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But, on reflection, life was not bad after I lost that absinence. No, I did not go a single day without having an eating "mistake" or slip ( as I prefer to call it ). I actually lost a few pounds between the end of May when I finished Becks and Oct when I got weighed again.I gained 3 lbs over the holidays which I found when I went back to the doc's on 01-08-10. I just saw the doc on Fri and had lost 4 lbs.
I'm losing weight by just trying most of what I learned on Becks. I'm taking Becks a program a Day per calendar week so I can review the program slowly and still aspire to following it as closely as I can. I don't plan on eating binge foods. Most of the time I can avoid cravings because of the lessons I've learned. However, when I get to the point where I feel like I'm ready to climb the walls--remember that I am mentally ill with manic-depression-- sometimes it's just better for me to have the smallest portion possible of an addicting food. I usually have my wife get me something from her hidden treasure trove. I've asked her to hide my favorite addicting foods. Or, I'll ask her to get a small sample at a convenience store. If I don't have it while I'm feeling that way, I sometimes go back to old behavior patterns like literally banging my head against a wall. That hurts! Or, I start getting depressed despite my meds. I have to balance my physical and mental needs based on personal experience and my level of craziness at that moment. Thanks to Becks, I can usually get by without having the addicting food. But, if I do, I just acknowledge that I am a food addict and I forgive myself for my slip. Yeah, since the eating mistake is due to my illness of addictive eating, I shouldn't need to forgive myself. But, I'm a Roman Catholic and we're very big on Sin and Redemption and assigning blame.
You are absolutely right the book was written for anyone and we do have a special cir****tance where as it may not be the wisest thing to do skipping a meal. At this point in time I cannot do that either mentally or physically.
None of us are perfect we just do the best we can and keep on moving
Good you are back that says a lot...
Melva
I hope everyone has a good night tonight, and a good day tomorrow. I will try to get on but can't promise. My neice is being inducted into the honor society or something like that tomorrow and it is going to take most of my day.
Bob, I think letting your wife choose the primary meal is defiantly in your best interest, LOL If it will keep the wife happy that’s an ingredient for a safe/happy marriage. Some keep track of Cal. and Pr. on paper and some can just keep a tally going in their head the important thing is being aware of what you are eating, right! I have to use paper there’s too much else going on for me to rely on my brain to track the numbers.
About exercise, well I understand the lazy and bull headedness, I have just started back to the gym after not being there in more than a year and in that year my exercise was pretty much hit and miss. Lack of exercise is what got me in trouble in the first place and back then I did not have any limitations, I have a few now but I try not to let them hold me back from being active.
I’m sure with your limitations it must be hard, I just feel so much better about myself when I exercise or just move around. If I just sit in front to the tube or computer all day by evening I feel as if I have wasted the day and if I don’t make plans for the next day it’ll be wasted too.
My Motto…. If we don’t make time to do anything most times that’s what we do…. is nothing....I am speaking from experience here.
I agree with you on the skipping of meals and eating as fast as you can, this day was not written for those of us that have had WLS. We all certainly need to use wisdom and skip any day that may conflict with our health or well being., but not skip them just because we can't be bothered to do the step.
I personally don’t have a problem missing a meal or even two because most of the time I am not hunger, what I have is head hunger I eat because I have to, to be healthy. I did choose to do Day 12(skipped my lunch) and did just fine. Day11 was more of a challenge that day 12.…I survived both of them.
2nd time started 03/23/2010 -
Heres what I will do daily to succeed:
Read Advantage Lists 2 xs a day or more if needed
Sit Down, Slow Down, Enjoy Each Bite
Credit myself
Be accountable here daily
Exercise is not an option
Be aware of cravings and desires
Plan meals today for tomorrow
2 I don't schedule exercise because my knees are shot. I have trouble doing almost any exercise. I can't do water exercises due to skin reactions. I can do strength work and use resistance bands. Maybe I don't schedule the exercise periods because I'm basically lazy and bullheaded.
