“Don't listen to anyone who tells you that you can't do this or that. That's nonsense. Make up your mind, you'll never use crutches or a stick, then have a go at everything. Go to school, join in all the games you can. Go anywhere you want to. But never, never let them persuade you that things are too difficult or impossible."

Gwladys  Douglas Bader quotes (British World War II pilot)

  I love this quote ,  So many people told me I would fail at this WlS thing ,, you all have heard this I am sure ,, " I know someone who had that surgery , and she did this ,, or she did that " My sister was so against me doing this surgery ,
She kept saying I was going to die by starvation .,.. Yada Yada ... Now ,, she is my biggest fan .

Did anyone of you have someone in your life that tried to hold you back ? How did you handle it .
What suggestions would you give to others that are faced with this ? 

Happy Monday to you all ,
Love ya ,
Tink

Great quote...that I had to reply again

I had an x-boyfriend who tried to put me down always.  He said I would never be anything or never accomplish anything in my life. That was 15 years ago.  I accomplished everything that he spoke against in my life.  I have succeeded where he has regressed and gone down.  So dont accept anything but the positive in your life.  AND MAKE IT HAPPEN FOR U!

My brother and I are very close. My sister went home to be with the Lord 28 years ago and ever since then my brother and I have been close. He was not for me having the surgery. I know he was concerned out of the love he has for me. He is know also my biggest fan. I also went into my surgery knowing God would be holding my hand, the surgeons hands and knowing that He would be taking care of me. I prayed about my brother's concerns and put it in God's hands.


May God bless you and keep you
In Christ
Karyn

I have to say that mainly my mother and sisters were supportive of my choice for WLS. My husband was not. I listened to him as he told me that it was the easy way out, how I was going to leave him if I lost the weight, how I could fail and gain it all back, how he felt that I was using the insurance company and how he worked 20 years for our insurance ect...so on and so forth.

My decision was for me, I knew I must do this so that I could have a chance to survive. Honestly, I just let it go in one ear and out the other. I know that I should not have ignored him or his concerns but I was not going to let him hold me back from such a wonderful opportunity that I had. The reason that he said those things to me is because he was insecure, controlling and wanted me to change my mind. I didn't let it stop me, in fact it made me push on even harder.

Now, he brags about how well I have done and he wants to do things with me.

My suggestion is that you have to do what is right for you.  You and only you,  know how you feel and what quality of life that you have. I know absolutely that was the second best decision I have made, First was having my daughter. I wish everyone the best of luck with their journey.

susan