The Skinny on Unexpected Issues
Can't believe all the issues I never thought of!
I have lost 127 lbs.; went from size 22 to size 4. You are probably thinking, "wow" but I say wow for other reasons:
1. Husband jealousy
2. Mental health issues; transfer addiction and body image
3. Attention from men I would have never gotten as a fat girl
4. Wanting to do things I didn't do as a fat girl, including date other men.
5. Family jealousy because they are still heavy.
6. I was offered a job based on looks because my skillset was same as other candidates.
7. Had an affair with the neighbor, whose wife I was very close with.
8. Told my husband I wanted a divorce 6 months ago because of our issues of jealousy and feeling trqpped.
Any of this stuff happen to you? If so, please post your story!
1. Husband jealousy
2. Mental health issues; transfer addiction and body image
3. Attention from men I would have never gotten as a fat girl
4. Wanting to do things I didn't do as a fat girl, including date other men.
5. Family jealousy because they are still heavy.
6. I was offered a job based on looks because my skillset was same as other candidates.
7. Had an affair with the neighbor, whose wife I was very close with.
8. Told my husband I wanted a divorce 6 months ago because of our issues of jealousy and feeling trqpped.
Any of this stuff happen to you? If so, please post your story!
Gina,
I cannot believe how much my life has changed since my surgery. So much has nothing to do with my weight. I had been using food as a way to deal with all of my childhood issues and without that protection I have had to face so much pain. 2 months after my surgery I moved across the country and am closer to my family. Within 2 months of moving home I had to cut off all contact with them at the suggestion of counselors. It is hard to believe how much I wasn't willing to see before I lost weight. I was diagnosed with PTSD because of how traumatic my childhood was. Without food for a comfort I have been dealing with my problems and facing them. I just feel really alone with not having my family in my life and recently my best friend stopped speaking to me. She has always been the skinnier friend and when I started wearing a smaller size than her, everything changed. I have an upcoming lower body lift surgery and when I told her she said, "you still won't have a bathing suit body'. Apparently, our friendship isn't strong enough for me to be healthy in it. I now realize that when you are obese that some people are your friend because they think they are better than you and that makes them feel better about themselves. I am looking forward to making new friends and having positive relationships. This experience has been so different than what I expected. I notice that this post was a year ago. I hope things are better for you. I just really needed someone to talk to. I don't have a support group in the small town I live in and don't have anyone that really relates.
I cannot believe how much my life has changed since my surgery. So much has nothing to do with my weight. I had been using food as a way to deal with all of my childhood issues and without that protection I have had to face so much pain. 2 months after my surgery I moved across the country and am closer to my family. Within 2 months of moving home I had to cut off all contact with them at the suggestion of counselors. It is hard to believe how much I wasn't willing to see before I lost weight. I was diagnosed with PTSD because of how traumatic my childhood was. Without food for a comfort I have been dealing with my problems and facing them. I just feel really alone with not having my family in my life and recently my best friend stopped speaking to me. She has always been the skinnier friend and when I started wearing a smaller size than her, everything changed. I have an upcoming lower body lift surgery and when I told her she said, "you still won't have a bathing suit body'. Apparently, our friendship isn't strong enough for me to be healthy in it. I now realize that when you are obese that some people are your friend because they think they are better than you and that makes them feel better about themselves. I am looking forward to making new friends and having positive relationships. This experience has been so different than what I expected. I notice that this post was a year ago. I hope things are better for you. I just really needed someone to talk to. I don't have a support group in the small town I live in and don't have anyone that really relates.
