2 years out surgery, 1-1/2 for maintenance. Yaay.

I was doing them and love them, but now have started on a newish program where I only lift 2 times a week and then do a thing called a "metabolic workout" for 2 days, we shall see what that looks like and what the stats show come my dunk tank time!! 

Go you and P90x!!  I get so distracted that halfway through I start to think I need to trim my bangs or go clean the catbox (ha!  I do not even have a catbox!!).

I have to still do girlie pushups because I stove my toe in and then had to have part of it removed!!  But that's cool, its not forever!! 

I do not do real leg days between or right before Zumba for the same reason!  My legs are so weary and heavy that I do not get to exert like I would were my legs fresh. 

*chuckle*  Obviously, I am not a "work out just for the joy of working out" kind of gal :}

I am proud on you and your endurance abilities!! (biking AND the hour of P90x!  :})

HoundMama, you have so worked those weights.  Looking at your backside pics from before could have been me. My back stuff is just now going down.  I'm going to have to do some serious weights to get muscle underneath all this loose skin.

You've done such an admirable job.  Yes, with your body, but so much with your mind to help keep you off those ledges.

Kudos!!

Gasp! We got the matching backsides!! YAAY!! TWINNERS!! 

Thanks for being a most excellent encourager, a gentle soul, and just you you YOU! 

It will be easier to continue stuff like the weights when you can see that it really will change stuff!

*ahem* as soon as you are well and cleared from the doktor!  :}

Why am I still surprised when I see before pictures of people like you who are at goal?  Because it's like you never were overweight to begin with.  But of course I know you were, because why else would you be here on OH, in this forum?  But yea, it still blows my mind,

Your muscles.....your muscles......wow......just wow...

It was really interesting to see your journey in pictures.  The changes are amazing.

Great Job BL!

It happens in real life too, folks forget, or they see a picture of the me that they knew for YEARS and swear that I did not look like that. 

I always am thicker in pictures than in real life, but - well.  My rolls do not lie.  :}

And another thing about that too is - for me - to not get caught in the same forgetfulness, because the further out I get, the more folks treat me like I do not have the former bad habits that I have/had - the easier it is for *me* to just go with the flow - and that, my love, is the beginning of a ****e road with vomit scenery. 

So to speak.  :}

Thanks babygirl.  Thanks for sharing my journey and YOURS with me!!

Good point Good point.  We have to remember where we came from so that we don't accidently end up back there.  It's to easy to forget.

On the main board someone posted about a freind who is worried that she will change and forget.  Her friend said lots of people who have had WLS forget where they came from and end up looking at obese people the way society does, in a negative way.

I doubt I will be amoung that group.  But, I think it would be wise to put a before picture up on the fridge to help keep me in the game, and also to remind me where I came from.

Not trying to redirect people from your post, but if you are curious, here is the link to that thread.  It's a good read, very compelling and about this very issue.

http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/VSG/4390246/PISSED-THE-F-C K-OFF/

Cept, here is the thing, its not by accident that we end up back there - its one choice at a time LIKE EVERYTHING ELSE, but we make the choice without thinking/realizing/weighing who we REALLY are *not who we look like, not who people *think* we are* and what our real tendencies/bents/tender areas are.

I saw that thread, and one lady, I think, hit it on the head.  That young lady's list of stuff is all about how she looks, and I *can* dig it!  I can!!  But what she doesnt realize is - for a lot of folks, espy with tender filters, when she speaks with such disdain for the vessel she is toting around, then other people tend to hear "if she thinks that about herself, how disgusting must it be that she find me?"

And I think that's why my hairs stand up and my big damned mouth/fingers blurt out things, because for so many of us, this *really did* mean life or death to us.  It meant being able to move, wipe our asses, provide for our people, have less pain, breathe easier, make it up the freaking stairs, find a way to grab a tool to get us out of the holes we were in, and when some folks its more of a just getting back to comfortable in their skin thing I can appreciate it, but sometimes we dont realize our compliments/encouragement to one are really *****slaps to folks who are not/wont ever be anything like the one that our heart was to be supportive to. 

