Yea - I am a ***** but about the elephant in the room...

So, you come and you say you have a problem.

Folks give you lists and lists of options to try and be helpful.

And then you come back later and state you have the same problem.

Did you ever TRY any of the options that the people gave their time to share with you? 

Did you JUST want to complain and you did not actually care for any help? 

PLEASE SAY THAT.  People share their hard earned ways that they get a grip on their disordered habits, they share because they CARE.

How many times can we answer the same questions with the same answers, and nobody ever even bothers to come back and say..


"This filling with protein first, this does not seem to work for me because...  Please does anyone have any other options"

"This just not having X treat at x times is not working for me because."

Nobody comes back and celebrates that TODAY between their 1nd and 2nd feedings THEY DID NOT GIVE INTO HEAD HUNGER..YAAAY!!

And let us celebrate and encourage you with that. 

What are we supposed to do ? 

You can wish, and sigh and cry all you want but THAT IS NOT TAKING CARE OF THE PROBLEM!

Do you want help with the problem? 

Did you *really* think that your sleeve was going to babysit you until the day you died?  It *might* be time to rethink that line of belief.

Look, I get it, I struggle too, I use up WAY TOO MANY WORDS trying to share conversations that I have with ME in MY HEAD so that maybe YOU can use similar words with you and see if they work!

DO they not work for you and would you like another tack to take? Ask! But nobody else can do this work for you!

Some people never have head hunger!  Most of us are not that person.

Some people never have physical hunger.  Some of us are not that person.

If you tell us you have good restriction but YOU IGNORE IT what are we supposed to do for you?  What?

If you tell us you are a sugar addict, but you will not stop eating it, what are we supposed to do for you? 

Am I saying that folks who struggle should not post?  No!  I am saying

TELL US IF YOU WANT HELP!  Then DO SOMETHING. 

Wishing, crying, hoping, being guilty, and afraid NONE of those things are obviously working for you!!!

Do you need help with an action plan?  ASK! Please! 

We are grown ups!  Magical thinking (if only, I wish) is not helping us! 

If you just want to fuss, fuss away, but please do folks the favor of saying "I JUST WANT TO FUSS!  I AM NOT LOOKING FOR A FIX AND I AM NOT GOING TO TRY ANY OF YOUR SUGGESTIONS" so people can carry on with their lives and spend that time sharing their hard earned lessons with someobody who WANTS suggestions!

So.  That's me.  The asshole who had to go and mention the elephant in the room, but folks, its crapping on the carpet - and there is a huge list of how to get elephant crap stains out of the carpet - but if nobody DOES anything about the crap, then the crap stays!

I sure want nothing but good and success for us, but we have to get UP and stop with the wallowing! 

Anyway.  You can pretend I am the drunk uncle at the thanksgiving table talking out of my ass if you want to, but for me?  This is supposed to be a place where we can speak truth as we see it, truth geared towards encouraging each other to action and at health, not just wallowing in our own funk.

Love, peace, and pass the muscadine wine,

Uncle WhoozieWhatzit.

You may use too many words, but at least this post is full of paragraphs. It's posts with one long stream of consciousness that I just can't get through. Especially when the person also doesn't spend a lot of time proof-reading and/or can't be bothered to even try to use proper spelling and punctuation.

So that's my *****y thought for the day.

Anyway, I get your frustration, but some people do just want to vent and some people do think they want help but they don't want to do anything that makes them change or takes a certain amount of effort or scares them. So they don't really want help, they just think they do. I don't think that second group is going to be self-aware enough to know this, either. So we're stuck with them. Though if there is someone who make a habit of this, I learn to not respond.

You are right, and I know it.

I just get choked in wanting better and different for us. 

And I agree about paragraphs, and punctuation!  It helps you to know whether you were helping your Uncle Jack off a horse, or your uncle jack off a horse.  :}

And too, I get that this is awkward, and I did not really expect anyone to answer, and am fine and dandy with everyone posting on every other thread and burying it.

But they were words that deserved to be said, they are suggestions that could be helpful.

And my heart is sincere in its want of good things for us.

The end.

Again, with the passing of the wine,

Kthanxbye

It is frustrating.........

I'm not sure why those sad sacks are like that. they complain and moan and ***** and yet don't seem to make any effort towards change.......


I don't get it...

My husband's best friend from HS is like that. He's never had a weight problem so it's not about that. But he seems to *prefer* to be unhappy.

I've decided some people just feel more comfortable if their lives suck. If things start going to well for them, they do *something* to screw it up.

I know I'm not like that but I don't think I *did* anything to be someone who prefers to be happy. It's just the way I've always been. So I don't pat myself on the back about it.

Then I must be a ***** too!  It drives me crazy reading posts from the same people complaining about the same thing over and over and them doing absolutely NOTHING about it...Wake up people you only had your stomach removed not your brain!

oh hai!

I love this post although I don't know who we are talking about. better not be me! 
and what is mascadine? sounds kinda sweet but maybe I'll have a glass after some spicy BBQ ribs

Muscodine and scuppernogs are grapes, like Diane says, they grow wild around here anymore and have a really thick skin.  They are real - oh what's the word - powdery tasting to me, and I do not seem to enjoy that powdery taste much. 

But mostly they are made into summer wines, and yes!  You might like them after your spicy ribs!

What did I miss?

Since we are venting, allow me to mention something that ****** me off to no end and just one more reason that I don't post on the VSG board much anymore....

People who have made pot shots at me because I actually worked my sleeve and made it to goal, claiming that I am "lucky" because my sleeve worked for me. Umm. NO. I work this ***** every single day. I still log every single morsel I put in my mouth. I still make decisions every single time I eat as to what I'm going to put in my mouth and if it's a good idea or not. And I still **** up occasionally. I still have my highs and lows. I'm not some magical anomaly with a freaky good metabolism. I've just made sure to follow the protein first rule as often as I can, and when I don't, not make excuses for it.

It's like some people want to make me feel bad for being a sleeve "success." (not my term)

Ok, I feel better now.