SLEEVIN' & ACHIEVIN' - Goals & Check-In, Wednesday Mar23/11

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                      Our Personal Goals & Check-In, Tuesday Mar22/11
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Life Long Maintenance Plan Goals:  
1.  Check in:  Done 
2.  Weigh:  150.4 lbs
3.  Track Food:  B: 235 , S:   , L:    , S:   , D:  , S:      Total:   cals. - 
4.  Eat 3 meals & 2-3 snacks: Breakfast, lunch, 
5.  Water: Herbal Tea,
6.  Exercise: 4 miles...
7.  Vitamins & Supplements: 1st Set, 2nd set,
8.  Read:
9.  Participate on OH:
10. No Trigger Foods:

Random Thoughs: 
-  Eating worse than ever... (since I got my VSG, not in my whole life :)

Than EVER? In the whoooole history of crappy eating in your whole wide life?

Boo to out of control.  *squeeze* babygirl.

YES and NO!

No, not in my whole life as Cindy...

Yes, since I got my Sleeve.  I am buying junk and hiding it to eat when hubby is not around or when I am by myself on my walk.

I am skipping meals to eat junk.

I am eating out and not choosing healthy options.

It is pretty bad...

Cindy

cindy i read this today and found it interesting and maybe you can too...

A Brief Overview of the WLS Stages of Transformation™

 

 

Decision Point – The patient decides to have weight loss surgery.

- realizing we need help, coping with "easy way out" comments

Shock and Awe – The patient begins to feel "buyer's remorse" or are in awe of how little they can eat.
- buyers remorse, time of drastic change, of adjustment, of joy and awe (for some)

Quote:

Note - he made a special note at this point how important it is that we don't compare ourselves with others at this point. We are all different and our journeys will be different.

 

Grief and Loss – The patient feels sad about the loss of some foods, rituals, or even friends.
- many will experience losses other than weight including friends turning against you, sadness and change in us resulting in the desire for change in our world around us 

The Miracle – The patient feels invincible, like they will never overeat again.
- honeymoon period, can eat stuff was once or should be guilty eating and still loose, feel cured, for some fear of failure & fear will regain starts

Testing Limits – The patient goes back to foods that used to trigger them to overeat, like sweets.
this is gradual and food as well as emotional, taste trigger foods, loss of dumping, relationships change, transfer of addictions (30% of weight loss patients will become alcoholics), feel or are self sabotaging

Behavioral limits are tested, too, in this stage. Relationships can change, interpersonal boundaries can shift, and transfer addictions can begin to take hold.

 

End of Invincible – The "honeymoon" ends and the patient's eating can more easily affect your weight loss or weight maintenance.
weight loss rapid or at all is over, eating impacts weight with regain, struggle to lose, feel a slave to food, drive to eat is back, fear of regain intensifies, hunger comes back, surgeon may feel helpless while you feel they are dismissive,

Quote:

Note - Regain is not a character flaw. You do not have to feel shame

 

Give Up or Change – The patient realizes if they don't make changes, they will gain weight or stop losing.

- MUST make a new decision point or most likely will continue to regain, shame can feel overwhelming, don't know what to do, surgeon can feel baffled by this stage and use communication that is perceived as shaming or judgmental, working together is better but need to understand that few surgeons have skills to deal with this stage

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Note - Must understand that this is the normal "next bit", many people will just drift away

 

Learning – The patient opens up and learns to pinpoint what their real problems are (not what they assume they are).

-Keep open mind for new ideas. Learn the regain causes, learn solutions and influences be they psychological social mental and emotional. Keep a log. Reference materials from many sources.

Experimenting:
You go through a trial and error process to discover what really will work for you.
- Even with good knowledge about themselves and their situations, patients will need to begin a trial and error process to discover their specific needs and the solutions that will work for them.
- They tweak their plans, try again, and reevaluate often.
- Through this trial and error process, patients begin to identify a way of living that will better support long-term WLS success.


Self Trust:
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You develop a sense of self trust and self care that was previously non-existant At this stage, patients have regained some control and have begun to turn things around.
- Maybe your unrelenting food cravings have subsided. Or you have lost some weight.
- It can be very surprising the first time you realize that you got way off track, but were able to make changes and see positive results.
- You gain perspective and begin to see the possibility for long-term peace of mind with food, their bodies, and the scale.
-You experience a sense of self trust that leads to improved self esteem, even self love.

 Mastery:
You regain some control and begin to experience somepeace of mind with food , your body and the scale.

At this stage, patients live fully with the self trust that was previously nonexistent.
-You consistently work toward their goal of managing your weight (and other areas of your lives) and when you slip up, you can easily get back on track.
- You don’t become perfect; patients become disciplined in a way that makes them feel great about themselves and hopeful for their future.
- You clearly see and are planning for a future that includes long-term weight loss and weight maintenance -- and, by this time, a future that holds many other exciting possibilities.

 

 

Freedom:
You see that what you really want to do, and what you must do to stay healthy are one and the same.
- This stage can be difficult to maintain all the time, but the goal is for patients to spend as much time as possible free from the burden of obsession with food, their bodies, and the scale.
- It is when what patients want to do and what they must do to stay healthy are one and the same.
- This is WLS “Nirvana," and while it is not always permanent, patients know without a doubt that freedom will be a regular part of their long-term WLS experience.


ohhh and a huge big hug:)

Thank you, thank you, thank you... it is nice to see I am not alone.  I was disappoitned with myself and could not understand what I was going through.

My newest thought is to try to maintain here, stop trying to lose, just maintain, when I have a handle on that then perhaps lose some more or accept myself the way I am.

I have my meals almost perfect, unless I eat out... so I am good there.

Walking is good.

Vit and water are good.

I am going to do the above and add in a tortilla and my M&M's on my walk, and try hard to only allow these two indulgences, this should stablalize my weight and help me stay on track.

I will worry about the 10 lbs later, I need a new strategy and I think this will work.

Thanks so much honey, I am rushing around, but wil re-read this a few times later.

Hugs,

Cindy

Cindy,
I am so sorry you are struggling now.  I think we all go through times like this and they suck.  I wonder if you are journaling.  I know that that helps me more than anything to at least stay in the game.  I am also wondering if you ever considered meditating.  Sometimes, when I get really quiet, I can figure out what is eating me so that I can stop eating.  If I can find the driving force behind my eating, I can work with it, and offer it my assistance.  This way I don't just work at cross purposes with the need to eat, but try to understand it first and keep the judgment out of it. It is like I am breathing into it, rather than fighting it.  I find that when I do this, the driving force and I can reach an understanding.  It is a bit hard to communicate this through typing, I hope I am making sense.  In any case, you are in my thoughts and I wish you peace. 

I think this is brilliant and really accurate. Thanks for posting this!

Lizanne

This post is a keeper.  This is going on my refrigerator and being reread over and over.  Thank you for posting it.

Mini me, I love , love this post.  It makes so much sense and is so very helpful.  Thank you!

Laura

I love this Linda,  thanks so much for posting it,  you are a living doll   xoxox Jeani