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Vol. III Issue 9

On the Journey

SUPPORT YOUR WLS!

When we have weight loss surgery, our weight

changes and our health improves. But what

happens to the relationships in our lives? What do

you do if your family or friends do not support or

accept the new you?

Not only has your relationship with food changed,

your other relationships may change as well. Many

times when relationships and friendships are strong

and healthy before you had surgery, they will become

even stronger. Your interpersonal relationships will

change to some degree. The healthy ones will change

for the better, the not-so-good ones will fall by the

wayside, and in their place you will build new

relationships that are more positive for you.

Sometimes as you lose weight, the people in your life

can become uneasy. Those in your life may be

concerned that the changes in you can impact your

relationship with them. Change is hard for many of

us. It is common to want to keep things as they are,

enjoy the status quo, and confined within a certain

comfort level. Sometimes the reaction of those in

your life as you lose weight can be disappointing or

hurtful. Give them time to adjust. It is probably not

intentional, and they are not aware of the impact on

you.

It is important to understand that many people, not

just weight loss surgery patients, can find the surgery

and losing weight frightening. Your family and friends

may not be as supportive in the beginning because

they are concerned about the risks and complications.

Discussing the risks and providing the information and

materials you have researched or received from your

bariatric surgeon can help.

Despite your attempts at obtaining support and

understanding from your family and friends, they

might not support your decision to have weight loss

surgery. While disappointing, it doesn’t have to derail

your decision to have surgery and be successful.

You may find that as you become healthy and lose

weight, your identity within a relationship or even at

work as a larger sized person may make people feel

uncomfortable. It can cause others to question

themselves and be less satisfied with their own

cir****tances in their health.

If you have friendships that are bonded by bingeeating

buddies, that connection will change when you

have weight loss surgery. You are no longer able to

engage in your mutual, common pastime of eating.

Your friend may fear losing your friendship.

If you have people in your life that consistently

sabotage your new healthy habits and lifestyle, you

need to discuss it with them. Consider that some

people in your life may have a personal investment in

you being overweight. They may negatively feel

better about themselves if you are heavier than they

are. They may believe they are showing affection and

love by unwittingly sabotage your motivation. Explain

that you need positive and encouraging non-food acts

of their feelings for you. Do not listen to negative

comments, and be happy with yourself. Know that

the changes you have made are in your best interests.

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DISCLAIMER

: Information provided by this handout is for informational www.ObesityHelp.com/ohsupportgroups

purposes and is not medical advice. Only you and your doctor can

ObesityHelp Support Group Leader Program

determine what regimen meets your specific needs

. [email protected]

(866) WLS-INFO ext. 382 or (866) 957-4636 ext. 382

If you are having difficulties within your marriage or

relationship with your significant other, consider

marriage counseling. This will provide a way to

discuss and explore your feelings, and to set a new

path for your relationship.

Interpersonal relationships can also experience

unexpected changes as well. Many times this is a

result of those in your life experiencing regret,

sadness, or anger over the loss of the person they

knew before they had surgery.

Communicate openly and honestly about feelings and

issues that arise between you and others in your life.

Clear and effective communication is often the cure

for many ripples that occur after weight loss surgery.

State your needs without emotion, accusation, or

blame. You can share that it would mean a lot to you

if you had their support. You now have a precious gift

of good health and a higher quality of life. Your

weight loss and healthy lifestyle do not need to be a

threat to your relationships.

Another fulfilling way of obtaining support is with

support groups. ObesityHelp support groups are a

great way to obtain support. You will know that you

are not alone. You can connect with other weight loss

surgery patients and your ObesityHelp support group

leader. In a support group meeting you can share

experiences, information, obtain education, and gain

perspective on issues that arise. You’ll hear about

successes, frustrations, plateaus, and special WOW

Moments. You’ll also be able to interact with other

support group members that share the experience of

morbid obesity, the process of having weight loss

surgery, and creating a new healthy lifestyle.

The best motivation for success from your weight loss

surgery comes from you – inside. It also helps to

have support too. Create your own system of

support. Here are some suggestions for building and

designing your support system:

telephone calls, e-mails, and getting

together.

Stay in touch with family and friends by

feels awkward and uncomfortable at first.

Accept invitations to events, even if it

your family and friends how important

their support is to you.

Be a supportive friend yourself. Explain to

the lead and schedule a get-together.

Don’t wait to be invited somewhere. Take

organizations, exercise classes, or

volunteer.

Take part in community events,

You might be starting a new friendship.

Start a conversation with someone new.

Give family and friends time to adjust, and

continue communicating about the

changes each of you are experiencing.

You cannot control the reactions of people in your life

to your personal change, but you can support yourself

fully and completely. Stay motivated no matter what.

Keep your goals in mind at all times. Reflect on the

reasons you had weight loss surgery in the first place.

The longer you focus on changing your old habits that

made you heavy and replace them with new, healthy

ones, those in your life will notice. Allow the support

system you’ve created help you to achieve the new

heights of your weight loss surgery goals and success.

Try, try, try….don’t give up relationships.

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