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What I've done with my family (husband, 3 young adult college sons)  We don't have junk in the house (at least the junk I like) If they want something they can go out to get it, eat in another part of the house.  They have been supportive about my surgery and  my changed dietary needs.
Since it is your house you can/should make good boundaries for yourself.
Hang in there.

When I had my surgery my mom came to help with my 2 year old son while I was recovering. She felt the need to cook for my husband and son every night. Here I was on clear liquids and mushy stuff but I had to smell and watch my family eat good.

I suffered while my mother was here. After that I told my husband the issues I was having watching (and smelling) him eat. He wants me to be successful and he wants to help. After that he would eat what I was eating. He is skinny as all get out. It was hard on him as well. As I have been able to expand what I am able to eat I have gotten better about cooking meals that are healthy and that he enjoys. One thing my doctor pointed out to me is that although he may be skinny, he may not be eating healthy. We have made a house change in the foods that come in. Since he loves me and wants me to lose weight to be healthy (he doesn't care about my size) he was willing to adjust. He just didn't know he needed to do that to help me until I spoke up.

OK, I am 17 days out from surgery on Phase 3, pureed foods. I was so excited about making me some chicken salad (chicken, FF mayo, boiled egg in a food processor****il it happened.  WHAT? I am glad you asked. My little 19 year old niece who lives with me and is tall and thin decided she wanted Rotel dip with sausage. So why this little girl sat across from me and said "Wow, I put my foot in this, if I have to say so myself." I just looked at her. Then she said... "How did you enjoy your chicken salad?" How the heck does she think I enjoyed it while smelling sausage and looking and hearing  her enjoy a big plate of chips and Rotel. ......  I wanted to ask her how would she enjoy chewing on a shoe while I ate a big meat lovers pizza in front of her.

On the real... I want her to be herself and enjoy the foods that she can eat, but am I wrong for asking her not to eat them in front of me?

How do you handle your family eating whatever and you can't eat those things anymore? PLEASE help before I snap.

Thank you for your encouragement.  Tonight I was whining to myself about all the work i did--laundry which is down two flights of stairs and general cleaning.  I didn't want to go on a walk.  My legs were tired, and my mind was not into it. 

Just then, I got my OH notification that I had messages. Reading your messages gave me the strength and motivation to get out and do something.  I told myself that I only had to walk to the corner and back, just to tell my mind that this is something I have to do to be healthy and fight back against that little devil on my shoulder giving me rationalizations for not walking.  And once i started, i figured why not finish.  I didn't go as far as I normally go, but i was gone for at least 15 minutes.

I am so proud of myself.  I feel strong and powerful.  That little devil is gone.  I kept repeating to myself the name of this group.  Lose Weight, Find Life.  This is my life now, and I am going to live it to the fullest!

Thank you again, both of you,

Becca

Hi Cathy,
Thanks for the invite!

Deb