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Topic: RE: I'm learning new things about myself....
I have lately been praying for control over these outbursts. I seem to be having them more frequent. This weekend we are going to Va to see my stepdaughter graduate from High School. This sounds great but all I am thinking is I will be spending the whole weekend with his ex-wife. We see and do things with his ex-in-laws quite abit. I got used to this but I still have issues with his ex. We even use to work in the same department 9 years ago. Anyway we are also helping them pack up the uhaul because they are moving back here in upstate NY. I know this is my source of the current outbursts and eating was the old response. Now I tend to exercise more so that helps to calm me.
Just reflecting on behaviors and triggers in my life. Now working on an action plan to not get stressed out and take steps backward.
Take care Everyone
TressaI will make a deal with you , you pray for me , as I have to go to Frederick MD for my step sons birthday , where EVERYONE on her side to include my husbands sister hates me , and I will pray for you and your tine with your hubs x family , I am truly petrified , These women are vicious and have no problem hurting my feelings, While my husbands marriage was over years before I came into the picture, the X still has it in her head that he is her husband and if nit for me , she could get then back , I realize I have control whether they hurt me or not , but like I said ., they are mean ,,,
One of the first things they teach us in Life Coach training is to begin to ask ourselves questions when we are trying to make decisions .. Example .. your angry .,.. your in the car and you drive by a Burger King ,..... You know in your Fat Girl Heart that a Whopper would sure make you feel better. This is when you need to start asking the questions, Why ... why do I feel the way I do ? What led up to this anger ? What triggered it and how can I tame it , Then you keep driving by that BK and work things out ,
I pray that you can get your emotions in check , It can happen , Sometimes the devil finds us at our weakest moments and he let;'s us have it ,, shows us our worthlessness , tells us that it's NOT going to be OK . . I rebuke him at every corner ,,, I am starting now not to allow any negative thoughts to permeate my mind ,
Keep working those anger issues and our burst to control . You can do this ,
Best to you ,
Tink
On June 2, 2010 at 11:25 AM Pacific Time, sessa1015 wrote:
As I am traveling on this road to health I am learning new things about myself. And quite frankly it is time to change my behavior. I find that I like to be in control(not the leader), of my surroundings. When I feel I am losing this sense of control and all my ducks are not in a row I start to fall apart. My moods change and I become anxious (and *****y).In the past I turned to food. Now that I don't have food as my soother and I have to learn other coping mechanisms to deal with the situation. Yes I know I tend to be very anal-retentive and in some areas of my life this is a good thing but others I need to relax. I also find that when I am upset about something I don't always recognize the true source and then get fixated on little things that really is not the issue. Unfortunately my poor husband is left scratching his head trying to figure out what is wrong. I have lately been praying for control over these outbursts. I seem to be having them more frequent. This weekend we are going to Va to see my stepdaughter graduate from High School. This sounds great but all I am thinking is I will be spending the whole weekend with his ex-wife. We see and do things with his ex-in-laws quite abit. I got used to this but I still have issues with his ex. We even use to work in the same department 9 years ago. Anyway we are also helping them pack up the uhaul because they are moving back here in upstate NY. I know this is my source of the current outbursts and eating was the old response. Now I tend to exercise more so that helps to calm me.
Just reflecting on behaviors and triggers in my life. Now working on an action plan to not get stressed out and take steps backward.
Take care Everyone
Tressa
One of the first things they teach us in Life Coach training is to begin to ask ourselves questions when we are trying to make decisions .. Example .. your angry .,.. your in the car and you drive by a Burger King ,..... You know in your Fat Girl Heart that a Whopper would sure make you feel better. This is when you need to start asking the questions, Why ... why do I feel the way I do ? What led up to this anger ? What triggered it and how can I tame it , Then you keep driving by that BK and work things out ,
I pray that you can get your emotions in check , It can happen , Sometimes the devil finds us at our weakest moments and he let;'s us have it ,, shows us our worthlessness , tells us that it's NOT going to be OK . . I rebuke him at every corner ,,, I am starting now not to allow any negative thoughts to permeate my mind ,
Keep working those anger issues and our burst to control . You can do this ,
Best to you ,
Tink
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Topic: RE: My WOW Moment
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I know that was an incredible feeling for u. Trust me we all understand and embrace that wow moment with u. Congrats! Keep up the good work...
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Hugs and kisses Molly...
BRE visit http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/changedforGodforlife/members. Check out Fairfileld County Bariatrics WTNH, www.wtnh.com/dpp/ct_style/health_fitness/fairfield-county-bariatrics. Topic: RE: Learn to comfort yourself.
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I like this...for me, getting a pedicure is sooooooo relaxing and soothing and I enjoy one at least every two weeks. So thank u for this post...
BRE visit http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/changedforGodforlife/members. Check out Fairfileld County Bariatrics WTNH, www.wtnh.com/dpp/ct_style/health_fitness/fairfield-county-bariatrics. Topic: RE: Venting about my mini binge yesterday......
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Hey Molly,
Thanks for your honesty in this post. You are more of an inspiration than u know. I learn so much through your posts and ask that you continue to do 'you.' Taking one day at a time and knowing that each day gives you another chance to do just that. God bless...
Thanks for your honesty in this post. You are more of an inspiration than u know. I learn so much through your posts and ask that you continue to do 'you.' Taking one day at a time and knowing that each day gives you another chance to do just that. God bless...
