I have had the worst week in a long time ...

... and I can't binge eat over it!  It made me realize that I have developed no new coping skills for stress.

When I was losing weight, the high from losing was all I needed.  When I was sick and in the hospital and nursing home with serious spinal issues about a year and a half ago, I couldn't really eat much anyway and became emaciated.  Now I don't know how to cope.

I had an enormous fight with my boss, who is a real piece of work, and I was sure the personel committee was going to sack me.  They, however, backed me up.  The stress of the situation, though, and now having to work with her, is unbelievable.  I am totally a "no conflict" person, and this is awful.

Then today I got a well-deserved speeding ticket.  I've never had one before in my life!

I wanted to binge-eat so badly!  Normally I live a pretty stress-free life, except for lingering physical disability and pain from the spinal problems.  This has side-swiped me.

So instead, I just came here to unload on you all, sigh.  Thanks, everyone.
--Dorothy 

I'm sorry you've been having a hard time. Maybe some exercise or relaxation techniques will help you cope with the stress you've been under?

 Huggs to you!

Oh man...what a rotten week you've had.  How cool that the personnel comittee backed you...how cool is that??????  But I understand how stressful it must have been.  Conflict and confrontation are some powerful stressers.  Most people avoid confrontation.  Give yourself a big hug, even though it was hard, you won.  You stood up for yourself and there is nothing wrong with that.  You done good (((((hugs)))))

Would a nice soak in a hot tub make you feel physically and mentally better?  With some lit candles and a glass of your favorite wine help?  I think it's spa day for you.  You deserve it.

So sorry about your spinal problems.  It sounds painful. 

What a great idea to come here and unload versus binge eating.  You are doing great. 

Don't beat yourself up over one ticket in your whole life.  This to shall pass......it's over, move on.  Everyone gets a ticket sooner or later....but it does suck....I understand.

((((((hug))))))

That's tough, Dorothy. I'm glad the committee backed you up but that must be terribly stressful.

I am so sorry to hear what an awful week you had...hopefully the weekend will be better.

Just wanted to say hang in there and send you a big hug!!

Patty

Maybe you do have new coping skills if you aren't binging. I would probably be eating a lot of  ice cream after a week like you had.

We are all so lucky to have our OH friends. Big hugs ro you!

OK, Dorothy, my first thought? if you "can't" binge you aren't trying hard enough.
  because I can!    it isn't the same, exactly, but I sure can.

but hang on, you ARE coping!  you came here and talked about how you feel - you didn't say to yourself I CAN'T tolerate this and ...what, get drunk? charge $1000 online shopping? suck down ice cream until you are sick as a dog?

good for you - THIS is coping!!  

Thanks, Fur-mom :-)  And yes, I actually can binge ... and do in my own way, but it isn't the same, as you say.  The "relief" I used to feel when I binged, I believe, was stuffing down food for long periods of time.  Now, a minute or two and I'm stuffed.  I can't keep it up long enough to feel relief from whatever I'm "using" over.  This is the first time in my almost three years post-op that I've realized this!

And thanks, everyone, for your support.  I also just got confirmation from a Christian friend that I had done the right thing, even though giving my boss a piece of my mind didn't feel right to me at some level.  So, many thanks, y'all.     
--Dorothy

Dorothy, I haven't been on the boards for a few days, so this is a bit late, but I just want you to know that I am really sorry you had a terrible week.  I am glad you couldn't eat over it, and I am really glad you could come here and talk to everybody and reduce your stress a bit.  Talking to a friend is a great way to deal with it. 

The way I look at tickets is that they are another form of tax.  When I get them, which is rare, I just tell myself that it is another way I am contributing to society.  It helps a little bit to re-frame it. 

I hope your boss does not retaliate against you, but if she does you might want to keep a journal of what happened and when and who was involved.  You never know when you will need it.