My heart hurts when we make it only about how we look, and folks will touch on stuff that will ruin their family, tear their hearts out - and then sum it all up with "but hey!  isnt it great I can do all this damage to me and mine in X size britches!!"

But, yea - that's again, just my filter, my bent, my tender spot.  I havent gotten to the point where I am disgusted with anyone, how they eat, what they eat, it just hurts my heart cuz the thing that drives them to self destruction?

I have a double order of that in my psyche, supersize the flogging please, that I work really hard to stay aware of - because old habits dont die after a year or 2 or 5 of being X size/weight.

And when life squeezes us - all those old things we had done for X years before to comfort ourselves?  Well, they are like those ratty assed sweatpants and huge t-shirt with stains and holes that are so easy to slip into, and it doesnt matter how much **** you get on them, cuz when you are living in those things?  Numbz the word baby.

Blarh! I digress!

I would say to you, only put that picture of you on your friend if you find that to be POSITIVE encouragement. 

Nothing tastes better than thin feels really only works when everything is good - when you hurt, life is **** your people are on your nerves and you cant stand your job, again - old habit siren songs.. they have a gravitational pull of their own. 

Muwah baby.

I see your point.  Her list was all about looks.  I want looks too, but like you said, health too.  curing my co- morbidity's, caring for my family,  longevity,  not strapping a CPAP mask on everynight were more important. 

So right right you are, you can look at the big picture, but it's baby steps, one cookie at a time to arrive back at where you were.  It's kind of like hoarding.  A person goes out and buys a few things every day.  It doesn't "seem" like much, but over a period of time there is an accumulation of crappola that requires a fork lift to remove.  Those small eating choices everyday can add up to a huge accumulation of excess pounds on our frames.  How did they get there???  One ounce at a time.....just one ounce.  Seems small right???  NO, not small....not at all.  Accumulation......baby steps...even baby steps can carry you a long way when they accumulate.

 Maybe this is how her obese friend viewed her list. She is probably feeling that her WLS friend disapproves of her, the way she is rejecting and disapproving of  her own weight, thus having WLS to remedy it.   I mean that as in having WLS to get thin because she disapproves and rejects being obese. Her obese friend maybe feels betrayed?  What a touchy subject.

Maybe I don't need a picture.  Maybe I need a little plaque that says "Inside this skinny ***** lives a sugar eating, grazing  machine that will constantly need supervision" 

I also *TOTALLY* understand she is coming from a way different place in her life than I am too!  :} 

and honestly?  I couldnt wear my husband's anything and have it big on me if I were 87 years dead.  Cremated, maybe, but you love who you love - and loving someone for their heart and their sweet spirit, well that lasts longer than the pretty, cuz honey - WE GETZ OLD AND WRANKLY! You know, if we live long enough and cant afford surgical alternatives.  :} 

IT IS EXACTLY LIKE HOARDING *for those of us who are prone to the overdo - in whatever* we can get distracted and think choices dont matter until the tipping point - and then we think WTF ISS HAPPENNNINGGHEEREE!!??

It is a touchy subject, AND its a touchy subject fueled with tender emotions AND hormones from quick weight loss.  :} 

You put whatever on there that is going to ENCOURAGE you to make good/better/best choices 90 percent of the time, and the other 10 - make fun choices cuz you WANT them, not because you were too lazy to make an excellent choice!

This will serve you well!

I love your heart, Trish.  I do.

Aint that the truth.  My husband loves me thin, fat, young and old.  And I feel the same about him.

You know, if I can forget where the peeps who are at goal came from.  I could certainly forget where I came from.  Yes, I am going to need a reminder to keep me from taking baby steps down the wrong road. 

I love the way you write.  You always make me think.  You're like Forrest Gumps Mama:

Momma always had a way of explaining things so I could understand them.~ Forrest Gump