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Growing Pains - Mine!
My oldest son turned 13 a few months ago. It has been hard - on me. He is a great son and a wonderful person. He has a kind and compassionate heart unlike most kids. I know, I know....every mom thinks that.
My son and I are wired alike. He is deep and sensitive and very reflective. I understand and "get him." We've always had a very close connection.
Our issues with food are a very strange thing. As I'm realizing the time I've lost and regrets I have, I want to eat. Huh? What is that going to do? Is that going to bring back the past? How is emotional eating going to make the situation better? Obviously, it isn't. I use my food issues as a barometer. When I feel a strong urge, I know the emotions are strong and require extra attention. The correlation to emotions and food is so obvious to me. This situation reinforces that for me.
He's growing up and pulling away into the teenage years. I am having growing pains as I reflect back on him as a baby, toddler, and younger years. I'm not going through the horrible teenage rebellion (as of yet!), but I feel as though I've missed out.
I think I've taken things for granted. I know it sounds strange but somehow I thought that he'd stay young and I had more time. Similarly to the period right after you have surgery. For many of us, we think that ease of losing weight will continue in the same way.
I have some regrets and I always try to live my life without regrets. My regrets are that I took for granted the times of his life that the day-to-day things took more of a priority. I can't even remember those all important (at the time) meetings, this errand or that priority and I worked way too much and didn't enjoy those diaper days, the small and large moments along the way.
As you can tell, I have a teenager's mom heavy heart. I know that parents go through this and it is completely normal. Right now, it feels sad.
The lesson for me is that I still have time with both of my sons and I'm going to make the most of it. The day-to-day things will still come up but I'm going to remember how I'm feeling right now and keep my priorities in check.
I miss the days of rocking him, teaching him to read, the proud moments and the kissing boo boo's, and all the joys of a child's younger years. I look forward (am going to try!) to different times of having a teenager and then an adult (gulp). Teaching him to drive, going through his first heartbreak, and all the joys and pains of the teenage years.
I regret worrying about a few extra calories and pounds rather than focus on the things that really matter. Time passes and it is important to cherish every day no matter what it brings. I can't bring back the past and do it over but I can make the most of today and tomorrow and the day after that, etc.
With all of the priorities that are important to me, near and dear to my heart, every day is a gift that I will cherish.
Believe In Yourself,
Cathy, CLC
Certified Life Coach, Weight Loss Surgery Coach
Certified Back On Track Facilitator
My son and I are wired alike. He is deep and sensitive and very reflective. I understand and "get him." We've always had a very close connection.
Our issues with food are a very strange thing. As I'm realizing the time I've lost and regrets I have, I want to eat. Huh? What is that going to do? Is that going to bring back the past? How is emotional eating going to make the situation better? Obviously, it isn't. I use my food issues as a barometer. When I feel a strong urge, I know the emotions are strong and require extra attention. The correlation to emotions and food is so obvious to me. This situation reinforces that for me.
He's growing up and pulling away into the teenage years. I am having growing pains as I reflect back on him as a baby, toddler, and younger years. I'm not going through the horrible teenage rebellion (as of yet!), but I feel as though I've missed out.
I think I've taken things for granted. I know it sounds strange but somehow I thought that he'd stay young and I had more time. Similarly to the period right after you have surgery. For many of us, we think that ease of losing weight will continue in the same way.
I have some regrets and I always try to live my life without regrets. My regrets are that I took for granted the times of his life that the day-to-day things took more of a priority. I can't even remember those all important (at the time) meetings, this errand or that priority and I worked way too much and didn't enjoy those diaper days, the small and large moments along the way.
As you can tell, I have a teenager's mom heavy heart. I know that parents go through this and it is completely normal. Right now, it feels sad.
The lesson for me is that I still have time with both of my sons and I'm going to make the most of it. The day-to-day things will still come up but I'm going to remember how I'm feeling right now and keep my priorities in check.
I miss the days of rocking him, teaching him to read, the proud moments and the kissing boo boo's, and all the joys of a child's younger years. I look forward (am going to try!) to different times of having a teenager and then an adult (gulp). Teaching him to drive, going through his first heartbreak, and all the joys and pains of the teenage years.
I regret worrying about a few extra calories and pounds rather than focus on the things that really matter. Time passes and it is important to cherish every day no matter what it brings. I can't bring back the past and do it over but I can make the most of today and tomorrow and the day after that, etc.
With all of the priorities that are important to me, near and dear to my heart, every day is a gift that I will cherish.
Believe In Yourself,
Cathy, CLC
Certified Life Coach, Weight Loss Surgery Coach
Certified Back On Track Facilitator
Cathy
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