Hi all

yowza, is Brandylyn ever an insightful person. Char I recall some posts on the main forum about your roomate issues but didn't connect them to your current post here. But B sure honed in on it and how very thoughtful of her. I don't have much personal experience in this area but it sure seems you need to find a way to get away from this person. Its probably hard for you to be the "meanie" who kicks him out when others see him as a nice guy. yet the person you are being mean to is yourself. so I can only hope you can come up with a plan to extricate yourself from this. would you have to move or would you be able to stay where you are and get him out? do  you need to save some money for all this? any chance of doing it civilized (like you ask him to go and he agrees) or is it change the locks and return stuff through an intermediary. Really don't know the best path here and maybe there is an advice line on how to go about this. but i do know that  the situation must be affecting your concerns about food and alcohol so this has got to be addressed. Life is too short to spend it with a jerk. period. and so glad you have a dog. one of the most wonderful things one can have. lived alone for 20 years with just me and the dogs and it was for the most part a pretty good life.
anyway, post as you can and let us know what we can do to help. we are listening. all the best. Diane

I think Brandilynn is right on target!  You dont' deserve to be around this kind of mental abuse.  He is controlling your emotions and he has a pity party when you leave, because he knows it is what will work to get you to come back.  He's in complete control.  It's time for you to take control of your life.  You can do it!