3 I don't schedule activities because I haven't worked since 07-02-92 due to manic-depression. That's what it was called then and my shrinks haven't changed that designation, I simply refuse to make a rigid schedule for myself. I don't have to find time to do anything since I have all the time in the world. I can't multitask at all. I don't feel any pressure due to too few time in the day. My friends and family know that I'm in a strange place compared to them because I simply don't feel any time constraints on time on a regular basis.
I confess that I can't do this program perfectly. Huh? I'm manic-depressive and besides being on meds which allow me to function ( but not work), I have had years of talk therapy in the past. One thing I learned is that I can't try to be a perfectionist since it sets me up for a bad mental fall. For me, it's better to have an occasional bite of addictive food than to go nuts stying abstinate. I know that this is contrary to what an addictions counselor would recommend but I have to do what is best for me.
After I finished the program last year, I made eating mistakes every day but I usually didn't make major mistakes. I had occasional binges like eating a whole bag of chips over a weekend. Prior to surgery, a binge was having that on a daily basis along with a half gallon of ice cream every day or two with candy and other junk. Meals were usually 2-3 helpings. I simply can't even imagine eating like that--I used to eat about 7,000 cal per day with little or no activity.
I found last year that I was consistently losing weight while eating 1,400 to 1,600 cal per day. Women can generally consistently lose by eating 1,000 to 1,200 cal per day. Talk to your doctor if you plan on eating less than that.
I simply couldn't so some of the steps that Dr Beck proposes yet I was still successful. I'll post about that.
Melva, I agree that when we help each other by supporting or encouraging it also helps us, we need each other to lean on, to pull each other up. That is what is so great about groups like this.
My choice is to see this program to the end and once the 6 weeks is up I will still continue to work on the days that need improving or tweaking. I choose to stay focused and re train my thinking, re program my WL journey.
I have finally accepted that the way I was trying to lose in the past did not work well for me BUT I am pretty sure that this Cognitive Therapy is the missing link in my foundation. I am in the process of rebooting my thinking so I can get to goal and be healthy.
2nd time started 03/23/2010 -
Heres what I will do daily to succeed:
Read Advantage Lists 2 xs a day or more if needed
Sit Down, Slow Down, Enjoy Each Bite
Credit myself
Be accountable here daily
Exercise is not an option
Be aware of cravings and desires
Plan meals today for tomorrow
sjbob, thanks for the advise its good to hear from those that have been this route once or twice before. I will certainly check out your forum. Feel free to drop in at any time
Melva, I weigh every morning, I use to do it weekly but found I would get on and see I was up 2-3 pounds and then get discouraged and not get on again for 2-3 weeks.
I am thinking that I need to revamp my food plan, it has been a bit of a hit and miss with me.
Free thanks for popping in and letting us know. I hope that a few of the 60 members that you spoke of will come out from lurking…I’m sure they have lots of valuable information that they could share with us.
2nd time started 03/23/2010 -
Heres what I will do daily to succeed:
Read Advantage Lists 2 xs a day or more if needed
Sit Down, Slow Down, Enjoy Each Bite
Credit myself
Be accountable here daily
Exercise is not an option
Be aware of cravings and desires
Plan meals today for tomorrow
Ok I am for whatever it takes to make this happen for all of us
I read a lot of our blogs they were beautiful and so many of them touched home sounding like me, junk food junkie not in support trying to carry the weight all alone, you name it it was me.
We can do this and it sounds like we have some strong members in the group.
Let me know if I can be doing more we are gonna make this happen.
This is how I feel when I am writing talking or whatever helping others I hear myself and that reinforces to me what I need to do. What I do is read my advantages several times a day. If your advantages are strong enough they will keep you going even when you don't want to. Your advantages are your foundation to your success. Think of it this way if you were building a home it's absolutely necessary to have the foundation first, without the foundation that home would not last. Well we work in the same way. We've all had or having some sort of WLS. In the beginning that tool given to us at surgery, worked well for the 1st 6 months or more. After that we have to use our foundation or newly learned behaviors to keep us going on our chosen paths for the rest of our lives.
It's all about Choices Choose to be Healthy and Happy, or choose the alternative..
What is your Choice?
What are your thoughts???
Melva
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