really having a tough time

 Hi all...  I have been having a really really hard time.. I do good for a day or two then crave everything.. I dont' know whats happening, but it is a hard time in my life.. my SO lost his job of 21 years and has a severance but is at home with me all the time for now lol..
   I hurt my knee and have had 2 steroid injections, have to wait a month for synvisc..  The lupus and fibro make everything hurt.. the only exercise i can do is water arthritis and swimming... the dr says this is why i cant lose more weight, i hope he is wrong...  
  He talked to me about the possiblilty of doing the bypass but the Lupus can make me a non candidate..  do i want more surgery... NO, but i dont want to be stuck at this weight either.. It seems to me that bypass patients have more gainback, more stretching etc.. maybe its my imagination..
  sorry for the rambling.. just need some input.. some butt kicking i guess..  

I have been battling food demons for the paste 6 months.  You are craving after good days because you have been eating the foods.  It's like any other drug when you go without you have withdrawls, so if you want this you are going to have to FIGHT and NOT give in.

I understand stress and OUR compulsion to eat or what not when stressed but WE are going to have to find OTHER ways to deal with stress because guess what?  Stress ain't going nowhere it's US that are going to have to change.

As far as exercise...focus on what you can do not what you cant.  Can you say lift weights while watching tv from a chair?  or any arm movement.  Do you have access to a pool?

Having more surgery IS NOT going to make you eat the right foods.  Carbs/Sugar/Chips is the demon for ANY surgery so if you don't have that under control it doesn't matter what surgery you have.  I also believe RnYers have more regain because there fake stomachs are more prone to stretching etc.

Your life and your future with your surgery is all up to YOU.

Now in all this you haven't mentioned YOUR restriction with "GOOD HEALTHY FOODS?"  I know for me I can eat a truck load of "crap" food but still restricted with meats and vegetables and the like.  Is that the same for you?

Ms Shell

 Thanks Ms Shell :)  I sure missed you when i wasnt posting.. Yes, i can eat a lot more junk slider foods than real food.. I would say i eat 6 to 8 ozs of real food..   
  I do go to arthritis classes at the Y..  swim laps.. i try to stay focused on the good stuff..  
I know i am in charge of the surgery..  I just had my heart set on getting this pannus gone and my bmi is too high.. surgeon will do it but says very high risk of not healing right.  thanks again

Yeah doing classes.  Just remember the GOOD stuff.  I know we want what we want when we want it (the pannus removed) but REMEMBER your health would be in danger if you did.  So now just keep moving foward and downward.

On another note I read you "think" your sleeve is to big but is 6-8oz of REAL food really to much?  I know that's what my sleeve ended up and I think it's a little less then "normal" but more then most IF and this is IF I eat how I should and not how I WISH I could still eat.

I am not sure what all to tell you, but very sorry you are having such a hard time. stress is aweful & certainly makes it harder to eat right.
 
I would think you could do some other exercises - yoga? "sit and be fit"? 
 
since you already have the first part of it, if you do need a revision it makes a lot more sense to revise to a DS than a bypass.

meanwhile, I am against butt k icking so big hugs instead!

 Thank you for the hugs.. i really dont want to have to revise to anything.  For some reason though, my surgeons dont do DS at all because of the huge amount of malabsorption and deficiences with it..  I love my sleeve..  i think it was too big from the get go...  

Sorry you are stuggling, if you want support and to challenge yourself, feel free to join us on Sleevin' & Acheivin' thread, the Daily Weigh In Thread, the Exercise Thread and the Watcha Eatin' thread.  Geat people and great support there.  We just started a new 30 Day Challenge...

Hugs,

Cindy

 Thank you i will check out the threads... 

Hugs, Cindy.  I'm struggling, too, and also have fibro, as well as some disability from a spinal surgery gone wrong.  But that is not why I'm struggling.  I'm struggling because I have gone back to eating crap.  Best wishes to both of us....
--Dorothy