all time high

A little background.  My husband is a bladder cancer survivor.  He was hospitalized in February with an embolism.  In May, he was in a terrible car wreck.  He survived with the grace of God.  He was hospitalized.  He's been in constant pain since.  Let me add that we were supposed to leave for France, a bucket list vacation, the day after his wreck.  He's been in the hospital since last Thursday with a bone infection.  Good news is that he comes home today.
I am at my all time high.  Not a good time for a stress eater these last few months.  I need boot camp.  Any suggestions?  I'm up 12 lbs.

Janet 

Janet, My thoughts and prayers are with you right now.  You and your husband have been through so much.  Try not to be too hard on yourself right now.  Once he is home and all is settled, then do your boot camp.  Right now, take care of you as you take care of him.  I am a stress eater too so I understand what you are talking about.  For now be gentle with yourself.  Eat your protein first, drink your water, drink some protein shakes when you need that "something" but not sure what it is.  And above all, try to get some rest.  Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help.  I am not that far away.

Lots of hugs sent your way.....

Dee

I am so sorry for your troubles! I hope hubby recuperates so that your plans will come to fruition.

As I was reading your post all I could think was that this lady really needs a massage! Maybe you can treat yourself to a massage or have a friend do it for you. A relaxing meditative massage can relieve so much stress.

Hope things improve dramatically for you guys. Hugs!

Hi Janet,
I couldn't help but notice your tag line:  "My health, my responsibility."  I think right now you need to have that quote center in your mind.  You are going to need all the strength you can get right now and eating healthy foods is going to give you your strength.  You also are going to need plenty of energy and the best way to feel energetic is to move your body and give it proper nutrition.  Please, please take care of your health so you can help your husband heal.  I know this is a very stressful time for you but you need to be the best you can be.  Please remember to take care of yourself.  If you need help, do not be afraid to ask your friends, or family for help.  Also, I would highly recommend you clean out your pantry of any trigger foods and stock up on wholesome foods that will nourish and help both of you to feel better.

Good luck to you!  We are all here for you so please come back.

For real boot camp? I think we talked about it - Mine is Camp Gladiator. Next camp starts Monday. Go to www.campgladiator.com for a list of times/days, etc. Or PM me and I can give you more info. You know I LOVE LOVE LOVE it!!

I'm so sorry to read that you've been going through so much.  Are you able to sleep?  I know my weight always creeps up a pound when i don't sleep and you've been going through this for months. 

As I read your post, I just kept thinking, "go back to basics".  Load the house with WLS appropriate foods that you love and don't binge on. Eat protein first, dump the carbs, hydrate, vitamins, sleep and get in any movement that you can.  Your body will take care of yourself.   Please check in and let us know how you're doing.

I thought the massage idea was grand!

Janet, my heart goes out to you and your husband.  I really think this is a time to simplify your eating.  I would cook something that lasts and is on your program and portion it out and freeze it.  I would even make a number of meals like that and have them at the ready for you so that you don't have to think about it.  Try to focus on reestablishing normalcy in your sleeping and eating patterns.  Take time to feel your feelings and don't eat them.  I know this is so much easier said then done, but you can do it.  Make special time to feel your sadness, fear and grief.  When my Dad died unexpectedly only two weeks after the birth of my son and I wanted to fall apart but couldn't, the shower is where I would grieve openly and then pull myself together for my son.  I found that having a special time and place to feel my feelings helped me.  More then losing weight right now, I think I would focus on just not gaining any and later you can try to lose again.  Hugs and prayers are being sent your way.  I am so sorry you are going through this.

So sorry you are dealing with all this. It is enough to drive you to the m and m's. We have all done it for lesser reasons. Please just remind yourself that eating badly and hurting your own health won't do you or your husband any good. Not sure I would try to go on any super rigorous routine but try to get a walk and a bubble bath in for yourself when you can. Your husband is going to need your care and he will need healthy high protein meals to promote healing so just concentrate on  healthy for both of you. And join in on the 5pm conference call as a stress reducer and find some other phone-a-friends to yack with and reduce stress. Really helps take your mind off whats in the kitchen.

I bet with your husband home you will be focused on his care and maybe do less stress eating. While in the hospital you must have felt pretty helpless. Make your health and his health your joint mission. Please let us know how you are doing.   Diane.

I am so sorry that you and your husband are having such alot of pain and suffering.
When I think of bone infection, I think of long term IV antibiiotics.  Is your husband going to have to continue on IVs at home?
My thoughts and prayers are with you both.
I am so sorry you are having to delay your bucket list vacation to France also. 
I do not have any eating advice, I have never been a stress eater.  I didn't have any such reasons for my overeating.  The only times I was able to lose weight before VSG, I was under severe stress.   It always took away my appetite, and made it all but impossible for me to eat. 
I just wanted to extend my best wishes and let you know that I would be praying for you both.  
 
 

 
Yah know......

As much as I preach about not letting anybody or anything get in your way......

Sometimes life does get in the way..........

I'd say.....concentrate on not gaining......and exercise......exercise will have two benefits.....the aerobic calorie burning and the endorphins for relieving stress/depression.

Hope things turn for the good !

frisco