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Relationship with Food.....xpost on VSG Main
Relationship with Food.......
I’d like to address/share something I realized I’m going through......
I realized I haven't been really educated on what my after surgery/maintenance life should be or could be. It’s so easy to believe that food is the “Enemy".....The very thing that was your friend in need. When we were fat and hiding from life the only thing that gave us comfort was food. Food made us fat..... food “must" be the enemy.....food is bad....food is evil. Heck we even had major surgery to make our food receptor so small we can only eat very little of this horrible thing called food. Food is poison and food is killing us!!!!
We read daily on this forum about people apprehensive about having WLS because they/we are going to have to give up food. A new person coming to this forum or attending there first seminar hears/reads that your limited to 3-4 oz. of food......the very first thought is that “eating is over". A lot of people come into WL and this forum thinking that there relationship/addiction/habits with food is stronger than everybody else's. Lots of people/myself can blame there family/culture on there connection to food as some kind of need that comes from a higher level.
No.... I’m not just a normal over eating fat person..... I’m at super level....higher than most of you all because my family does this or my culture does that....or they think there hunger is more vicious than the next person and food ends up being the enemy because we learn... don’t eat this and don’t eat that and only eat this much of that...
I’ve realized that there is a “big" part of this process/education that is missing......
A re-introduction to food with a positive spin...... Work with food....not against food.....food is not the enemy...... food is our friend..... just not the same friend we had before that tempted us to use crack and heroin......
Many of you have seen the food pictures I’ve posted. I realized that this is my way of embracing/sharing/educating myself with my new relationship with food. I choose to not make food the enemy....I choose to work with food in the way it will benefit me and enhance my life in a positive way.
When I post these pictures I’ve noticed a varied response. Sometimes I think it’s bad because it’s temps some people into eating or wanting food....which could be perceived as a bad thing. My intention is to show/share that food can be a good thing.
Work with food.... and food will work with you.
frisco
SW 338lbs. GW 175lbs. Goal in 11 months. CW 148lbs. WL 190lbs.
" To eat is a necessity, but to eat intelligently is an art "
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I liken it to my days in college. For awhile I fell in with a hard partying group of friends who liked to drink, smoke, party all night. I enjoyed it at first... but it started affecting me in negative ways. I realized that this wasn't the group of friends that would help me be the best person I could be, and I went searching for others with interests and lifestyles that more reflected my own.
With food it is the same. By nature we can't be without food/friends - to reject them would be unnatural and rather unhealthy mentally and physically. But we can certainly choose our food/friends with our best interests at heart.
Nice food for thought for the day...
Hally
same with hunger, when people are afraid to be hungry I want to scream: hunger is GOOD - then you can be normal and learn to EAT - which is also good - when you are hungry and then you can be satisfied!
hurray for food!
once upon a time I had a group to talk about Binge Eating Disorder, and later one about Clean Eating.
PM me if you are interested in either of these.
size 8, life is great
Very well stated Frisco. We must deal with food, so let's have a civil relationship. Food is still fun, we simply must be wise about it. I really like the whole protein first mantra, since the proteins really benefit us. And we can all find new ways to liven things up and make it a pleasure. Well said! 
Goal range: 130-135 lbs. Lowest:119.7 Current weight 142lbs Height: 5' 2" almost
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5'6" Start-276 Goal-150 Weight loss Preop=5 Month 1=25 Month 2=10 Month 3=14 Month 4=3 Month 5=7 Month 6=9 Month 7=7 Month 8=7 Month 9=9 Month 10=7 Month 11=5 Month 12=5 Month 13=3 Month 14=4 
I know this doesn't work for everyone, but now my attitude is that food is for my health, nourishment, and not for enjoyment, pleasure, boredom or any other emotion. I had to do that because for me if I didn't I would USE food for the wrong reasons.
Having surgery didn't change the compulsions that I have to overeat, and the sleeve doesn't stop me completely from overeating on some foods or from TRYING to overeat. So I gladly traded those foods for all of the benefits of being 150 pounds lighter. I definitely feel I got the better end of the bargain.
Start weight: 388, Current Weight: 185, Goal Weight: 180, Weight Lost: 203 lbs
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3/2012 Plastics: LBL, 3 Hernias Fixed, BL/BA, Rhinoplasty & Septum Fix. 6/2013 Plastics: Arm and thigh lift
1) Not every fat person has the same demons and got fat for the same reason. Food was never my friend. I didn't mourn it. I looked forward to giving up the battle, in fact.
2) I do get tired of the constant "battle" that I see on the boards ... and not just this one, but any board where people are trying to lose weight. Holidays are the worst. I find it tiring at best, worrying at its worst. I would like to see people give up their fight with food and approach it more dispassionately. BUT:
3) I think that food shouldn't be our friend. It's okay to have a "friendly" relationship with it, to enjoy its company so to speak. But it's not a friend. It's fuel. It's fuel that has varying quality and that can be enjoyable (or not) but it's primary purpose is fuel and it's secondary purpose is pleasure (eating is sensual in nature), but it's never should be a friend -- that's what people are for.
HW - 225 SW - 191 GW - 132 CW - 122
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Some people might not support my WLS decision.
Those people remind me of slinkys. Not good for much but it would would bring a smile to my face if someone pushed them down the stairs.
Ticker includes Pre-op weight loss 24 lb.
