Self absorbed?

So I am having surgery tomorrow and tonight when I went out with my best friends I brought up the fact that my stepmother was planning on stopping by right before surgery when I know I will ******vous mess! I tried to ask her not to come but she couldn't be diswayed. So when talking to my best friend she said "Well I know then the doctor would not be focused on you for three seconds and god forbid we focus on anyone but you"
I tried to laugh it up but she mentioned another 3 times in the store how self absorbed I was because of this surgery and how I haven't asked about anyone else recently. I have been super busy, not only with surgery plans but a million pta things and my kids and house and hurricane irene etc.

She is also obese and an only child to boot. Calling me self absorbed is like her calling the kettle black! ......, is it so bad to be self aware and focused on me for once? ARG!

anyone else having this issue?

Hi Vdcthiessen,

I don't know your step mother but I can only guess she is a little narcissistic. Funny how she point's out every thing is about you. You should tell her, your damn straight it is about me. I am going to love myself better than I have in the past, I am going to improve my health for my family and myself since I have put myself on the back burner for so long.  I have decided it is all about me now. Don't worry about negative Nellie's, you go on & enjoy yourself & let her stew in her misery.

I second that. She is obviously jelous of the path you are taking. Try not to let her get to you, hold your head high and do this for you.

Honestly, I find myself talking about the surgery alot.
But, we tend to talk about the things that are BIG in our life at that moment. Well, anyone fixing to have a surgery that is life altering is going to be thinking about it non-stop and talking about it.

No reason to feel bad, it just is what it is. After we get through this period in our lives, I'm sure there will be a day that comes that we won't hardly think about it as much. Much less talk about it like we do now.

Good luck and have a blessed one! Tomorrow we get sleeved...YEAH!

Well, I guess my question is - if it's not all about me (or you) than who in the heck is it supposed to be about?

My sister-in-law used to say that to me "it's all about you." My answer was "Hell yes. If I don't look out for me, who do you think will?" She stopped saying that and started taking more time for herself.

Your friend is jealous and you don't need that kind of negative energy in your life right now.

You need to take what I like to call a "Too much love" break. When I've been around extended family or been hanging out with a certain person too long and they start to get on my nerves, I say to myself "There's too much love going on here. Time for a little break."

Just be *unavailable* for a few weeks. When you see her again, tell her how sorry you are, but life got a little out of control.

It is all about you. And that's OK.