My best friend hates me

ok... so my best friend is at it again. Making me feel like crap. I have a post up of my before and current pictures on facebook. One of my "new" friends from my sons  preschool has been asking me if, now that I am trying to learn to run if I would run the Freihoffers run for women in June. Because now that I have taken off these 85 pounds I feel confident enough that if I start training now I could do it. ......and I said so in my post to this woman.

 So my best friend tried to get me to do couch to 5k a TWO years ago, but I knew at that weight I COULD NOT DO IT physically so I refused to pay $40 for something I knew I would never do.  SHE paid and then bailed 2 weeks into the program.

SO I get a text from her
"WOW you are doing a 5 k in June. Thats great"

me "Yes, my new friend Darlene has been trying to talk me into it for 3 weeks so I caved"

her "When I asked you to do couch to 5k you told me to stuff it. ...mmmhmmm.  (which is Angiespeak for *****)

 me "I couldn't run 2 minutes before.. it was too much for my knees"

her "glad your new friend could convince you."

me "Had you asked me NOW I would have done it."

her"mhmmm (raised eyebrow) I see how you are. Good luck with it it should be fun."

me "DUDE I WAS physically unable to run before. "

I am seriously getting tired of defending myself against her. SHE WEIGHS OVER 300 POUNDS.. she KNOWS how difficult it is to run at that weight. WHAT THE **** IS HER PROBLEM?????? I am so tired of *****footing around... you know what IF YOU AREN:T HAPPY THE WAY YOU ARE ******G GET OFF YOUR ASS AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT..... I am sorry I made this decision about a MAJOR surgery without consulting you first but for CHRISTS SAKE I am not your fricking punching bag.. you don't get to break my self confidence every time you have a weigh in that does not go well .. Sorry needed to vent! Thanks !

You can't fight jealousy. She's jealous and she's going to do everything she can to take you into the miserable place she's at.

IMO, you have 2 options:

1. Talk to her and I mean give it to her straight. "Be supportive of what I am trying to do with my life. Period." Sometimes people need to have boundaries set up. "As my friend, I EXPECT you to do this. Remember how supportive I was when you were going through ..."

2. Drop her. You may have outgrown her. It sucks, but it happens. When I moved into a nice new house 4 years ago, I had two friends start acting all funny. One was struggling with money, the other was in the middle of getting a divorce. I told the one struggling with money that this isn't a completition. If she wanted to stay my friend she needed to stop the snide comments about how well we were doing and just be my friend. She stopped and we are still friends. The other one wouldn't even come to my house. When I had a party for the kids, she said they were busy. She never talked to me again even though I tried. This isn't a nice thing to say, but I'm better off without her. Looking back, I spent SO MUCH TIME thinking about how to deal with her over the years, it was a relief to let the friendship go.

Good luck.

WOW that SUCKS!! Tell her to keep her nasty attitude to herself! I like what slimpickins said... tell her that you EXPECT her to be supportive. It is hard on relationships when one person changes. My BFF of over 20 years is afraid things are going to change with us. I assure her it won't on my end.
Having surgery is a major decision and most people don't understand it. It is her jelousy and ignorance that are making her act like that. Sounds like you guys need to have a talk.

Take care and you are doing AWESOME!!!