VSG Maintenance Group
I am about to cut myself some slack...
Wow, my sweet dear friends. I cannot thank each of you enough... I feel so different today... relaxed, focused on other things, i am getting stuff done. I am climbing out of my rut and bit of depression or whatever the heck I was feeling... in one day?! How is this possible.
I feel a great weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I don't feel I have to stuff it all in there, I have the rest of my lfie to get it in, 'if' I want it. Not until Monday or Thursday or the beginning of the next "diet" or "goals" or "Sleevin' & Acheivin" or "Life Time Maintenance Goals", or whatever I am calling it this time... just me and food and eating because I am actualy hungry, not becuase I gotta get it in before someone (me) tells me to stop it...
What a releif. What a treat, to just relax about it all. I know what to do if and when I want to lose weight. For now I just want to 'be' and relax a bit...
I walked today, ate well, but not perfect, took my supplements, got a bunch of stuff done... had a good day, better than in a long time.
Thanks for your time, listening, encouragement, acceptance, words of wisdom... I admit I was looking for approval, and I should not need to do that, but I still need it, for now... something else to work on... It felt good to get such a positive response...
You guys mean a lot to me, I have pulled back ' yet again ' and will participate as much as I can, which is not much right now, when i am feeling better and up to it, I will be back, and I will keep posting the three threads I have committed to, and reading 'everything' you guys are writing...
Big long friendship hugs to each of you,
Cindy
I feel a great weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I don't feel I have to stuff it all in there, I have the rest of my lfie to get it in, 'if' I want it. Not until Monday or Thursday or the beginning of the next "diet" or "goals" or "Sleevin' & Acheivin" or "Life Time Maintenance Goals", or whatever I am calling it this time... just me and food and eating because I am actualy hungry, not becuase I gotta get it in before someone (me) tells me to stop it...
What a releif. What a treat, to just relax about it all. I know what to do if and when I want to lose weight. For now I just want to 'be' and relax a bit...
I walked today, ate well, but not perfect, took my supplements, got a bunch of stuff done... had a good day, better than in a long time.
Thanks for your time, listening, encouragement, acceptance, words of wisdom... I admit I was looking for approval, and I should not need to do that, but I still need it, for now... something else to work on... It felt good to get such a positive response...
You guys mean a lot to me, I have pulled back ' yet again ' and will participate as much as I can, which is not much right now, when i am feeling better and up to it, I will be back, and I will keep posting the three threads I have committed to, and reading 'everything' you guys are writing...
Big long friendship hugs to each of you,
Cindy
Cindy, I just wanted to add my support..and a big cyber hug. This whole weight loss thing, this journey that we're all on, is never going to end. It's forever. That's what gets me sometimes--and sometimes that fact scares and depresses me and other times, it's comforting. But the truth is, we all have to learn balance and how to be kind to ourselves without giving in to every single whim. And I think that's hard, at least it is for me, because I tend to be an all-or-nothing control person too. But we DO have the rest of our lives to learn how to make it work--and I believe that formula will be a little different for each of us. And not one of us will EVER be perfect.
So, I think you're right to relax with yourself for a bit, take stock of where you are and where you've come from, assess the cost/benefits of dieting to be thinner and try let go of THAT stress in your life, at least for now.. If you want to lose more later, like you said, you can. Your sleeve will be there. Or you may find you're okay where you are and that would be great too. You are a HUGE success and I am positive that you will continue to be because you are SO honest with yourself. It's not a sprint but a marathon, so it's okay to take a breather for a while--it will make you stronger for the long haul...
Lizanne
So, I think you're right to relax with yourself for a bit, take stock of where you are and where you've come from, assess the cost/benefits of dieting to be thinner and try let go of THAT stress in your life, at least for now.. If you want to lose more later, like you said, you can. Your sleeve will be there. Or you may find you're okay where you are and that would be great too. You are a HUGE success and I am positive that you will continue to be because you are SO honest with yourself. It's not a sprint but a marathon, so it's okay to take a breather for a while--it will make you stronger for the long haul...
Lizanne
Dear Cindy,
I am so very impressed with you sweetheart. You are doing exactly the right thing to stay in this game. You are not hiding from the truth, you are facing your demons and you are making great, calculated decisions about what is in your best interests at this moment. Like a great general, you know when to charge and when to recharge. Taking this time to get centered is a perfect choice. You will know later, how you should proceed. This is not a once and done preposition. This is a dance we need to learn for the rest of your lives. Your ability to stay connected to yourself and to us during a harder time with maintenance speaks to your maturity and commitment. I have no doubt that you will find your "happy" place with the weight and the food. I also have no doubt that that place will continue to shift through time. Just like it will for the rest of us. I continue to be humbled by the complexity and lack of permanence in this maintenance process. The sand keeps shifting and I find that I have to stay nimble to stay on top of it. For you right now staying on top of it just means taking it easy and riding the wave. Don't be afraid of it, just be willing to make corrections as needed. There is no decision you can make that will last a lifetime, any decision is only for now. Hugs to you and I am sending you peaceful vibes to help get you centered and happy with being wherever you need to be today.
I am so very impressed with you sweetheart. You are doing exactly the right thing to stay in this game. You are not hiding from the truth, you are facing your demons and you are making great, calculated decisions about what is in your best interests at this moment. Like a great general, you know when to charge and when to recharge. Taking this time to get centered is a perfect choice. You will know later, how you should proceed. This is not a once and done preposition. This is a dance we need to learn for the rest of your lives. Your ability to stay connected to yourself and to us during a harder time with maintenance speaks to your maturity and commitment. I have no doubt that you will find your "happy" place with the weight and the food. I also have no doubt that that place will continue to shift through time. Just like it will for the rest of us. I continue to be humbled by the complexity and lack of permanence in this maintenance process. The sand keeps shifting and I find that I have to stay nimble to stay on top of it. For you right now staying on top of it just means taking it easy and riding the wave. Don't be afraid of it, just be willing to make corrections as needed. There is no decision you can make that will last a lifetime, any decision is only for now. Hugs to you and I am sending you peaceful vibes to help get you centered and happy with being wherever you need to be today.
