What do you want ? ?

Men, what do they want you hear it said "what do women want?" I want to know what do men want. My hubby is driving me NUTS the other night he's *****in, MAJOR *****IN about havin leftover but last night He suggested the leftovers UGH! Then we go to bed and he fussed that I don't dress sexy and that I dont turn him on  A few days ago he was mad - pissed is more like - that I had been walking around the HOUSE in a tight tank tops.your suppose to love a person good or bad but anyway. So Men PLEASE help me understand before I lose it 

I am sorry you and your husband are having troubles.  This is not "men', this is your husband.  Something other than leftovers and what you are wearing is bothering him.  When you find that you are fighting about everything that means you are fighting about nothing, and the real issue is hidden.  Try to help him figure out what is really going on. What is the underlying issue?  It might be about your weight loss and insecurities, or it might have nothing whatsoever to do with you.  The two of you should talk it out in a peaceful moment.  Maybe start by saying something really sweet to him and then follow it up with that you have noticed he is less then content these days and does he have any idea what is bothering him.  Then tell him you love him.  In other words sandwich the issue.

THANK YOU ! for the input I'll try what you suggested. Hopefully we will have some time to talk this weekend. I'll post if or what I find out. Anymore suggestion are more than welcome!

I agree< something is wrong..give it your best shot at asking and understanding... I am annoyingly realistic.. were it me, and my husband said I didn't turn him on, he'd be  sleeping somewhere else, and I would be lighting someone else's fire... just sayin",
life is short, we all deserve happiness, something is bothering him, is anything bothering you?
When we do so much for our husbands and at some point feel like a maid or a room mate, and feel unappreciated, we stop trying, if there is no reciprocation )they sure notice when their needs aren't being met don't they??But don't stop to wonder about ours or why..
May I suggest a wonderful book by Gary Chapman, it's called the 5 Love Languages, it's amazing, simple, and a miracle 'fix'
usually somethings broken somewhere, and if that's the case, this book is the best 'glue' ever!
Marriage is hard work, there isn't always an easy answer,  But I am a firm believer if you don't feed them at home, they will find dinner elsewhere...  and if they aren't worth feeding, then let 'em!

"But I am a firm believer if you don't feed them at home, they will find dinner elsewhere...  and if they aren't worth feeding, then let 'em!"

i love that,  lmao,  never heard that one before,  I'm gonna steal that  i hope you don't mind. :o) jeani

Hey sweetie,  i haven't been in a relationship for a while now  lol so no fresh advice,  but i do know that today is my one year and you are right behind me, and in this last year so many things have changed.  Sometimes we get so caught up in what we are experiencing,  because it is powerful stuff,  and we don't realize how much everything else is changing for everyone close to us as well,  and change is a hard thing to deal with.  He's probably unsure how to keep up maybe?  don't know, but a talk with love sounds like the best idea to me.  Talk about it,  we need to hear it in words,  i think,   anyway,  i hope the guys chime in i can't wait to hear what they have to say.  Anyway,  not an expert on relationships here but wanted to say congrats on a job well done,  and good luck handling your emotions and now everyone else's too.   I'm sure you'll figure it all out together.   Its a hellofaride    :o) jeani

Men can be confusing, so can women.  As a veteran of 36 years of marriage, all I can say is this too shall pass.  Some days there are things that seem too much to bear.  Sometimes these things drag on and on.  What's a crisis today may just be a distant memory in a few years.  I don't know what your core beliefs are, but it's that core that gets you through these things.  Love is an action, not a feeling.  My guess, and it's only a guess, is that he's bugged by something else and you're just an easy target.  Be patient.  If he's a good guy at the core this will pass.  Just my thoughts.

My best friend says: the fight is never about what you are fighting about.

Well, never may be a strong word, but he's often right.

I see so many post saying "stick with it" I'm all for trying to figure everything out but if you don't within a reasonable amount of time...move...the...hell...on. We only have one life, make sure it's a good one.

Just to add another 2 cents..... We are all imperfect, and you can't find a perfect man anywhere (or woman)so it goes without saying that all relationships will take work to keep them running smoothly.
Sorry you are having to go through a rough patch in the relationship, but I agree with previous posters who are recommending a talk with your husband to see what is really bothering him. I have often been guilty of the "lashing out at the nearest target" syndrome when something entirely different was actually bothering me. I would only realize it after the fact.
Sadly, I am sometimes a very slow learner.
God bless,