Do you like it when people call you skinny?

I do not.  It bothers me.  It bothers me like if someone would address me as floppy butt, or lazy eye, or big nose, or fat ass.

I know some folks do, but it *really* bothers me, because it was not okay *for me* to be addressed me by a physical trait before surgery (Hey, 3 belly roll bran!  How YOU doin?) and it seems just as not okay to be addressed by some randome trait after surgery.

Now - on the one hand, for me to say I have bumfrills - well that is me speaking what is, but to be addressed as Bumfrills Bran - not so okay, so I get that might be incompatible - but me talking about my parts and being addressed by my parts,

Do not like. 

And for me, this is not just a surgery thing.  I NEVER liked being addressed and associated with some physical trait.

Do you  like it really?  Or is it just a reminder of what you have not been for so long so its a reminder for you about your hard work?

A human who is me wonders!

**edit to add, I know that I am *not* really skinny and that is by design quite honestly, but compared to the weight I was, I am definitely smaller - so I think folks think its a compliment, and while it might be for some - I just do not dig it.  I was bombarded with it last night, which is why it was on my mind this morning. 

I like it. Honestly it is just validation that I have been successful at this whole shebang, just like I want at least someone to call me dr fawn after I graduate, lol.. Before surgery I never minded when people tossed in a compliment into their greeting- people did about my eyes occasionally, so it's still all good now..

For anyone that has not noticed Fawn's stunning eyes, this is why she gets compliments...  the colour is incredible:

Thank you Cindy- you are sweet! Muah!

Beautiful bombshell !!!!!!!!!

She really is isn't she.  When looking for the pic of her green eyes I looked at most of her photos again and she was just gorgeous even before her weight loss. 

And personality and brains to boot.

What a gal :)

Cindy

I was going to wait until a few others said how they felt, because you know how I feel...

But what the heck:
-  I love being called skinny
-  I love being called a tall drink of water
-  I love being called statuesque
-  I love being called a goddess
-  I love being called a model
-  I love being called anything that compliments me for how hard I have worked to get to where I am today.

All my young life my Dad would say to people "Don't tell her that, it will go to her head".  And boy did it ever, I got to the point of not being comfortable with compliments, after having it engrained in me, that a compliment from someone was not a good thing, and would make me boastful or not appreciate what really matters inside of me...  Messed me up pretty good eh?

I love my Dad beyond words, I just took a lot of what he said litterally.  All my life I have tried to live up to his expectations of me...  I am finally allowing the compliments in, I am finally realizing that "as long as you do your best", does not mean I have to be perfect, I just need to strive to do well.  Striving for my best all my life has been exhausting...

I am good enough just the way I am.  And I am letting every compliment in, I am absorbing it and letting it soothe me, instead of the food.  I am trying very hard to see what is good and beautiful about me, and not what needs to be better or fixed.  I am getting there, and every compliment from others and myself gets me a little closer.

What I am going to stirve for is being VERY VERY happy with myself, just excatly the way I am.  It really should take a load off of me.  I want to know in my heart that I am everything I 'should be' just the way I am.

ANYWAY, yes I love the compliments, I try hard to understand them, to look at what I think people are seeing and appreciate what they say.  Big step for me.

However, you are in a very different 'space' than I am Brandi, and I can imagine how you must feel sometimes.  You have an abundance of confidence and don't need anyone to tell you how you look or reassure you on who you are.  You are THE WOMAN Brandi Lynn!!

Big hugs my sweet wise friend,

Cindy

At first I did but not so much now. When someone calls me skinny it is sort of a negative comment as if saying "too thin" of which I am not.
Again, great post brandi!

At one year out, it affirms that I have indeed lost enough weight for people to notice. I know I have, but it's still nice to hear it! Now as for people saying you don't need to loose any more weight or you're going to blow away, not so much. They never told me I didn't need to gain any more weight, which I understand why they didn't, but why do they have a right to tell me what I need to do now. I apparently hide my weight well, and while I'm happy with where I am, I know that technically I could still lose another 10 pounds and be good. Back to the original, I'm not tired of hearing it yet, but that's also because the ones saying it know what I've been through and where I was. I appreciate them not calling me fatty a year ago!

I think that most people mean it as a compliment, and I take it as such although it still feels a little awkward.  Since pretty much anyone who knows me knows I've had surgery and that I'm a smart-ass. I joke around about it.  "I sure hope so, I'd hate to have had 85% of my stomach taken out for nothing."  I don't mean to discount how much work this takes -- and again, those who know me at all know it's a lot of work.

I get pissed off by  the "don't you feel so much better about yourself" that is sometimes appended to it.   I dislike the assumption that I was filled with self-loathing when I was heavier, since, frankly, I wasn't.