HELP!!!!

Hello,

You reaching out here is a good 1st step.  You may need additional help.  So you need to seek out support groups, a therapist, etc.  We all can relapse but we can pick ourselves up and keep going.  But we have to REALLY WANT IT BAD ENOUGH to do the things necessary to get ourselves help.  We have to dig down deep. 

When we had WLS we knew it was just a TOOL but we really thought it would do all the work for us.  Now we see that is not true it is time for us to step up to the plate.  If we don't we will revert all the way backwards. 

I myself was at this point in March of this year.  The scale was moving in the wrong directions, clothes were getting too tight.  A few things happened and I said NO way can I continue to do this to myself.  I was sabotaging myself and I put the breaks on it. 

I started back posting to OH.com after a 3 year absence.  I started back going to my support group meetings and I do the telephone support group meetings also.  I joined several groups on OH.com.  One of them being Back on Track Together.  They have a print out of excellent information on how to get back on track.  If we spend 30 min to an hour on OH.com each day this will keep you mindful of the direction you want your life to go.  Whether you lurk or post.  I personally feel posting is more beneficial because you will needed encouragement and feedback.  If you never communicate then you are alone with your self and you feelings and you need to vent and let it out.  We have demons within us that will sabotage WLS.  If we don't do our part we will be back to square one.  That is why I seeked out help because I was not going back to square one.

We can gather information but if we are not willing to apply it or try to apply it we will continue to be lost.  Sure we will not be perfect and we will not succeed every time, but we have to KEEP on trying and never give up on ourselves. 

You can do this!!  Positive thoughts and thinking is very useful.  If you don't have this you will not have the belief that you can turn this around for the better.  Hope this helps and hang in there.  We are here for you, just reach out and we will be there.

You are definitely not in the boat alone.  I have lapband and had to have it completely deflated twice, which means I had no restriction at all.  Instead of staying focused, I used it as an excuse and gained back 40 pounds.  Then comes the guilty.  Finally, I said enough is enough.  I did not go through this surgery to convert back to where I began.  I sat down and created a list of five motivational goals.  Then I wrote them on three index cards.  One I put in my purse, one on the bathroom mirror, and one on my desk.  I realize it will not be easy but I have to give it my best.  I think acknowledging the situation is the first step.  Then you have to plan your game plan.  I know you can do it.  This is a great support system also.