Becks Diet Solution
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2nd time started 03/23/2010 -
Heres what I will do daily to succeed:
Read Advantage Lists 2 xs a day or more if needed
Sit Down, Slow Down, Enjoy Each Bite
Credit myself
Be accountable here daily
Exercise is not an option
Be aware of cravings and desires
Plan meals today for tomorrow
Giving my self credit is hard because it seem to be a form of bragging and I was taught to never brag as a child. Giving myself credit for most things is challenging especially when these are things I know I should be doing in the first place. Like exercising every day or not having the extra ****** .
Because I tend to be a perfectionist I dwell more on what I did wrong rather than what I did right! Oh ,so much for this perfectionist to work on! LOL
We need to focus on the things we do right instead of beating ourselves up over things we did wrong.
I read that Gratitude can help people with depression. Studies have shown that people who focus on gratitude are helped within weeks... if they write down 5 things they are truly grateful for. I will give my self credit for 5 things no matter how small or insignifiacant I feel it is
I will continue to find reasons to credit myself to enforce the positive changes I am making.
Reading my Advantage list twice today
Being accountable to this group
Making TBDS a proirity in my life today
Realizing that I still need a day or two before I move off of day 25
Revisiting some days that need more work
2nd time started 03/23/2010 -
Heres what I will do daily to succeed:
Read Advantage Lists 2 xs a day or more if needed
Sit Down, Slow Down, Enjoy Each Bite
Credit myself
Be accountable here daily
Exercise is not an option
Be aware of cravings and desires
Plan meals today for tomorrow
Day 3 revisited
I find that I tend to pick at food as I am making my plate or my families plates, eating an extra slice of whatever while I am preparing my plate. It seems I always have food in my mouth as I am walking to the table with my plate in hand. I have never been aware of this before! Darn extra calories!
I am considering chewing gum at these times and while I am preparing meals that I would have a tendency to pick at.
I do not sit at the table for breakfast or lunch because I am alone so I eat infront of the TV or at the computer, today I sat at the kitchen table and I plan on setting that table for myself every day.
I am also at supper times trying to keep the conversation going so that I am forced to eat slowly.
2nd time started 03/23/2010 -
Heres what I will do daily to succeed:
Read Advantage Lists 2 xs a day or more if needed
Sit Down, Slow Down, Enjoy Each Bite
Credit myself
Be accountable here daily
Exercise is not an option
Be aware of cravings and desires
Plan meals today for tomorrow
Bob thanks for sharing. Reminds me of one night I was packing his lunch and for every cookie that I put in his lunch one went in to my belly, I told him the next day that if he would like such thinks in his lunch he could purchase them and keep them in his truck or at work. He just laughed. So I never no if he has cookies for lunch or not and I don’t ask.
My hubby has a 32" waist and never has had weight issues, and really could care less about junk food….. lucky guy!!
April, Thank you for putting my feelings in your post “
I use to have a saying that I would use “feel the fear and do it anyways" hmm it never worked than and its not working now.
Dealing with day 25 is like taking my security blanket away and I’m not really sure that I want to give it up…I know I have to but….I know when I convince myself that I will survive and after I have acknowledged and deal with those sabotaging thoughts I will be 100% better off.
I have become frozen in fear", is exactly how I feel.I’m sorry you are feeling down, I think some of it has to do with the dirt the CT is digging up because I feel that way too. The last few days I find myself just wanting to cry…a healing cry if that makes since.
Keep going April I know you have some other personal things going on but these feeling cant last for long.
Melva, thanks for the reassuring words and your strength. Glad to hear your doing good sticking to your food plan. Were you able to resist the unplanned eating yesterday? Remember your cold water tip that you gave us when that happens again.
WE CAN DO IT!!!
2nd time started 03/23/2010 -
Heres what I will do daily to succeed:
Read Advantage Lists 2 xs a day or more if needed
Sit Down, Slow Down, Enjoy Each Bite
Credit myself
Be accountable here daily
Exercise is not an option
Be aware of cravings and desires
Plan meals today for tomorrow
As You Know I am on my 2nd day and so far ok. I do find I have to give myself a lot of credit. Yesterday for some reason i wanted to eat off my diet. I wasn't hungry or craving just wanted what was not on the plan. I think it is a good idea to stay on a certain day or 2, for reinforcement because there is a lot of ways to cheat yourself, understanding and rationalizing will help that issue.
