Tricks for social situations

This is gonna be a busy weekend for me. My only (non stepbrother or sister's) niece is getting married tomorrow. My family is a bunch of lushes...they all like to drink, party and eat!

We went to the rehearsal dinner last night (about 60 people...only two knew about surgery, my husband and my daughter) and there was tons of family, food and liqueur.

I was nervous that someone would notice or question my eating, because I have always been a big foodie and a big drinker.

It ended up being great! I had to fib a couple times, but I figured that is fair play considering people were asking some personal questions....right???

Here it goes...

"why aren't you drinking?" - I'm the designated driver and I have to pick up my daughters friend later and I don't want to smell like liqueur
"you have to taste this wine"- If I have one sip and it's that good then I'll want more, so no thank you
"don't you want more appetizers?"-no I'm saving room for my main di****'s gonna be really yummy
"why aren't you eating your salad?"- it's Cesar, and I don't eat anchovies
"why aren't you eating the new salad with different dressing?"- the dressing is really sweet. I'll wait til the main coarse
"how come you didn't finish your dinner?"-it was just a wee bit over cooked, so I'm saving my appetite for dessert
"do you want dessert?"-yes, but only if someone shares with me
"you have to have champagne for the toast"- sure I'd love a small glass (*I tipped my glass for every toast, but never opened my mouth to let any go down the pipe..and no one even noticed my glass never went down...lol)

So I took a few bites of everything, made everyone try my food, so my plate looked more empty, and then pick at and scattered my food on the plate so it looked like it had been eaten on. I guess I just seemed like a picky biatch now, but at least I didn't have 60 people asking me about weight loss surgery all night.

The wedding is tonight...I hope my tricks from last night work again!

PS. Soon people will get used to the new picky, healthy, skinny Becca and It will be easier (I hope)

oooh....good good advice. I'll be using your lines since I don't want to talk about it with others either. i'm curious, how did the sweets work???? Did you WANT to eat, did you WANT to taste the wine???Did the smell of anything that you used to love, turn your tummy? Let us know how tonight goes???:)D

My tummy actually has no problem with sweets. Although I do feel physically tired after. The sugar drains me.

The smell of food doesn't do much for me. I sample food when I want to try something and then just account for the calories. If I have already used quite a few calories one day, I will put a bite size portion away for the next day. Food actually isn't fun for me anymore. Two bites and I'm full...and I mean FULL!!!!

I have been doing so well losing weight, I'm scared to branch out too far from my normal diet with extras(ie. sweets, alcohol, bread)... I just have like a dime size taste of these once in a while. Haven't had any alcohol yet. I might have a sip tonight and see how it affects me....then again I'll probably be too full from the two bites of dinner to fit anything else in!!!

This is great advice.  Today was my birthday, and Iwanted cake and ice cream SO badly.  My fiance found sugar free brownies and frosting, along with ice cream.  It was all delicious, and my family agreed.  For dinner we had breakfast.  My mom made me french toast (wheat bread, egg, sugar free syrup), and it ws good too!  This is the first time I've branched away from eggs, beans, protein shakes.  Everything seems fine so far...we'll see.

I don't get full as easily as Becca does.  I'm jealous!  I can eat a whole egg with cheese and a piece of toast in one sitting.  Then I get hungy in a few hours.  I still WANT all that yummy food I used to eat.  I miss it, but I'm findng that there are alternatives that are just as good.

Good luck to everyone!

PS-Cheers, Becca!  nice job on not drinking!

                                                                    HAPPY BIRTHDAY  


Glad you enjoyed your birthday dinner (aka breakfast). The social situations and festivities are going to take some getting used to.

Where did you fiance find the sugar free brownines? Did he make them? Sounds good...yum

The brownies and frosting were both by Pilsbury in the baking aisle at Ralphs.  The brownies were just like a regular brownie mix.  I bet you can find them anywhere.  They were yummy!

Thanks for the birthday wishes!

hey Becca....thanks for all off the good info and tips.....I guess we really have to look at our new stomach as that insurance policy and take care of it...I think I will be like you and not branch out too much..I'm getting ready to play for a very large and touching church service that is dedicated to the 9/11 event. The pieces that I'm playing are very challenging so I better sign off and go warm up my fingers....hugz:)D

Last night was a disaster (for my VSG). BUT at least the wedding was incredible and a total success...so beautiful and true to form...one big ass party! I have the most incredible family

Things I learned last night are...

1. wine burns...never again! OUCH OUCH OUCH
2. there are finally some foods my body doesn't like (cold cactus salad)...threw up in my mouth...on the way to the bathroom
3. I'm a HUGE dancer..I totally get my groove on...never again after eating...I felt so sick...threw up in my mouth again!
4. I burp and gurgle after eating (it's just the norm now), but tight spanx makes it 10 times worse. And all that constriction gave me gnarly gas (TMI)

Please share social tips, if you ladies have any. The social part is the hardest for me!
 

Last night I went out to a comedy club, and I ordered cranberry juice.  To make me feel fancy the waitress brought it to me in a wine glass.  It looked legit :)

I had two parties this weekend to ..I just made sure that i ate before i left and also just had ICE Chips! it helped and everything people asked me if i wanted I said no thank you and noone really said anything after that... Sooo im trying! Got my hubbies birthday party on the 17th and wedding on the 18 WOW!!! will see how that goes!