honeymoon over?

First...... 95% is Rockstar status.....!!!!

You got this !!!

I think it's just a phase we all go through.....

frisco



Also:

Elina writes.....

"I hear a lot of newbies say, " I did this so I wouldn't have to be on a diet for the rest of my life".  I just shake my head and wish I could tell them, how sorry I am they feel this way."

I have read so many of these..... And I'm just at a point where it doesn't really effect me anymore.....

I just think....."Yah... Well, good luck with that!"

Also the ones that eat solids during liquids and post on the main VSG board looking for people to tell them it's OK.....

I just think to myself.... "Your never gonna make it" Click....on to the next subject !!!

This may be harsh to think this way.... but you can't fix everybody....and.... I got my own challenges.....and other people that try, that could benefit from my attention

frisco

Hey Frisco, I'd thought I'd comment here.  Don't get discouraged with the new kids on the block.  Sometimes they hear what others a saying.  I remember having a bad day several months back, and you posted  "you are bigger then the cookie"  That has stuck with me and it's become my mantra.  Keep paying it forward!
Marie

 
OK...... once again......I'm eating a little crow....

I have always said.... If it effects one person, than it's worth it.

Point taken.....

frisco

I also am terrified with regain, and I am so thankful my surgeon has a bariatric counselor and a nutritionist he if affiliated with that I went to the last year.  I truly believe that if I had not went to them, I would not be equipped to deal with this part of the journey.  I have all the same thoughts, feelings and struggles you do, but they did teach me many tools to manage those parts of my personality that contribute to my weight gain.  I am a firm believer in bariatric counseling and nutritional counseling now although my first visit I told them I didn't think I needed help.  LOL.   I think the counseling I got is what actually makes it possible for me to keep the weight off this go-around.

Some of the things I learned seem counter-intuitive but they work.

1.  I have a perfectionistic, all-or-nothing personality, so I have had to work really hard on moderation in all things.
2.  I carried an unreasonable amount of serial-killer guilt if I ate one thing wrong.  I can truly say I have become guilt free and it is the most liberating thing in my entire life.  Now, it is just food, there are good and bad choices, I aim for 80%-90% good choices.  A bad choice is a bad choice, and I resolve to make better choices, but no guilt.  And I have realized that long term not very many people eat "perfectly" and to have guilt when I was less than perfect was counter productive.
3.  I make deals with myself when I want something and it works very well.  I will say to myself, "eat this protein/healthy food item first, and if you are still hungry and you still really want it you can have the donut.  Well, guess what?  Most of the time, I don't want it then.  And even if I do, I can't eat more than a bite (which falls in my 80%-90% goal hence I feel like I am "perfect.")
4.  Another deal I make is I have one day a week that I can eat what I want.  I make myself wait until that day to have whatever I want the rest of the week.  Well, there is no way I can possibly eat everything I think of I might want in a week, so that also limits it.

There is a lot more I do to try to manage it, but know you are not alone, and I think we will always have to manage it. 

But I agree, there are a lot worse diseases I could have!

You have done a fantastic job and you will make it through this as well!!

Julie,
Thanks for your good post because I am right there with you and received so much great advice the other day.  I just want to say we are all in this together and you have done amazingly well.  You are a rock star as you say!  It's tough for us to remember the postives and re-train the well worn paths in our brain from years of negative self talk.  In addition to coming to this board and hearing from the experts here, I try to spend a few moments a day being grateful for this gift and getting a second chance at life!  I know I spent the holidays pushing my limits, as you said, and I'm trying to make January about being mindful about what I'm doing.
Hugs,
Kay

Being terrified of regain is a GOOD thing!  Hopefully it's that fear that will help keep us accountable.  Now give yourself a swift kick in the rear end and ask yourself is this (fill in the blank) really worth all the mental anguish.  And hell, is it really that good??  You've come too far to slip back to old habits.  You already know where that got ya.  I have a friend with a sleeve who is on her way back up the scale.  She's 2 years and 3 months out, never really did well because of bad choices and simply has not learned her lesson.  You can do this...don't give in. 

Hugs,
Laura

Hey girlfriend it's all good YOU are doing fine.  Like Elina said WELCOME to the rest of your life.  Where "dieting" isn't the focal point.  Just never forget where you came from.

And please do ME a favor and don't forsake the Main Forum the NEED to read this and KNOW if they don't already that this is the rest of their life.

Ms Shell

Thank you for all the love and kind words.

I feel like I'm back and game on! 

It feels so much better being in control.

I'm back down to my happy place (weight-wise ).

The beautiful thing about the sleeve, is when you are "game on" it doesn't take long at all to drop the gain... before WLS, a 5 lb loss would have taken a month or more, not just a week.  Gotta love that.

Thank you again for being such a wonderful support system and helping me get back on track.  It worked!!!

Hugs to all,

Julie