Looking in the mirror

 Well to day was the first time I looked in the mirror and saw someone thin. I have been told I look thin but my brain never saw it. people say wow your so little lol that feels good when they say that but I was having problems seeing it.

To day I saw it. I am 164 lbs now my wls wants me at 145 I think that is to thin. I will try and get there for my tt but if I do not today I felt good at looking at me. I had to ask my husband if I was thin now and of course he said yes. I feel thinner and I am very happy with me now. It took me for ever to be happy.

Do you all see your self as thin or does your brain act like mine and tells ya your not?

 I usually think I look pretty thin (at least compared to the way I used to be!) when I'm standing up, but if I look down at myself when I'm sitting in a chair, I see how my hips and thighs spread out, and I think I look as fat as ever. Today though, I was sitting in a booth at Denny's, and I had at least 6 inches between me and the table. That was amazing to me! I used to be squeezed in there so tight I couldn't take a deep breath! 
I was down to 158 this morning, only 4 pounds to go to my goal of a normal BMI. I'm losing awfully slowly now, and I'm afraid these last couple of pounds have all come off my boobs. **** I just bought beautiful new bras 6 months ago, and now I'm gonna have to donate them!
I really couldn't be happier though, with this wonderful new figure. And I'm so looking forward to being able to wear all my winter season thrift store finds!
Nita

With my clothes on and standing up (and with my upper arms covered) I think I look pretty darn great.  But with the clothes off... ugh.

I am going to have my stomach done in December and hopefully that will help me feel a bit better.  I work really hard, however, at not hating all that extra skin.  I didn't hate myself when I was fat, and I don't want the legacy of my former self to become something I hate either.

Hally

Congratulations my dear!  Isn't it wonderful to finally get a glmps of the slim and trim YOU!! 

What you are experiencing is quite common, not sure why it takes so long for our minds to catch up to our bodies.

You know I am the same as the poster above, I feel pretty good in my clothes, and standing, but sitting is the most discouraging one for me.  I too have rolls and span out when I sit.  Time to get to the gym.

Anyway we are thinner, healthier and overall looking better so I am happy with that.

Hugs,

Cindy

 I was looking in the mirror with cloths on never with them off. I do not like all the skin I have so I do not dress in the mirror. I do spread when sitting down to been to the gym do not know if it helps. I will have to see how I feel after my tt hope it looks good.

 I see myself as thin - and I might be wrong. I am "normal" by BMI but when I recently saw myself on video I looked pudgy, I thought. they say the camera adds 10 pounds...hope that is what it is.

my point is, we can be unrealistic either way - people can think they are bigger or smaller than they are.

I am like you Jackie- I can never decide if I am smaller or bigger than what I think, because it seems to shift on me, lol..

Hey its great to be able to see your thin self and not have your self image distorted like many of us had. GL with the tummy tuck. I probably won't do that but I am learning to live with my wrinkles and sags because I like the way I look in clothes now and those sags are just a little reminder of all the blubber I got rid of. I will take the sags any day.

Any hey, if you are happy at this weight thats the most important thing. I would try to get a little thinner just because of rebound sometimes but you are the one who needs to be happy and it sounds like you are. congrats.  Diane

 LOL I was happy and now most of the time i am but looking to day at scale I think i can make it to at least 155 lol. how much is rebound? My wls has not told me about rebound just tells me I can get to 145 and that is what he just wants. 

he must be thinking of rebound and wants me as small as I can get but who knows.

all i know is my surgeon says it is not unusual to regain 5 or 10 pounds at about two or three years out. but its not inevitable. so thats one guy's opinion but i think thats why some surgeons set goals that seem low. interestingly, my surgeon's goal for me was 18 lbs more than what i got to - i think he just thought that would be al i could do, but now he says i am fine and not too thin.  Diane