Yea - I am a ***** but about the elephant in the room...

I give you full express permission to be a true vulgarian on any thread of mine.

After all, you probably get it from my side of the family. 

Itsa family tradition!

My fingers is "naughty"  too sometimes!  Tourette's of the digits!

You know what I think?  I think some people are just shocked as **** to realize how much work this actually takes.  They coast along for a few months with awesome loses and then boom, things slow down and that's when reality sets in.  And they simply are not prepared for it.  Even though they have been warned repeatedly by the vets that things can and most likely WILL change.

My very good vsg friend here in my town is a perfect example.  I've mentioned her on here plenty of times.  About how she eats junk and still weighs 240lbs at 2.5 years out.  It's like talking to a wall, so I just gave up.  It's her life...what can I do??  She just pissed away 13k.  I  don't get it.

Great post darlin'.

Laura

I see people IRL and here on OH that should not have had WLS......the "magic fix" people.....we ALL know there IS NO MAGIC!  They had it done.....and NO amount of "info/advise"  on this forum can help most of them......not buyin' what we're sellin!'  Unfortunately the "screening" process for surgery is woefully inadequate.    Many people  BS their way through the "psych" evals.  I see it as THEM  not "getting it".........not YOU!.......... sad......very......sad. 

Until I watched the whinning about 2 week liquid diets, people trying to eat stuff their stomachs weren't ready for, people expecting to lose weight everyday ... I didn't really understand why insurance programs required doctor supervised diets and psych evals ...

maybe its because people want to be normal so bad,  and see other people doing it and want that too,
but for most of us here we know that normal is something we will never be but being a thin version of our messed up selves is a pretty dam good option.

 I think we all have to take responsibility at some point and if we cant help our selves, we need to try and seek the help of someone else that can try and help us.

I now for me one of my problems is going to be salt ... it ovbiously is something ive become super super senstive to..

so for me its either give up all my favourite meats, like brisket and corned beef, or live with the gain til it flushes out...


maybe another reason is humans dont like change so its hard for some not to follow down the same path that led them to fall the last 100 times...

I think its wise to learn and listen and try something new, but for others maybe its a fear of the unknown, im not sure...

for me shaking things up with a new plan is a way to give myself the motivation and the eagerness i think i was losing... so far so good

 Brandilynn if you write it for that one lurker or poster that you mayhelp rather than the person who keeps returning for the same advice over and over.. because you may never reach that one person but how many others that you dont see are you helping?  probably many because each time you send out your advice there are alot more readers that were not there to read it the last time

 I may be speaking of something I have no clue about, but....

I think people are at different places.  I applaud anyone who tries.  Even if they are asking thinking they get brownie points for asking...I figure...at least they're asking!  

Just like I struggled with weight without surgery....I struggled over and over, like Sisyphus doomed for eternity to try and roll the rock up the hill only to have it roll back down.  Didn't matter how much I wanted it, how much I tried, how much "self discipline" I had.  I firmly believe I'd be over 300 now without surgery.  And I think some people may have surgery and struggle with it the way I did with dieting.  This food addiction and struggles are a terrible thing.  I can say what's worked for me thus far, and I can even comment on what I've seen work for others.  And I would hope that they would take these recommendations into consideration.  But people are different.  They may not be in the same place as I am.  It'd be like trying to compare addictions, imho.

That being said, I'm glad you posted this Brandilyn.  I think we need all perspectives, always.