Yea - I am a ***** but about the elephant in the room...

    You know we love your "asshole-iousness" around here!  Someone needs to play the role.....right?  I agree with your thoughts on the matter...........
    But (there's always a "but")  OTOH........I also will respond and try to be helpful.....and diplomatic about the situation too.  (not that you aren't/don't!)
    We were all newbies....we ALL had our "moments" (some more....some less)   It can be VERY frustrating to hear/read  the  same problems....complaints.....mistakes....etc.  (sometimes from the same people!)   If they do not/are not heeding our advise......they are "making their own beds!"   For every...... one person making these posts (and not following through with "sage" advise)  there may be a dozen "lurkers".....that it might "hit home" with!  So for me...... it is...... (for the moment)  a worth while  "exercise in futility" 
     Remember.....yes we are ALL "adults"......some of us more so than others!  Many issues are with the "younger" post-ops.  I try to put myself in their "shoes" at that age! (not hard for me....I got the maturity of a 14 year old!)  I'm amazed they made this HUGE decision at such a young age!    In my 20's I was out "partyin".....and actin' the fool.......I never would have had  the maturity....and foresight to make such a LIFE altering decision!  I commend them for that.    I guess I find it easy to cut them some slack. ( DGMW.....I still get irritated at some of the BS I see goin on)
     I also commend you for your........ wealth of knowledge...... voice of reason...... "stern" mother role......unique perspective......unwavering support.......quirky sense of humor.....and above all......your patience!  Thank you for...."being" 
   
    And  hey!  Uncle WhoozieWhatzit.......... You'll always be welcome at  this...."Thanksgiving" table.  But......  you might want to bring...... some hip waders.......peanuts....and a shovel........just in case!  

Yea, I have no beef with the brand newbies really, or the folks who are barely out of teenagedom. 

So, yea.  It is me being a ***** but the solution is for me to stop responding. 

Shovel, check.

Bodybag.

oh wait.  was that out loud?

Okay, thanks for the airing of the grievances time.

The answer, of course, is for me to just STFU and walk on by, because it ought not matter to me how long folks wallow in their funk, I get no commission on anyone's success, not even my own, and if I resent that hard earned time is being totally blown off - then that, again, is *my* problem.

I do know that for every 87 people who do not give a **** about the help you give, at *least* one person does. 

Soooo!  That being said - its Friday and I obviously need to freaking take the off day as scheduled!  Go smell some flowers, find some pretty springflowers to plant, check on the  plum trees and see the pretty little buds, the blueberries, see what kind of wild animal **** the dogs can get into, eat and then hark up on the floor later!

YAAY!

Do not be jealous!  Its not attractive! 

Anyway - I guess I might *like* to apologize for my plea for folks to take action - but just like Peewee Herman.

I'M NOT SORRY! 

But I am hungry.  So - its second feeding time here in my tum! 

Peace out klownz! 

You are loved, and much appreciated, you, your time, your hard work, and your consistent efforts to be better for you, and share with others is valued.

Even by the psychopathic ***** threatening to spoon somebody's eye out and kick sand in somebody's eyeholes!!  :}

Hey girlie.  Your quote" The answer, of course, is for me to just STFU and walk on by, because it ought not matter to me how long folks wallow in their funk, I get no commission on anyone's success, not even my own, and if I resent that hard earned time is being totally blown off - then that, again, is *my* problem."

It DOES matter to you.  That's why you are frustrated.  You want everyone to be a success, so it's frustrating when they don't take the advise of those who have some answers.  It's kind of like raising children.  We can set an example, give our advise, but they are going to play in the street anyway. 

Keep on posting and offering your sage advise.  I would say the majority are cleaning up the elephant crap and those who aren't have only themselves to blame.

Hugs peaches (or grapes)

Wanda

Muscadine wine is pretty common here in NC.  Matter of fact, about the sickest I ever got was when I unwisely chose to drink a full bottle of red muscadine wine, followed by a full botttle of white muscadine wine.  Results = NOT PRETTY!

Regarding the whining, *****ing & moaning:  We've all done it at one time or another, so I don't want to appear as if I'm casting stones... but it seems like it's the same people or same type of people most of the time.  It makes me wonder if they "truly" gave this life-changing surgery & the work it involves due consideration, and if they were "truly" ready for it.  But far be it from me to question anyone's thought process or readiness... just saying.

With all that said, I'm very early out & still have a long way to go... taking things one day at a time.

I had coffee so I am jittery and chatty and am going to ramble....

The thing is that we do care. Sometimes I want to put my hands on people's shoulders and shake them. I want EVERYONE to be successful with their WLS. I have a very hard time understanding why it's so much "harder" for some people. I often wonder if it's like alcoholism, where there are degrees. For instance, there are functioning alcoholics. Many of them are able to quit or greatly reduce the amount they drink on their own. Then there are full-blown alcoholics who need intervention and LOTS of therapy and help to quit. Perhaps that is the difference? I don't really know.

It's a really sticky spot to be in when you want to tell someone to just stop sabotaging themselves. If they don't like the delivery or the message, then you are the bad guy. We have ALL been there, and the ones who overcome it know that the only way to do that is to change our behavior and way of thinking. And not place blame where it does not belong (ie. the family eats it so that's why it's in the house and I ate it, i eat out a lot with friends, i didnt have access to a better choice, etc etc).

Honestly, people have to help themselves. I come to this board for support and hopefully to connect with people who understand and can relate to some of my issues. Everyone here knows I've done my fair share of whining, but no one can solve my problems or make me lose weight or make the best food decisions for me. That is up to me and me only.

I think you have to be in the right mindset to hear what people are telling you ... to really get it.
Having lost weight and failed at weight maintainence, I think helps with people starting in the right frame of mind.

I think you have to remember the lurkers who are or might be teachable, it's not just the person doing the posting that you are talking too (that you can help)

When I find someone's posts that I appreciate the tone of /connect with ... I go read all of their posts, looking for the insights they bring to the table.  Of course Brandilynn makes it hard cuz she goes around getting her account deleted :-)

You know, if other folks don't want to hear the truth then f**k 'em!!!

Just know that you are loved and very much appreciated by all of us here on this board!!!

Oh, and no wine for me...bleh!!!

That's all :)

Don't hold back......tell us how you really feel!

Yeah, I was vicariously getting some frustration out but I really should watch what my fingers type...