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Well........I opened my big mouth.... and.........
I could see there was a SMO guy walking ahead of me......I could pick out that "waddle" a mile away. As I could not see his body too well....but I saw his head swaying from side to side. When the couple behind him passed him up (he was walking pretty slow) I saw a figure emerge that was very reminiscent of myself! I happened to be walking to the same store....same section. (big and tall) I got there ahead of him....when he arrived he was sweating...and huffing and puffing! I felt such sympathy for him. After all........I was him........not so long ago!
So I thought to myself .......I have to say something to him.......but how? I waited till he left....(nothing in his size!) I knew (from experience!) he and his dad? would be stopping somewhere to rest.
I was right....they were sitting on a bench 200 yds or so from the store! His dad went to the near-by food court to get napkins for him....so he could wipe the sweat from his face ( something I have done many times before!) I went and sat on the opposite bench from theirs....back-to-back. I thought to myself NOW....."wait for it.....wait for it!" and The opening ....presented itself to me! He started complaining about his knees! (YES! i thought to myself!) I listened a bit.....and said "knees botherin' ya ? He said "yeah....when you're as big as I am it sorta comes W/ the territory!" I said "I HAD the same problems about 18 months ago.....AND.... I walked W/ a cane too!" He said "did you have surgery to fix your knees?" I said "no..... but I DID have surgery to lose weight!" I told him "you are in great shape ...compared to how bad off I WAS!" I would not have made it INTO the mall (too far!) He seemed very receptive and him(and his dad) sat and listened to me for about 20 mins!
Not sure if he will "run W/ it" or not.....this is HIS decision....but i feel like he has info on other "options" in life! I know i took a bit of a risk with this......but I also did this cause i knew it would "eat" at me if i did not at least try....ya know/? Just thought i would share this with you all. I hope I don't start "stalking" every MO person I see now! Thanks for reading this it was long!
Good on you buddy. I have thought about it, but not done it yet, and it is because I am really skinny now, and I don't want to scare people into thinking they will look like me when they are done :) Just kidding!
I hope you, and I, and others are presented with those kinds of opportunities again and again... we just have to remember how sensitive people can be, especially women about their weight... we sure don't want to hurt anyone.
Big hugs, proud of you!
Cindy
Start weight: 388, Current Weight: 185, Goal Weight: 180, Weight Lost: 203 lbs
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3/2012 Plastics: LBL, 3 Hernias Fixed, BL/BA, Rhinoplasty & Septum Fix. 6/2013 Plastics: Arm and thigh lift
I consider myself a barriatric busybody and have taken a few friends to wls seminar/group. And I carry a "before" picture in my purse partially as my own little reminder but also to show it to others if the opportunity arises.
Anyway, sounds like you handled this diplomaticly and really reached out and connected with this person.
Think you can do anything about the Middle East?
Diane
I bet you planted a big seed for thought with the guy. You may have just saved his life.
HW: 249 SW: 229 GW: 149 Age: 63 - Body by Sauceda - 12/2011
Big Mouth !!!!!
Just don't get all DS on us !!!!
frisco
SW 338lbs. GW 175lbs. Goal in 11 months. CW 148lbs. WL 190lbs.
" To eat is a necessity, but to eat intelligently is an art "
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