VSG Maintenance Group
Mourning the loss of Brandilynn
Wondering why I feel such a loss when one of my OH friends leaves. I also miss Bikerchikk, and worry about Hayley's health. Why? I gave this some thought last night.
I came to OH in July, 2009. I've been here pretty much daily since. Yes, I have a life, but that life includes OH. My OH friends have been here for me since the beginning. You have given me encouragement when I needed it and helped me celebrate my accomplishments. We have laughed and had some great conversations. Only you truly understand the trials and tribulations of being obese and the feeling of self satisfaction that comes with losing the weight. Only you understand how our "Sleevie Wonders" work and how difficult "Trixie *****" can be. Only you can understand the joy of having the opportunity to make the life changing decision of WLS.
I have found over time that all of us have ups and downs (literally and figuratively) in our lives. For all I know, you are all trolls and your pictures are all fake. But I don't think so. Because I can read in your threads the pain of being obese and the happiness at being able to lose the weight. That's real.
All of this has made me feel like you are truly my friends. Sometimes I want to pick up the phone and call and say "Let's go shopping!" Even Jimbo and Frisco - hey, they would be fun to drag along.
Losing one of my OH friends makes me feel like there's a broken link to my success in this journey. So it's about me. My loss. My fear----I've lost a comrade and that also means that I might fail. Truth. It hurts. It's scary. It's reality.
So, I want all of you to know that you are a very important part of my journey. I suspect that many of you feel the same way. I don't know what I would do without all of you.
We've come a long way, baby. Thanks to all of you!
Group hug.
I came to OH in July, 2009. I've been here pretty much daily since. Yes, I have a life, but that life includes OH. My OH friends have been here for me since the beginning. You have given me encouragement when I needed it and helped me celebrate my accomplishments. We have laughed and had some great conversations. Only you truly understand the trials and tribulations of being obese and the feeling of self satisfaction that comes with losing the weight. Only you understand how our "Sleevie Wonders" work and how difficult "Trixie *****" can be. Only you can understand the joy of having the opportunity to make the life changing decision of WLS.
I have found over time that all of us have ups and downs (literally and figuratively) in our lives. For all I know, you are all trolls and your pictures are all fake. But I don't think so. Because I can read in your threads the pain of being obese and the happiness at being able to lose the weight. That's real.
All of this has made me feel like you are truly my friends. Sometimes I want to pick up the phone and call and say "Let's go shopping!" Even Jimbo and Frisco - hey, they would be fun to drag along.
Losing one of my OH friends makes me feel like there's a broken link to my success in this journey. So it's about me. My loss. My fear----I've lost a comrade and that also means that I might fail. Truth. It hurts. It's scary. It's reality.
So, I want all of you to know that you are a very important part of my journey. I suspect that many of you feel the same way. I don't know what I would do without all of you.
We've come a long way, baby. Thanks to all of you!
Group hug. Wanda
Some people might not support my WLS decision.
Those people remind me of slinkys. Not good for much but it would would bring a smile to my face if someone pushed them down the stairs.
Ticker includes Pre-op weight loss 24 lb.
Some people might not support my WLS decision.
Those people remind me of slinkys. Not good for much but it would would bring a smile to my face if someone pushed them down the stairs.
Ticker includes Pre-op weight loss 24 lb.
Very well said. And I wholly agree. The first thing I do every morning, well, after I pee, is check on my OH friends! And I miss people when they are absent too. HayLey, BikerChic, and now Brandilynn and Balizesleeve. It's a loss to all of us. Not many people in the world understand what we are going through, but you guys "get it". I'm in on the group hug! Highest weight ever recorded: 224lbs. Surgery weight: 194 lbs.
Goal range: 130-135 lbs. Lowest:119.7 Current weight 142lbs Height: 5' 2" almost
Goal range: 130-135 lbs. Lowest:119.7 Current weight 142lbs Height: 5' 2" almost
I meant to mention Cindy too. There are others, too many to mention. Everyone has something to contribute. It's hard to see them go.
Wanda
Some people might not support my WLS decision.
Those people remind me of slinkys. Not good for much but it would would bring a smile to my face if someone pushed them down the stairs.
Ticker includes Pre-op weight loss 24 lb.
Some people might not support my WLS decision.
Those people remind me of slinkys. Not good for much but it would would bring a smile to my face if someone pushed them down the stairs.
Ticker includes Pre-op weight loss 24 lb.
I have missed Brandilynn's posts but assumed she was just taking a break and would be back. Cindy, too, I am thinking she will be back.
what did BL say, did she explain?
what did BL say, did she explain?
once upon a time I had a group to talk about Binge Eating Disorder, and later one about Clean Eating.
PM me if you are interested in either of these.
size 8, life is great
I didn't see any explanation from Brandi. I can understand when someone takes a break, then comes back. But deactivating seems pretty permanent. Makes me sad. Sad for me, but sad for her. Something must be going on in her life that made this happen. Wish I could help.
Wanda
Some people might not support my WLS decision.
Those people remind me of slinkys. Not good for much but it would would bring a smile to my face if someone pushed them down the stairs.
Ticker includes Pre-op weight loss 24 lb.
Some people might not support my WLS decision.
Those people remind me of slinkys. Not good for much but it would would bring a smile to my face if someone pushed them down the stairs.
Ticker includes Pre-op weight loss 24 lb.
I agree with you Wanda!
I don't have any of Brandilynn's personal contact info but I think that Sublimate has spoken with her on the phone.
Sublimate - have you talked with Ms. BL? Please let her know she is missed if you do get in touch with her!
I don't have any of Brandilynn's personal contact info but I think that Sublimate has spoken with her on the phone.
Sublimate - have you talked with Ms. BL? Please let her know she is missed if you do get in touch with her!
Jean I'm 45, 5' 4-1/2" -- 315/272/230 -- 43 lbs lost pre-op
"Progress, not perfection..." ~Dr. Roger Gould
Breast reduction & lift - 11/11/11 (sooo wonderful!!!)
I too will miss BL. She has always been the voice of reason and so encouraging. I love her sense of humor and straight forward attitude. I think there was a lot to learn from her and I loved the way she posted.
I'm sure Cindy will be back (or at least hope so!!) and we will all be glad to see her post. I also worry/wonder about bikerchick & Hayley. Hopefully they are out enjoying life.
I do not post as often as I did but I am on OH every single day. I think in a way we all get caught up in each other's lifes because we can relate to so many situations/hopes/concerns so it keeps me coming back for updates.
I honestly do not know how I would have got through the past year without the support of my OH friends. I understand we are each on our own journey but it def helps to have a place you can go to where everyone gets what you are going through.
We have all def come along way and I too am in on the group hug!!
I'm sure Cindy will be back (or at least hope so!!) and we will all be glad to see her post. I also worry/wonder about bikerchick & Hayley. Hopefully they are out enjoying life.
I do not post as often as I did but I am on OH every single day. I think in a way we all get caught up in each other's lifes because we can relate to so many situations/hopes/concerns so it keeps me coming back for updates.
I honestly do not know how I would have got through the past year without the support of my OH friends. I understand we are each on our own journey but it def helps to have a place you can go to where everyone gets what you are going through.
We have all def come along way and I too am in on the group hug!!
HW: 228/GW: 140/CW: 134
