I had a binge last night

angry face!! 

well, I'm doing something about it & I'm going at it a bit differently than previously. I could talk about why I am feeling extra stress - nothing wrong with venting - and a plan for dealing with stress - a plan is good - but right now I am keeping it SIMPLE and EASY. so here goes.

the very simplest reason I binge is because it's a freaking habit. I have been bingeing since I was eleven years old at least (and I'm 49) and I know this has worn a very deep rut in my brain. the marble of behavior falls into the rut very easily and rolls down hill and I'm going to have to wear a different rut and it will take a lot of effort and time.   well, FINE.

the old rut is very simple: I like eatingeatingeatingeating and I associate the VERY FULL feeling (a little too full all the way up to curling up in a fetal position with the pain) with, somehow, GOOD.

the new rut will be equally simple: I like STOPPING after feeling full. I like the feeling of not being too full (what is a positive way to phrase that?). I like feeling my abdomen is FLAT (not pooching at all) I like feeling LIGHT.

SO: new plan to post every day but this will NOT be in the morning when I am at my best, this will be in the danger zone, afternoon or evening. this might evolve after I see how it goes but for now I will be planning to say AFFIRMATIONS. I will be saying (and practicing feeling) the new rut I am forming.

I LIKE PUTTING THE FORK DOWN. I ENJOY FEELING LIGHT. I NOW ENJOY FEELING MY TUMMY BEING FLAT.

you get the idea.  see you later today. 

Hug, Jackie.  I'm struggling with bingeing, too, *sigh*.  Can't seem to get a grip.
--Dorothy

Hi Dorothy!

I think I am on to something - the exercise thing sort of turned a lightbulb on over my head. no, I don't want to train for a marathon and I don't keep going to the gym but I can find things I don't mind doing and then do them, even just a little bit.

I can do this to and I will.

hugs to you & just keep trying til you hit on what helps. then use it!

Hey Jackie darlin...

You are ME.  So I've been bingeing FOREVER as well.  To the point where I just RECENTLY realized that even though I have restriction I EAT to full with that.  For me my max intake of food is about 8-10oz total and depending on what I eat I often feel FULL which I often associated with "full & satisfied."  So lately about a month or so I've been trying to cut down my meals from 8-10 down to about 4-6 and like you TELLING myself that I don't NEED to have that OMG the food is up to the throat feeling to be satisfied.

This is also why I have to PLAN my meals and PORTION my food.  I have gone super back to weighing and measuring my food.  Using my 1/4 & 1/2 cup measuring cups/spoons to spoon out my food and making it LEVEL.  I have been STOPPING while eating and not just shoveling so my meals are lasting longer as opposed to being gone.  AND once it's gone I just STOP and reassess my body and mind.

It's been working and I'm thrilled.  Much success...

Ms Shell

as the wise Ms Shell has said, whatever works for you. 

I am just USED to feeling "stuffed" like that is the goal. going to change that! 

of course, there are issues of FEELINGS and dealing with them and so on but the bottom line is I have been stuffing myself for a long long time. doesn't mean I have to keep doing it.

Yup like Elina said...you address the problem and make a PLAN...

I am so USED to feeling stuffed I don't know what have room means BUT I'm working on it =)

Yes! Yes! Yes!  Me too!  Me too!  Thank you for this thread!  In case you can't tell, I am jumping up and down over here crying I want to stop this madness too!   I am with you all the way.  I think most of us got MO by binge eating.   I think it is very common and your idea about creating a new pathway is brilliant and inspired.  I am in.  My favorite part of your idea is posting in the late evening when our defenses are the most worn out.  Love it. 

Yesterday, I went to my friends Passover Seder and for dessert they served home made gelato with charoset on top.  Charoset is peeled and grated apples with nuts, sweet wine and honey.  I served some to my husband and asked him if I could just share a little of his.  He told me that would be a good idea.  Well, I chose a tiny coffee spoon and sat next to him.  I then proceeded to shovel the gelato into my mouth at an Olympic record speed.  Somehow the tiny spoon was supposed to make the calorie count smaller.  My husband literally started to laugh and told me that I look like a squirrel trying to get all the food in as fast as possible.  Very funny.  This is my life.  I bet there are others that can relate.  Granted, this is unusual for me, but the binge monster lives in my head and is just waiting for a good opportunity like last night. 

I never did get the eating slow habit!     well, it aint over!

I fell into the same trap on Sunday... and just as quickly as I got in the ****hole, I got out of it.  Best of luck with this new method.

Jackie don't be so hard on yourself! 

How about instead of eating, callng a friend? I'd be happy to PM my number. Besides, I wanted to tell you I am going down to Mexicali to have some face work done and I am going to stay with
Michelle!