BRE visit http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/changedforGodforlife/members. Check out Fairfileld County Bariatrics WTNH, www.wtnh.com/dpp/ct_style/health_fitness/fairfield-county-bariatrics. Topic: RE: LIFESTARTS- WLS HERO OF THE MONTH !!
BRE visit http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/changedforGodforlife/members. Check out Fairfileld County Bariatrics WTNH, www.wtnh.com/dpp/ct_style/health_fitness/fairfield-county-bariatrics.
Awesome story TIFF. You look AMAZING! Thanks for sharing such an incredible journey...
BRE visit http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/changedforGodforlife/members. Check out Fairfileld County Bariatrics WTNH, www.wtnh.com/dpp/ct_style/health_fitness/fairfield-county-bariatrics. Topic: RE: MOTIVATIONAL QUOTE FOR TODAY
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Nice!
BRE visit http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/changedforGodforlife/members. Check out Fairfileld County Bariatrics WTNH, www.wtnh.com/dpp/ct_style/health_fitness/fairfield-county-bariatrics. Topic: RE: 4 Signs It's Time to Step Off the Scale
BRE visit http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/changedforGodforlife/members. Check out Fairfileld County Bariatrics WTNH, www.wtnh.com/dpp/ct_style/health_fitness/fairfield-county-bariatrics.
This is a good write up! Thanks for sharing...
BRE visit http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/changedforGodforlife/members. Check out Fairfileld County Bariatrics WTNH, www.wtnh.com/dpp/ct_style/health_fitness/fairfield-county-bariatrics. Topic: RE: I'm learning new things about myself....
BRE visit http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/changedforGodforlife/members. Check out Fairfileld County Bariatrics WTNH, www.wtnh.com/dpp/ct_style/health_fitness/fairfield-county-bariatrics.
Hey Sessa,
Glad you are working out new behaviors for yourself. Remember to take one day at a time, because we have been this way for so long and cannot get discourage if we fall one day, just get back up again and try again.
Take for example, i love chocolate at that time of the month, instead of reaching for my good stand by Twix or Snicker bar, i have learned another healthier way of getting in that craving that I still get but had to stop and rethink what I was doing. Now at that time of the month instead of reaching for the chocolate bar, I reach for chocolate soymilk, which is healthier, full of calcium and protein, sweet and chocolatey and fulfilling.
Wishing you the best in your journey...
Glad you are working out new behaviors for yourself. Remember to take one day at a time, because we have been this way for so long and cannot get discourage if we fall one day, just get back up again and try again.
Take for example, i love chocolate at that time of the month, instead of reaching for my good stand by Twix or Snicker bar, i have learned another healthier way of getting in that craving that I still get but had to stop and rethink what I was doing. Now at that time of the month instead of reaching for the chocolate bar, I reach for chocolate soymilk, which is healthier, full of calcium and protein, sweet and chocolatey and fulfilling.
Wishing you the best in your journey...
BRE visit http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/changedforGodforlife/members. Check out Fairfileld County Bariatrics WTNH, www.wtnh.com/dpp/ct_style/health_fitness/fairfield-county-bariatrics. 
Topic: RE: 4 Signs It's Time to Step Off the Scale
Thanks! A wonderful article. I weigh daily and I am fine with ups and downs. I look at scale as very educational for me. My program had me weighing daily before surgery at 600 plus pounds. They recommended that I pay the extra money for a scale and before then Tink I had NEVER weighed myself to know what I weighed. My family is obese and my parents never had a scale at home. Which I found out later was very unusual. When I went to doctors office they did not have a scale for my size so I was in complete denial about my size and unfortunately my family and friends never made me feel different.
I never really got upset at scale because it was fine. I got down to 580 before surgery. Before surgery I often wondered if I had weighed myself daily, or even weekly would I have ever gotten to 600 plus pounds. With weighing daily before surgery I quickly learned what caused gains and what did not. I was told not to exercise no more than walking because my heart rate was very high just doing normal walking. They had me purchase a HR Monitor to gage heart exertion to keep me going.
Post surgery I see that whenever I don't weigh daily I gain weight over the week. I have did this over and over so now I just weigh myself daily and I only weigh once in the mornings. Most times I know exactly why I have gained weight. And my group director told us not to worry about 3 to 4 pound gains in one day--especially if we do not know why and he is right. He said consider anything over 3 as a possible true gain. It just helps me stay mindful and I never get down all day when I have a gain. I just keep the number in my mind when I am getting ready to make a bad food choice. I know weighing daily does not work for everyone but it is a anchor for me. Thanks again!
I never really got upset at scale because it was fine. I got down to 580 before surgery. Before surgery I often wondered if I had weighed myself daily, or even weekly would I have ever gotten to 600 plus pounds. With weighing daily before surgery I quickly learned what caused gains and what did not. I was told not to exercise no more than walking because my heart rate was very high just doing normal walking. They had me purchase a HR Monitor to gage heart exertion to keep me going.
Post surgery I see that whenever I don't weigh daily I gain weight over the week. I have did this over and over so now I just weigh myself daily and I only weigh once in the mornings. Most times I know exactly why I have gained weight. And my group director told us not to worry about 3 to 4 pound gains in one day--especially if we do not know why and he is right. He said consider anything over 3 as a possible true gain. It just helps me stay mindful and I never get down all day when I have a gain. I just keep the number in my mind when I am getting ready to make a bad food choice. I know weighing daily does not work for everyone but it is a anchor for me. Thanks again!
HW 611 Pre-opW 580 LW 302 GW 238