Pull out the response cards and Just Do It.
We are all scared, I know I don't wanna regain my weight I risked my life to lose. My goal is to finally reach my goal.
It's ok to be scared, scared enough to stay on track , think of the alternative...
Melva
Welcome to the group, my name is Melva. Welcome to the issues we all have. Lori you will find we are all supportive here we all have issues we work on daily. Everyone I have talk to here has their ideas on the way we need to respond to eating and ideas on how to make it work for you.
I had never hear of Bec****il came to this group Free started, it is fantastic.
Start in the beginning and go day by day it works it makes you think why when and where. I am not gonna tell you it's easy but its worth it.
I am only on my 2nd day of the actual diet, the prep which is the 1st 14 days, I lost 10#'s. I am happy, it only makes common sense, before you eat you think it out.
As Free would tell any of us jump in we are all here to help.
Melva
Today I'm re-visiting Day 1
I am posting my ARC here reluctantly as a reminder to me of why I'm willing to make the effort to do the things I need to do in order to reach my goals.
Reading my list each day will continue to motivate me, and help keep me on track and moving forward... towards my goals of health and fitness.
Advantage Response Card
1. To prove that I have not failed my surgery
2. Will be healthier
3. Will be able to have a choice of nice clothes to buy
4. Will be proud of myself-less critical more self esteem and confidence
5. Will have more energy
6. Will like what I see in the mirror, feel more confident naked
7. Will live to be in my 90s and be in good health
8. Will be in control of my life and the food I eat
9. Will be more confident about my appearance
10. Will look and feel younger
11. Move my wedding ring from my baby finger to my ring finger
12. Will be able to paint my own toenails
13. Will get up off the floor and couch gracefully
14. Will enjoy a bath with out the dam
15. Will feel comfortable in my skin, looking forward to feeling bones (hips, ribs)
16. Will like what I see in photos of me
17. Will not be constantly focused on dieting, and able to focus on other aspects of my life
18. Will be able to run with confidence
19. To acknowledge that food does not equal love
20. To do this for me!!!! I’m worth it!!!!
21. Realize food only numbs the situation, does not solve a thing
22. Will stop sabotaging myself and know that I am worth it!
24. Shop in higher end clothing store and feel that I belong there
23. Get rid of back fat / back boobs
25. Will be in control of my life and not feel I have to control others
26. Will enjoy physical intimacy more
27. I will have a normal BMI, not MO
28. Be able to focus on other aspects of my life
2nd time started 03/23/2010 -
Heres what I will do daily to succeed:
Read Advantage Lists 2 xs a day or more if needed
Sit Down, Slow Down, Enjoy Each Bite
Credit myself
Be accountable here daily
Exercise is not an option
Be aware of cravings and desires
Plan meals today for tomorrow
What I mean about having your husband help you with your food demons is that he can allow your family to have some of your trigger foods nearby as long as they are not available to you. For example, he can hide them in a toolbox or workbench. When my wife hides food and I really want it, I'll go in the opposite end of the house and have her bring me a small sample. That way I can have a small bowl of chips without eating the whole family sized bag.
I guess you can ask your husband to try to eat his favorite foods that may turn you on when he's out with friends or if he takes any kids out without you. Until you can tolerate having addicting food near you without eating it, that may be the safer route. I personally don't have to cook for nor treat a family, so I can't help as far as those problems go.
My wife can gently remind me that I am currently trying to stay away from addicting foods. However, I almost drive her nuts as I waiver with my intent. Remember that I am manic-depressive. It's not an excuse for my eating, but she's somewhat used to my behavior. She knows that I can become agitated if I get frustrated. I've started having micro fits of anger where I'm yelling for a couple minutes or banging on walls or appliances. For both of our sanity it may mean that I should not be too strict on my eating restricions. Again, we've been married for 35 years and know our behaviors fairly well. Just let me say that despite my agitation, I have NEVER hit my wife. God, I can't even imagine doing something like that. And, If I do have a flare-up, I try to make up with her before we go to bed that night.
I have had a few days of being down in the dumps, and it seems that I just don't care. I still have to follow my plan for the most part or I will get sick, but I don't know how to handle the I don't care feelings.
