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Hi Molly,

This is so true - it is such an unfair comparison when we compare our insides to others' outsides or, as your post describes as an "illusion."

Thanks again!!

Cathy

I am getting so frustrated.  My father who lives in a small town in the mountains of VA not too close to any gastric surgeon is over 300lbs.  My mother is in great shape and will continue to be so as she works hard at keeping healthy.  My father is going to be 60 next year and has tried every diet there is probably.  He now has diabetes and will lose the use of his hips in a couple of years if he doesn't do something about his weight.  He eats out of boredom, stress and says he can eat way past feeling full (if he really ever feels full).   My mom cooks healthy meals, but my father's portions are out of control.  He has been obese ever since I was very young and is now heavier than he has ever been.  I want him to have the lap-band surgery.  My children and my sister's children are still young and my son for one practically worships my father.  I want him to be around for a lot longer.  He already has one blockage in his heart and I know it could get worse as heart disease runs on both his mother's and father's sides.  He was one of the reasons I had the surgery.  I look at him and see what I could potentially become and I don't want to do that to myself or my kids.  Is there anyway to help someone you love?  To point them in the right direction and to let them know that it is not as scary as they think it is.  He really thinks he will eat past band fullness and I have told him that is pretty much impossible to do unless you really want to suffer.  Someone out there please help me.  I want my dad to lose weight and find life.

Daily Inspiration for April 16, 2010
Katie Jay, MSW

Have fun now; it's later than you think.

Fun is not only for children. Fun can be found by anyone in any moment of the day. Having fun is a choice. Even at the most horrible job, fun can be had if it is just imagining bunny ears growing out of the boss's head.

Laughter will lift your spirits and keep you young. It will improve your health. Find fun where you can. Write a note to stick in your child's or spouse's lunch bag. Have spice tea instead of plain. Spontaneously tickle someone you love. Buy flowers. Do things you know will make you smile.

Action for the day: What are you waiting for? If your life is nothing to smile about, spend some time reviewing your typical day. How can you add some fun? Make a list of things (small and large) that you can do to inject fun into your life.
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Daily Inspiration for April 14, 2010
Katie Jay,MSW

Share, don't compare. 

Do you think other people have more fun than you? More stuff? An easier life? That is not always true. Most everyone has problems and challenges, just like you.  It may seem that everyone else is doing better with their weight loss. You may think they look better or are having an easier time of things.  

Maybe they are struggling with something like temptation, forgetfulness, or missing their vitamins or protein. It's commonplace for people to put on a good face in public--they create an illusion. Try not to compare yourself to others. Comparisons serve no healthy purpose. You are on your own journey. This is the time to band together with others who are on a similar path and share support. Share, don't compare.  

Action for the day:  Resolve to accept where you are on your journey, and don't compare yourself to others today. Instead, get support and plan your next steps--striving for progress, not perfection. © 2010, National Association for Weight Loss Surgery. All rights reserved. Daily Inspirations are provided by the National Association for Weight Loss Surgery.

Ralph Marston's quote was incredible.  Thank you.  I need to be here. 
Hugs,
Wanda