Do you ever get tired?

I know surgery was not "the cure" ... but I'm at the point that I'm tired of "dieting" ... tired of "worrying".   Tired of always thinking about my food and daily intake.

Maintenance is stressing me out.  I cannot fail again.  But, I'm so tired of watching every little thing I put in my mouth. 

I know there is no "solution".  My body wants to be larger & I have to make sure that never happens again.  But some days, I just want to shoot my parents for giving me these obesity genes. 

Oh well ... enough of a rant about something I cannot control.  Back to watching what I eat.

Thanks for listening ...

yes that is when i decided it was time to stop being so strict and maintain.. i kept going for more wiggle room, but when i started to feel like i had had enough, it was time to stop.. its like a weight lifted i dont have to be perfect anymore just keep an eye on my scale.. .. im not really changing anything much but allowing the odd treat and  seeing how my weight goes... i only really wanted to drop another couple of pounds anyway but decided that a number is not really that important its more how i feel.

well, so far i haven't been at this maintenance thing long enough to get tired of it. but i am sure that day will come. i suspect  the thing to do is find easy ways to do this that don't require as much fussing as our weight loss phase. we each find our own routine I guess. I am still finding my restriction does the job for me. just ate a hamburger patty for dinner. had not had any red meat for 3 weeks since i was out of town tending brother. boy did the hamburger go down like a lead balloon!   really feeling that sleeve! 
So there must be a way to de-stress maintenance  but i am not sure what it is. maybe substitute some other activities for   worrying about eating and intake. I heard at a support group that obsession with healthy eating can actually be a substitute addiction. My  brother is really obsessed with healthy eating and insists on making this special protein shake each morining which also has vegetables (cabbage and kale) and berries in it and kefir and flaxseed and some other grains and pomagranite juice and all this stuff. absolutely will not touch a crumb of sugar or white flour. keeps himself to 9% body fat. is kind of compulsive about a lot of things. takes lord knows how many supplements. but it all may be why he came through his recent thoracic surgery so well.  so maybe the answer is to try to simplify the program into two or three basic rules about eating . i dunno. gotta find this out too. d

Yes I do get tired...

1.  Before surgery I got tired of dieting and decided that was it, I was going to accept myself fat, and my weight rose higher than it ever had.
2.  After surgery, I would get tired of 'dieting' and staying on my plan and I would binge... one time I gave up and said I have had it, that is it, I don't care, it only lasted a week or two and my Sleeve made it easy to get back on track and continue losing.  It was a that point that I realized I might actually be able to do this.
3.  Now that I have set up this damn Life Long Maintenance Plan, I went great guns for a number of days, and it has been easy and fun, but now I am getting tired of the whole thing... I just want all the obession with food planning, etc. to stop, once and for all.

I do get tired of it, but what is the alterntive, gaining the weight back?  No way, I plan to remain dilligent, and periodically take a break...

You know that is not something I have scheduled into this maintenance plan for myself, I think I am going to have  one free day a week, not sure if I will be able to get away with that, but I think on those days, I will eat and drink what I want, when I want, and damn all this frickin' strict planning crap...

Sorry for the rant... ya I get tired of it all sometimes... but man I am slim and trim and happy, so it is worth it...

I have not, but I sure do understand the frustration. The impending weariness was WHY I had to beat feet to goal.  I have such respect for super heavyweights who are in the way low calorie super restrition phase for so very long. 

For me, having automated my eating so that I do not have to watch what I put in my mouth all the minutes, I just eat what I have provided and I do not have to think about it, and then on the rare out to dinner or social occasions, (depending on the month and how many social occasions there actually are!) I will eat whatever I choose.

Something in my noggin shifted from my presurgery diet mentality, to a post surgery self care mentality.

OR... maybe because the "what" I eat has been honed to not be triggery, I do not think about food/what's in my mouth/how it shows up on my body as much as I would if I had a different nutritional split? 

Not sure. 

I am 13 months postop and though I would like to lose 10 more lbs, I have decided to not worry about it right now.  I cannot exercise because of two herniated disks and everything I lose comes off my already bird legs .... if I keep going, I'll look like an egg with legs... LOL  So, right now I'm in maintenance.  And I found a stress-free way to do it that works for me.

I always get my protein, but don't weigh it.  I know how to eyeball it (deck of cards, etc.).  My surgeon says protein and produce should be our lifelong eating plan, so I always ask myself if it's one of the two things... if it is, I can have it.  If it isn't, I say not until Saturday.  Saturday is my day to not pay attention to anything.  If I want pancakes and OJ for breakfast, I do.  Same with lunch and dinner.  For me, personally, it gives me an outlet for having things I love.  But because of restriction i cannot each much.   The love affair with food is simply not the same for me, so most Saturdays I'll take a bite or two of pancakes and push them away.  But it was the fact that I "could" have them, that keeps me sane. 

I weigh every day and if it starts going up I push the protein and water.  But most days I'm just fine.

This has helped me just live and not obsess.  The second I start saying no carbs, etc., I do the opposite... even with the sleeve.  Everybody is different though and this may not work for them 

LauraAnn, I really like your approach.  I'm sort of the same but not as "good" right now.  Really struggling with the carbs and junk.  But I can't get into weighing and measuring and journaling, because it sets me up for a binge.  I eat protein first, veg second, and if room some carbs. 

Your idea of a free Saturday is wonderful.  Thanks so much!
--Dorothy

Thanks everyone.  Today is a better day. 

I think I was just overwhelmed yesterday.  This forum is great & I'm glad to have it.  I think I just kept reading about the planning, strategies and ideas and it was a bit much for me.

Thanks for your input ... and keep coming out here & sharing.

*squeeze*

The moon seems to be in a weird middlin phase.. all my psych patients are acting out and are overwhelmed and overstimulated by very little! (not that you are a psych patient, but I tend to find that the boards I frequent and the people in my life's ebb and flow of sanity/seeming lack thereof seem to coincide with my chemically imbalanced friends!  :} )

Its okay to be overwhelmed some days and to say it! 

It really was a great question, one that deserves asking and the ponders!

is that why i been hungry the last two days lol.... even with dense protein.... and its not thirst i upped my liquids to 96 oz i drink 60 oz hot cocoa and 1 premier protein shake... so definatley not thirsty lol.