfortable but I'm not above telling people to shut the **** up

My daughter loves to be called skinny, so to each his own.

I hope I am gonna see you at the conference Michelle- I miss the he'll outta you!

I miss you too Fawn! I am going to try to come say hi on Saturday to everyone if I can.